Formula Fed baby--flame me if you will

SAHM4EVA · May 2011

So 2 days ago we realized why my DD #2 has been horribly inconsolable, in pain, sick. etc... she has a very bad milk allergy just like my other DD and DH do. Well eliminating dairy from my diet is really hard, and I tried ith with DD #1 and even stuff with powederd dairy had to be eliminated. So we made the switch to formula yesterday with Soy in it and have noticed a difference overnight. But today I feel so guilty about it and I dont know why. Any moms who are strictly formula feeding ever feel this way, I mean I gave it a shot for 3 weeks but felt awful my baby was in that much pain all the time because of breastmilk. TIA.

h2ojock13 · May 2011

I'm allergic to dairy and I can't even cut it out of my diet completely. Its difficult. Your not going to get flamed from me, I wouldn't feel guilty. Find what works for you and your baby. If you noticed an overnight change, I would think you made the right choice.

Mrs.Saxy · May 2011

I gave up BFing right before 3 weeks because I just didn't have time to pump and DS's latch was painful and bad.

I felt awful with DS1, but with DS2 I don't.

mrbear83 · May 2011

I am headed this way - my supply is puny.

sparkymcgeee · May 2011

There's no shame in feeding a baby formula. As long as the baby is getting food that's all that matters and if soy is what she can tolerate then so be it. I hope she feels better now.

Callidryas · May 2011

meimsx:
There's no shame in feeding a baby formula. As long as the baby is getting food that's all that matters and if soy is what she can tolerate then so be it. I hope she feels better now.

Have a drink Drinks

and relax!

Lisa102304 · May 2011

Don't feel guilty. No reason to. Any person that flames you for how you feed your child is an idiot and not worthy of your time.

rapst1 · May 2011

Both my babies are strickly FF, and I didn't even try to BF. And, at first I did feel a little guilty. But, for me it was the right choice. I had a breast reduction a few years back and the Dr advised against BFing. But, PP was right in saying the baby being fed and having food is the most important thing.

kammmmay · May 2011

Oh my. I am so sorry that you're having to deal with that. Don't feel bad. There is no way I could completely cut dairy out of my diet. ALL of my meals have dairy in it. I'm glad she is doing better with the soy!!!

scaneiki · May 2011

BFing for me is so stressful and I know when I stop with DD I won't feel nearly as guilty as I did when I stopped with DS. I hate BFing.

kristennd · May 2011

mrbear83:
I am headed this way - my supply is puny.

Same here. Pumping as I type (hooray hands-free bra) and will get about 10 ml for 20 minutes work per side. He's eating 90 ml every 3 hours. I've been trying all sorts of supplements but none are having an effect.

Tinybride08 · May 2011

mrbear83:
I am headed this way - my supply is puny.

This. I've been exclusively breastfeeding but I came down with something on Friday and my supply has tanked. It's not looking promising that it's coming back up. I gave DD one bottle of formula on Friday night. She took to it fine but I hated giving it to her. It tastes awful.

mldsmile · May 2011

rapst1:
Both my babies are strickly FF, and I didn't even try to BF. And, at first I did feel a little guilty. But, for me it was the right choice. I had a breast reduction a few years back and the Dr advised against BFing. But, PP was right in saying the baby being fed and having food is the most important thing.

Same for me. My baby is strictly FF and I also had a breast reduction many years ago and knew BF would be a lofty challenge. My baby is gaining weight and doing fine!

ABCmom123 · May 2011

No judgment here! I have suffered with guilt from my supply issues with both DD1 & 2...this time when my supply seemed low/non-existent I just went right to formula with NO GUILT. I have 2 happy, healthy girls who were not affected by the toxic formula so I'm not wasting my time with guilt this time around!

Do what feels best for you and LO. Honestly...no reason to keep you both stressed/uncomfortable!

cherokeemomma87 · May 2011

One of my friends had the same problem. But her baby is allergic to soy and milk so they have to giver her a special ($$$) formula that agrees with her. When the doc told them why their LO was so fussy she felt horrible, like she failed some how. It took her about a month to realize that it wasnt anything that she did and that they were able to find out early and fix the problem before it did anything bad. And that the situation could have been a lot worse.

Dont feel guilty, LO is happy now and you can rest easy knowing that she is getting the nutrition that she needs and isnt in any pain. GL!!!

theaustins05 · May 2011

Lisa102304:
Don't feel guilty. No reason to. Any person that flames you for how you feed your child is an idiot and not worthy of your time.

as long as you feed your baby your a good mom in my book. We had to supplement a few feedings with LO until my supply came in, any longer and she might have gave up on my boobs anyWay.

aboleary34 · May 2011

rapst1:
Both my babies are strickly FF, and I didn't even try to BF. And, at first I did feel a little guilty. But, for me it was the right choice. I had a breast reduction a few years back and the Dr advised against BFing. But, PP was right in saying the baby being fed and having food is the most important thing.

Same with me! I had one nurse in hospital make me feel awful for having the surgery. The next nurse came and made me feel 100% better when she said that you need to enjoy motherhood and these days with your baby. If BF causes stress on you or baby it's not enjoyable. You made the right decision for you and baby!

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