Random, just curious type question about bathing with lo

mrsfirefly · May 2011

I've taken a bath with DD, and I know moms take baths with baby boys. I don't find this weird at all. But I do find the thought of a dad bathing with a baby girl to be not creepy per se, but off putting. What do you think Pf this double standard?

mrsolsen2000 · May 2011

I know Dh wouldn't have a bath with DD. He has showered with her when she was around 6 months old but I stood right outside in case she got slippery and he insisted on wearing his swimming trunks lol! I guess it is a double standard. I don't think I would have a bath with my kid, boy or girl but maybe that's becasue the idea of poop in the tub scares me Stick out tongue

sophie206 · May 2011

DH sometimes took baths with DD when she was an infant, when she was too big for the infant bath but too little to sit up in the big tub. He always wore his underwear. Mostly I think he was afraid of her hurting him then for any other reason! Haha. I remember thinking that it might be looked upon as strange, but I felt perfectly fine with it so it worked for us.

LuckySunshineBaby · May 2011

Up until a few months ago, I would toss DD in the shower with DH. He would do a quick shower and it always helps when we have to leave the house quickly. I usually go get her outfit together/towels and he passes her off when she's done (the whole process takes all of 2 mins vs a bath which takes 20).

Somewhere after her 2nd birthday, DD started turning around (usually they both face the same direction and she holds one of the shower heads and he uses the other to spray her off). Once she started turning around, she took a smack at him and he was DONE. I heard a scream for my name and he was unamused. So, were done with that now that she is observing the differences between Daddy's and Mommy's.

FWIW, I was dying laughing. Dying.

ryry1977 · May 2011

I think I took baths with my dad until I wouldn't do it any more, so I guess I was probably pretty old (no clue to how old, maybe 5). My dad is great and I didn't think anything of it.

mrsfirefly · May 2011

Ha ha ha! These posts are cracking me up!

JOEBunny · May 2011

Total double standard. My DH hasn't bathed with the kids, but I wish he would. I am in the bathroom with them right now while they bathe. I would not find it creepy or weird if he were to wash them, even if it was with him. I do think DD is getting to the age where she needs to learn about privacy.

mabma80 · May 2011

DS would shower with DH all the time. DS#1 told DH yesterday that he wanted to do it by himself like daddy does in the morning when he's getting ready for work. : )

I know DH wouldn't bath/shower if we had a DD. But he'd give DD a bath in the tub or the baby tub. He'd have no problem with that. But that's him. I personally would never take a bath with DS or DD, if we had one. I just don't like taking baths with kids.

ToBeMrsT · May 2011

Dh showers with both of our kids every night. Obviously I don't see anything wrong with it.

The_Jen626 · May 2011

I don't think it's creepy or weird at all for a father to bathe with his children. At least, it's not any more creepy than me bathing with my own kids.

I worked part time up until a few weeks ago, and DH would get DD ready every morning and drop her off at daycare, while I was at work. He would take her in the shower with him almost every morning.

DD is getting to be aware that Mommy and Daddy have different parts, and DH is covering up now in front of her, and hasn't taken her into the shower with him in about a month...but i don't know if that's because I'm home with her now so I have more time to bathe her, or if he's suddenly uncomfortable with it.

Stacyc625 · May 2011

Just one of those double standards. I believe a lot of it has to do with cultural ties as well.

I just roll with what makes DH comfortable. That is the most important.

He is comfortable bathing the kids- (but not bathing WITH them- at least not DD)

i asked him tonight- he said he would be more apt to shower with DS over DD- (I can understand that)

I have bathed with both kids to save time- but that just goes back to the double standard of it being more acceptable- etc

jenifairies · May 2011

My DD is 3 and she still gets in the shower with DH (like if he forgets to lock the door, lol). It doesn't bother any of us. She takes them with me sometimes, too. It's quicker and easier.

LifeRemarkable · May 2011

I don't think I ever bathed or showered WITH my dad. I would imagine he would have been quiet uncomfortable with that. I think my Brother may have showered with my dad. I remember showering with my mom a few times. My brother and I bathed together until we were pretty old (we're a year apart)

DS is only 5 months so he obviously has no clue about gender yet. I almost always shower with him. He sits in the bumbo and once I'm down I spray him off from his neck down. H showers with him now and then.

I can't say for sure, but I'll probably be comfortable showering with S until he's 2-5 years old. (older if we have more kids simply because it would be easier)

I'd imagine H would be comfortable showering with him for a long time.

I think H would be comfortable showering with a girl for a year or so. Not much longer.

I have bathed with DS but only a few times. He loved it but he pooped too much

Emily_Ann · May 2011

We only have boys, but DH bathes with them fairly often - always on Sunday mornings. It's just easier. I put DS#1, he washes him while I'm getting DS#2 ready, then we trade. Knock on wood, neither has ever pooped in the tub. Smile We've actually talked about it before, and he said he'd bathe/shower with a girl, if we had one, until she was old enough to notice the differences.

As for me, I prefer not to bathe with my sons, although I have and do when necessary, but that has more to do with me wanting 2 seconds alone than male/female differences.

wheelsonthebus · May 2011

I have no problem with it at all. I don't think it is at all weird.

MrsBalletStar05 · May 2011

It bothers me when people think that it's ok for mom to do it but not for dad :-P

I've never taken baths with my boys, but taken MANY showers. Mostly, it was just out of convenience and just what worked at the time. At one point we lived in a house that only had a shower and DS#1 was way too little to do that by himself, so we'd always shower together and that was for a solid year. I think he showered with DH occasionally. Once we moved and had a nice bathtub, we transitioned him to bathing by himself. I wouldn't think it was odd for either parent to shower with either gender of child. I know that its really easy, and knowing how some kids can be with bath time and with water - I get it.

seanandcallie · May 2011

We both shower and take baths with Ella Grace. Sean has taken showers with her since she was a tiny bit. He would take her in at night when he got home from work so I could have some alone time.

celiabwatson · May 2011

So far I bathe with our son and my husband doesn't but it's mostly because I like baths and my husband doesn't. I also agree with the PP that my son breastfeeds and came out of me so there's nothing about my body that is foreign to him, although one time he tried to grab my pubic hair and I had to tell him that it was a one way street thank you very much.

My husband isn't ashamed at all to be naked in front of our son and I assume it would be the same with a daughter but I'm not sure. He does tend to cover up these days because our son is just the wrong height to grab and pull and that's uncomfortable.

Wow, that was a lot of weird stories all at once, sorry.

J&B2007 · May 2011

celiabwatson:
So far I bathe with our son and my husband doesn't but it's mostly because I like baths and my husband doesn't. I also agree with the PP that my son breastfeeds and came out of me so there's nothing about my body that is foreign to him, although one time he tried to grab my pubic hair and I had to tell him that it was a one way street thank you very much.
My husband isn't ashamed at all to be naked in front of our son and I assume it would be the same with a daughter but I'm not sure. He does tend to cover up these days because our son is just the wrong height to grab and pull and that's uncomfortable.
Wow, that was a lot of weird stories all at once, sorry.

haha.

JessesGirl&MackenziesMom · May 2011

I find it off putting too. I can't really back this up, and I know it's a double standard, but it's just a feeling I have.

DH takes morning showers and DD takes night baths, so it's never come up. She LOVES her tub - I showered with her a couple times but I feel like she enjoys the bath tub with me blowing bubbles at her much more. We will see what happens when she gets older and our schedule fills up and convinience becomes more important.

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