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So I've been thinking...

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I have done a complete 360* change in my thoughts lately...as IVF #2 looms over my head...I just had all the hormones etc..shipped out.

I am thinking about domestic adoption. 

Never, ever, before did I think I would want to adopt, but the treatments, retrieval, transfer, 2WW...it is SO DRAINING! Ugh...I just got back into the swing of things at my trainer/gym. I feel so good right now. 

Am I taking the easy way out?

I am going to do it in June. I just kind of secretly wish FP will drag her feet a bit...not really looking forward to this again.

Well...that is the first time, except for the five minute conversation with my DH, about my new thoughts...

Thanks for listening...

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Re: So I've been thinking...

  • HappyMrsKHappyMrsK member

    I've always thought about adoption, even when I was much younger and before I was married. I always thought it might be nice to adopt someday even if I had biological children. My H is on the fence about it right now, but maybe he'll come around if we are not able to conceive on our own eventually.

    I think if we were to do it we would do foster to adopt. I used to work with foster children and I've always been interested in fostering or adopting personally so I think that would be the best choice for us if we went the adoption route.

    Unfortunately, the adoption process can also be very emotional and frustrating and it isn't guaranteed either so I wouldn't say it's an "easy way out."

    You might want to lurk over at the adoption board for more info.

    GL in whatever you decide!

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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    imageHappyMrsK:

    I've always thought about adoption, even when I was much younger and before I was married. I always thought it might be nice to adopt someday even if I had biological children. My H is on the fence about it right now, but maybe he'll come around if we are not able to conceive on our own eventually.

    I think if we were to do it we would do foster to adopt. I used to work with foster children and I've always been interested in fostering or adopting personally so I think that would be the best choice for us if we went the adoption route.

    Unfortunately, the adoption process can also be very emotional and frustrating and it isn't guaranteed either so I wouldn't say it's an "easy way out."

    You might want to lurk over at the adoption board for more info.

    GL in whatever you decide!

    THIS exactly. But it is a wonderful thing if you can take the ride on the rollercoaster. Keeping all your options open is good. Glad to hear you have been feeling better!

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

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  • Country Girl in the CityCountry Girl in the City
    This has been a very serious discussion lately in our house.  I am starting to worry that the money that I would use with IUI and IVF could have been used for adoption.  I don't think that it is the easy way out at all.  My aunt and uncle adopted a child (she is in her 20s now and is perfect, I love her so much).  It was so much work for them to get a child.  I am also starting to think more about becoming a foster parent.
    BFP on IVF #2 6/29/2012. Beta #1 7/3 = 522; Beta #2 = 1180; Beta #3 = 6491 image BabyFruit Ticker
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  • Reilly626Reilly626 member
    I think that is great that you feel up-lifted about adoption. Sometimes when you distract your mind into something else good things happen, and its just wonderful in the process of adoption. I have many friends who have adopted. It is a roller coaster but well worth the ride. I have a friend whose husband is much older so they adopt through our states department of family services. Maybe you would want to try taking in kids that way first to see if its for you?
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  • HeatherIconHeatherIcon member

    Thank you girls. I have been reading, thinking, wondering...all about this.

    I am going through with the IVF #2. I am just not sure how many times, I want to go through with this process.

    Fortunately, I have worked with at-risk and homeless youth for a long time.  I just hope to be able to find a newborn infant, one that I can care for from day one. I think that attachment is very important. I am aware of the process. I just kind of feel like I am giving up on myself--not trying the IVF process as many times as my insurance will allow..

    Well thank you all again for your words and support. It is greatly appreciated.

     

     

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