How do I not tell?

pennyandandy · May 2011

So, DH is pretty adamant about not telling anyone until after our first Dr.'s appt. which is not until July! But we will be seeing both his mom and my family the next 2 weekends in a row, and the 2nd weekend we are helping my parents move! How can I not tell my parents but not do any heavy lfiting in the moving process? Any ideas???

lawmom2be · May 2011

I told my close family (sisters, parents, in laws). Most of them would have their feelings extremely hurt if I kept it a secret, as my family is pretty close. Plus, I know I'd need their support if anything bad happened.

Gregermis · May 2011

we've only told a couple really close friends, my 2 sisters and one of DH's brothers. My sisters because I was visiting them in person and won't seem them again for awhile and his brother because that brother asks DH every time they talk if he's gotten me KU yet Confused . The friends that knew were the ones that were supporting me through my IF and IUI cycle (the ones on hold for giving me my trigger shot cuz no way I was doing that myself).

I realize you didn't ask for all that, but there you go.

For you... You could fake a back or hammy injury. Tell them it's nothing bad, but you tweaked it and are keeping an eye on it and taking it easy. You'll go to the Dr. if it doesn't clear up in a few days, etc... If they ask how you can hint that it might be related to sex and they should back off Wink

jobiann · May 2011

I know, DH wants to tell our families and I don't because of what happened last time. However he really wants to tell his Dad on father's day...we bought a onesie last time that says 'My Grandpa Rides a Harley'. So we might cave, especially if I can get a doctor's appointment in before then.

pennyandandy · May 2011

ChoicesMom:
Gregermis:

we've only told a couple really close friends, my 2 sisters and one of DH's brothers. My sisters because I was visiting them in person and won't seem them again for awhile and his brother because that brother asks DH every time they talk if he's gotten me KU yet. The friends that knew were the ones that were supporting me through my IF and IUI cycle (the ones on hold for giving me my trigger shot cuz no way I was doing that myself).

I realize you didn't ask for all that, but there you go.

For you... You could fake a back or hammy injury. Tell them it's nothing bad, but you tweaked it and are keeping an eye on it and taking it easy. You'll go to the Dr. if it doesn't clear up in a few days, etc... If they ask how you can hint that it might be related to sex and they should back off

Haha I love this!

LOL-that might do the trick!

pennyandandy · May 2011

ChoicesMom:

IMO the only reason not to tell a bunch of people is because it would be hard to untell them should something bad happen. If you think your family and his family would be a great support to you in that situation then I would try to convince you DH to let you tell them.

This, for the most part, but also because we know once we tell MIL she will tell EVERYONE. Their whole family has no privacy or barriers. They all share everything. We got a call a few weeks ago about DH's 2nd cousin, and her constipation issues. Really? Really?

That aside, DH does not want to tell my family and then not his. He doesn't think that's "fair." And I totally get that, it's not fair. But it's also not fair that we can't trust her to keep a freakin' secret.

I think I am going to tell my little sister in Madagascar first. I am pretty sure that she can keep it quiet, being that she is on a whole different continent Big Smile

curlycue704 · May 2011

We told both of our immediate families. Both sides have known we have been trying so we wanted to share the news. Both my best friend and his best friend and the girls at work know because when I told the office manager I had to go to the Dr on such short notice, it didn't take long for them to figure it out . I'm glad they know it's way to exciting to keep to our selves!

mcp0805 · May 2011

My MIL can't hold water either and that was the only reason I dreaded telling her - at 4 weeks I am not ready for the world to know!! We told them Friday and saw them again today. I think she mentioned 4 times that she hasn't told ANYONE yet, I think she's pretty proud of herself! Now if she can just keep that up for another 2 months or so, we should be all set!

It's really hard not to tell and I was kind of relieved to share with my mom so we could start talking baby stuff Smile

noryang · May 2011

I have absolutely no good advice. Wish I did because we are moving back to the U.S. in just a few weeks!!!!! My DH is the same way but it's KILLING me. I may have to fess up to my boss really soon though because I am starting to fel sick.

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