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Why do I let myself get so conflicted about BFing?!

war_eaglewar_eagle
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With Lane, I hated nursing him (had to use a nipple shield and he would take forever to nurse), and I was EPing soon after I went back to work.  I stopped when he was five and half months old and he did great on formula.  I promised myself I would not make it such a big deal with a second kid, but here I am again.  This time I have a baby who nurses like a champ, but I want to quit for selfish reasons (want my body and hopefully a libido back, want to use Nuvaring, hope to shed my last bit of weight, want to wear underwire bras and not be so boobylicious, want to be able to take my migraine meds so I can drink a glass of wine).  Tate gets a couple of bottles of formula most days I'm at work b/c I only pump once a day there, and he does just fine with them.  Yet here I am, staring at my pump b/c he fell asleep without nursing like he normally does, going back and forth with if I want to stop or not.  I just keep thinking, what if he is my last kid and this means I'll be done forever?  

UGH.  Sorry, not much point to this.  Sometimes I feel some sort of resolution come on when I type out the ramblings in my head, but not tonight. 

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Re: Why do I let myself get so conflicted about BFing?!

  • +diana82++diana82+
    My opinion is unpopular but I don't think wanting to quit for any reason is selfish.  Especially if we're talking things like migraine meds, but honestly, if you don't want to do it don't do it.  GL with whatever you decide.
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    My opinion is unpopular but I don't think wanting to quit for any reason is selfish.  Especially if we're talking things like migraine meds, but honestly, if you don't want to do it don't do it.  GL with whatever you decide.

    I totally agree with you. The child will be fed, and thus will be fine. A sane and happy mom is just as important, at least IMO.

    I have a medical reason not to BF, and was advised to FF by my OB and DD's pedi. But honestly, I would have FF even without that justification. After two years of devoting my body to pregnancy, I wanted it back. Selfish? Maybe. But I'm happier and less stressed, and in the end I think that benefits DD as well.

    Good luck, and please don't guilt yourself on this one.

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  • war_eaglewar_eagle
    My head agrees with both of you, but my heart just isn't sure.  I think I worry I will regret it once I stop (but with Lane it was such a relief).
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  • JackiemknJackiemkn
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    My opinion is unpopular but I don't think wanting to quit for any reason is selfish.  Especially if we're talking things like migraine meds, but honestly, if you don't want to do it don't do it.  GL with whatever you decide.

    I totally agree with you. The child will be fed, and thus will be fine. A sane and happy mom is just as important, at least IMO.

    I have a medical reason not to BF, and was advised to FF by my OB and DD's pedi. But honestly, I would have FF even without that justification. After two years of devoting my body to pregnancy, I wanted it back. Selfish? Maybe. But I'm happier and less stressed, and in the end I think that benefits DD as well.

    Good luck, and please don't guilt yourself on this one.

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  • DrBeepersWifeDrBeepersWife member

    image+diana82+:
    My opinion is unpopular but I don't think wanting to quit for any reason is selfish.  Especially if we're talking things like migraine meds, but honestly, if you don't want to do it don't do it.  GL with whatever you decide.

    I agree.  I quit around 5.5 months and it totally changed my level of happiness. 

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