I have been BFing since the beginning, and in theory, everyone I know is supportive and says how great it is that I'm doing it. My problem comes when I'm practicing it. I have yet to be accepted BFing under a cover around anyone that isnt H. No matter who it is, I get strange looks as if it makes people uncomfortable to know I'm BFing. Because I want people to still come around and me not be isolated, I have been pumping when people come over, but it is such a pain and I really want to reach my friends so that I can BF without them being wierded out.
I am the only one of my friends anywhere near having a child, so I know we don't share common ground there. i just don't see how someone could be pro BFing, but yet against it. What are some suggestions to overcome this? I've even avoided NIP because my friends make it so awkward for me.
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I always went to a spare bedroom or something to nurse since I didn't want to make anyone uncomfortable. I hated that I had to, especially in the beginning when she nursed for sooooo long at a time, but it wasn't worth it to me to make them uneasy. Looking back I'm glad I did considering the conversation a friend and her b/f had on FB about NIP recently. I believe it concluded with they're not allowed to pee in public so they shouldn't have to see breasts in public
That's one of the thing I love about moms groups and playgroups, those are two places I never felt weird nursing!
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None of my friends ever saw a women breastfeed before. I just whipped it out (this was in the hospital and the first few weeks PP)! I could tell at first it was awkward but now they don't even blink. I'd ask them if they are uncomfortable. They'll likely say no and just laugh it off and say "I know it's odd if you've never been around it but it's really no big deal!"
I definitely agree that an LLL meeting or trying to find a Meetup.com group is a good idea.
Nordstrom is a great place to nurse if you are at the mall, I met a lot of Moms there myself.
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I've just never bothered to care much what people thought. I'm a HUGE advocate of BFing in public, because I think it is so important that women see other women nursing. I would think how I was paving the way to make it more normal for others (maybe my daughter's generation!).
Sadly, we didn't get to BF in public much because SOMEONE was/is way more interested in what is going on. I never apologized for nursing at my own home, but I did feel a little more awkward nursing at our small group Bible study (the intimacy of that setting made it harder, actually). I just used a blanket if I could, and kept a hand near her face (if she ripped off the cover), so that if the nipple got exposed, I could cover it.
I am currently the only mom in my playgroup who nurses sans Hooter Hider. No one has ever mentioned it to me, so I just act like it's normal!
Thanks for all of your help, ladies. When my bff was over and made things so awkward, I was doing my best to keep talking, looking at her, and acting like nothing was going on, but every half a second she'd glance down at my blanket where I was feeding. I'll def try to look into the sneaky NIP techniques so that nobody will realize that I'm nursing. Usually I'm not so shy, but the fact that my friends can't force themselves to get over nursing near them is kind of a shock to me that really put me off 'balance.'
I'm going to try to practice at my dad's house today where I know it's been done when I was a kid, so it won't be so awkward. Thanks again!
Good luck,
your friends will get use to it, and it is harder to nurse with a cover.
I think the biggest thing is practice. I agree that other mom groups are a good way to get there... we are really like in that there are BFing groups through our community health as a part of the government trying to increase BFing (go Canada!) I tried a cover for the first time today, since I wasn't wearing a shirt that was great for nursing and it was awful! (even though I got great compliments on how pretty the cover is from one of the other BFing moms.)
I do my best to arrange to feed LO before we are somewhere it would be weird, but it doesn't always work that way. And for social situations, well if you don't like it, we aren't really going to be able to spend all that much time together.
I also think that it is good for it to become more commonplace...
And as for your friend watching your boob... well babies are so cute, and if you aren't exposed to it nursing is kind of fascinating. I know my friends little kids came up and started at me feeding the baby... they were intrigued. I kind of like to think that is a more natural reaction than looking away or leaving the room...