"No, You can't hold my Baby!!!"

elisbu · May 2011

We took K to the lake yesterday just to get out of the house. We had such a good time and breeze was so nice that I didn't worry about getting too hot.

So DH is out in the water and I'm walking the shore line with K. A very pleasent looking lady comes up and taps me on the arm. I turn and she has her hands about a foot away from eachother and then points to K. (She didn't speak english) I make the tiny sign with fingers (you know: index finger about an inch from thumb) and I say "Yes, she is tiny"

Then this women holds her hands out to take K!!! Indifferent

I usually have such a hard time say no, and I even almost handed K to her! Then I realized this was not a time to be weak. She probably would have been fine, but I was not ready for a stranger to hold my baby, so I just shook my head no.

She looked back, kind of surprised and said "No??"
I said "No!"

Then I made DH come in and we left. Embarrassed

Incase you made it this far, here is a family picture from yesterday:

momma4jax · May 2011

I would totally say no and tell DH to get out and let's go too!! That would creep me out. I have a hard time with people I know holding DS let alone people I don't know who don't speak English!! Be proud of yourself for being able to say no.

kck329 · May 2011

I'm suprised you even have her out in public--good for you!

Our neos and pedi said we can't take C anywhere in public for 2 months after her discharge date. I'm going crazy trapped at home except for doctors appointments.

JUSTBEYOURSELF · May 2011

i would have done the same thing. you do not know this woman and she could have run off with her. no way. I know unlikely but you never know and she just might have been waiting for your dh to go into the water and she might have been playing that she does not speak english. I just would not take any chances.

kck329 ~ I have never heard of a dr asking for someone to not take a baby out for the first 2 months. Is it just cause your baby was a preemie?

I have had my little girl out from the day we were discharged. the only thing my pedi recommended was to not have her around anyone that is sick and limit her direct contact with only people that I know and that I know are not sick or just getting over from being sick.

iris427 · May 2011

I wonder if this was a cultural misunderstanding. Although I can understand why you wouldn't want someone holding your baby at this age, especially since she was a preemie.

h2ojock13 · May 2011

JUSTBEYOURSELF:
i would have done the same thing. you do not know this woman and she could have run off with her. no way. I know unlikely but you never know and she just might have been waiting for your dh to go into the water and she might have been playing that she does not speak english. I just would not take any chances.

This is exactly what I was thinking.. STRANGER DANGER!!!

elisbu · May 2011

iris427:
I wonder if this was a cultural misunderstanding. Although I can understand why you wouldn't want someone holding your baby at this age, especially since she was a preemie.

this is exactly why I almost let her hold K, still, I couldn't do it.

kck329 · May 2011

JUSTBEYOURSELF:

kck329 ~ I have never heard of a dr asking for someone to not take a baby out for the first 2 months. Is it just cause your baby was a preemie?

Yes, its because she is a preemie-most preemies have weaker immune systems and those that had to have breathing support are at a high risk for rehospitalization with any infection. I do realize that C was earlier than K so maybe different rules apply.

mzsparklepdx · May 2011

I would never let any stranger hold my baby for any reason. Why on earth would she ask?! How strange. I would have left immediately as well.

theaustins05 · May 2011

No "stranger danger" encounters yet, but we have had constant family company since we popped her out and DH has been very protective. While everyone has held her, it's only been one time each for very short amounts of time. I love his papa bear instincts.

nicolen0618 · May 2011

My stomach jumped into my throat just thinking about a situation where a stranger would ask to hold my little girl! Good for you for being strong and saying no!!!

EJensify · May 2011

kammmmay · May 2011

I would have done the same thing. There are so many freaking crazies around, I would never let a stranger hold my baby. Sure, coo at the baby all you want, but get too close and I will punch you in the throat. Or just run away with my baby.