Shower invites were sent

luvmyducks · May 2011

And I wasn't supposed to see them b/c my SIL wants me to be as out of the loop as possible so my control freak ways don't make an appearance. Anywho, I was at a friends house last night and she has my shower invite on her fridge. I was so excited to see it and it's very cute. But I noticed she didn't put my registry info on there. Will people contact her or I to see where I'm registered? Or will people assume I'm not and get whatever they want? I don't want to say anything to my SIL b/c she will tell me to stay out of it and not worry

Should I have my friend email her and ask?

BritanyV · May 2011

Sometimes people will put a little card or slip of paper in with the invite saying where the mom to be is registered. Maybe she did that?

luvmyducks · May 2011

BritanyV:
Sometimes people will put a little card or slip of paper in with the invite saying where the mom to be is registered. Maybe she did that?

No I asked my friend and she said there was nothing else in the envelope.

MrsAtch · May 2011

Maybe it's just me, but I assume that if I go to a shower the person is registered- and I would call the host to find out where. It's considered tacky to include registry information (though I know it's SUPER common) so that's always my method.

cflocco · May 2011

That's so exciting that your invites were sent!! I'm sure people assume you are registered somewhere-most people think of BRU. Are you registered at BRU? If not, they will call and ask. Don't worry-I'm sure your shower will be fabulous!!

MrsAtch · May 2011

cflocco:
That's so exciting that your invites were sent!! I'm sure people assume you are registered somewhere-most people think of BRU. Are you registered at BRU? If not, they will call and ask. Don't worry-I'm sure your shower will be fabulous!!

I agree- most think BRU.

luvmyducks · May 2011

MrsAtch:
cflocco:
That's so exciting that your invites were sent!! I'm sure people assume you are registered somewhere-most people think of BRU. Are you registered at BRU? If not, they will call and ask. Don't worry-I'm sure your shower will be fabulous!!
I agree- most think BRU.

We don't have one here

I'm registered at Target.

MCH77 · May 2011

So exciting. When is it? I can't believe it is almost shower time for you!

I would ask my sister to get the reg info out by word of mouth. You don't need to tell her you saw the invite. I would make up some story why I was thinking about it.

YEAH Shower!

kateisgreat · May 2011

It may not even matter that your registry info wasn't included. I have had 3 showers, and the only people who bought stuff from my registry were close family that wanted to buy large items and people who don't have children and didn't know what to buy. Everyone else just got whatever they felt like- which was great because I wound up with stuff I didn't even know existed. I only have a couple of things that I need to return because they are duplicates- ironically from the people who bought off of my registry and didn't see that what they picked had already been purchased. Like the pp have said, if someone wants to know where you are registered, they will ask. If I don't know where someone is registered, I check BRU, target, and buy buy baby- those are pretty much the only options anyhow.

thewayiam · May 2011

Very exciting! I usually call to find out where someone is registered, if nothing is included. People seems to register as a rule now, so I think that anyone who would buy off your registry would call for the information. There are always a lot of people who don't bother with a registry, even when the info is included (as annoying as that can be.) Have a great time at your shower!

luvmyducks · May 2011

MCH77:
So exciting. When is it? I can't believe it is almost shower time for you!

I would ask my sister to get the reg info out by word of mouth. You don't need to tell her you saw the invite. I would make up some story why I was thinking about it.

YEAH Shower!

July 9th

I'm kinda letting myself get a little excited

TeacherVicky · May 2011

Fun! I know mine were sent too and my mother and MIL are trying to be ultra secretive about it. I've got it narrowed down to two possible weekends in June.

People will probably ask the host about a registry when they RSVP. Or else they will try to find it themselves by looking through websites of obvious stores.

martinimomma · May 2011

TeacherVicky:

People will probably ask the host about a registry when they RSVP. Or else they will try to find it themselves by looking through websites of obvious stores.

This. I have lost those slips of paper more times than I can count, and luckily in this age of the interwebs it is easy enough to find on-line - or for the not computer people in your life, to call the hostess.

So exciting that this is on the horizon for you!!

camdenfaithful · May 2011

Yay!! So exciting! My shower is the same day and invites are going out this week and I cannot wait!!

Like the other ladies said, I wouldn't worry that the registry information wasn't included. Most people will just look at the typical places that people register or ask the host. Just make sure word gets out where you are registered when people do start to ask.

I also disagree with saying that including registry information is tacky. A shower is an event specifically to give gifts, so it would be strange not to include it. Now registry information in a wedding invite....yeah that gets the side eye.

MrsAtch · May 2011

camdenfaithful:
Yay!! So exciting! My shower is the same day and invites are going out this week and I cannot wait!!
Like the other ladies said, I wouldn't worry that the registry information wasn't included. Most people will just look at the typical places that people register or ask the host. Just make sure word gets out where you are registered when people do start to ask.
I also disagree with saying that including registry information is tacky. A shower is an event specifically to give gifts, so it would be strange not to include it. Now registry information in a wedding invite....yeah that gets the side eye.

FWIW, I'm not saying it shouldn't be done. But if you look at ANY etiquette book it will tell you that listing a registry on any type of invitation (housewarming, wedding, baby) is considered in poor taste. That doesn't stop millions of people from doing it, but that's what I meant by saying it is often considered "tacky".

Karen1998 · May 2011

It's actually bad etiquette to put anything about a registry in there. Most people just ask when they RSVP and/or assume that you're registered at the major baby stores.

Flagirl73 · May 2011

I always assume everyone registers at target! If I check for a registry and there isn't one I ask the host. I'm sure people will ask if they don't know.

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