XP: anyone with toddlers...need advice?
DD just turn 2 in march and has gotten into the habit of blaming people for things. normally, this would be no big deal for a 2 year old, but she blames people when she's hurt or has a boo-boo. example, she was jumping on DH this afternoon and his belt scratched her. she started crying and said 'daddy hit me,' when she was the one who was jumping on him on the floor. another example, every time she has a scratch, bruise, boo-boo, anything really, she blames a little boy at school. even if it's a boo-boo i've seen her get at home. after she blames the little boy at school and you tell her that he didn't hurt her, she'll blame someone else. 'maw-maw did it' (meaning grandma). she'll literally go down the line of people she knows and blame them. i'm sure this is just a phase, but i really worry about her going around telling people that other people are hurting her.
advice? ideas?
Re: XP: anyone with toddlers...need advice?
yep, just hoping to get as much advice as possible...thanks!
I think it's a normal phase. ?DS does it occasionally, though not regularly. ?I just ignore it or make a joke out of it (e.g. today he told me the fire truck hit him). ?He will also sometimes pretend that his toys (e.g. cars) are hitting/pushing each other. ?When that happens, we pretend that the offending car has to go to timeout and then say sorry to his "friends." ?
Does your DD go to daycare? ?I assume DS's "tattling/blaming" thing may be associated with daycare. I just try to roll with it and not make a big deal about it. ?I'm sure it's just a phase.
yes, she goes to daycare. i agree that maybe she's picking it up from there. i told DH that maybe when something happens they ask who did it...?? like, 'who hit you?' and maybe that's why she's coming up with random names. she almost always blames a boy from school named Aiden for EVERYTHING. so maybe he's a little bully..i'm not sure.
right now we just say, 'no, maw-maw didn't do that' and try to make her realize that they didn't hurt her. when she said DH hit her today i just said, 'no, daddy didn't hurt you, it was just an accident, you jumped on daddy.' i'm trying to make her realize that things are accidents...but that's probably not going to work if she doesn't understand what an accident means...