Community› The Bump Message Boards› Childless not by choice
Childless not by choice
New Discussion

They like us...they really do!

DKC1308DKC1308
in Childless not by choice

By "they" of course I do mean every other "bumpie" on the bump. Crazy how many views our posts get. I am pretty sure there are only 10 or so of us who are actually CFNBC.

Feels so good to be so cared for. Wink

Report Reply to Post

Re: They like us...they really do!

  • babygirlpriestbabygirlpriest

    Same reason people slow down and stare when passing an accident on the freeway. Lots of curious rubber-necking. Could be worse - I remember being shocked at how many people lurked on MC/PL out of morbid curiosity.

    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • baze2baze2

    Confession--I am a lurker reading your posts. The reason-- In my heart I know I will be here in a few months. It helps me cope/accept by reading your posts. Maybe others are the same way. 

    I lurked on the adoption board for a year before posting or even accepting the idea of adoption.

    Thanks ladies! 

    So for now, back to lurkerville! 

    "Onward"--CathyMD Waiting since 07/5/2011 for our forever child! Yep we are adopting!
    Report Reply
  • DKC1308DKC1308
    baze2- You are a lurker with purpose. Much different than the ones we are referring too. I hope you never find yourself here and you get your take home baby.
    Report Reply
  • triple_sevenstriple_sevens member

    *poking my head in*

    I'm an occassional lurker, too, because several women I've grown to care a lot about are planning to make this their home board and I want to be there for them however I can. I won't post again, I just wanted to unveil myself (that sounds creepy) and show my support. BGP, Dandy, Kristy--if it makes you uncomfortable, I'll stop reading also. You know you can give it to me straight :)

    BFP #1 10/17/09: missed m/c at 7 weeks; BFP #2 10/22/10: chemical pregnancy; BFP #3: 1/28/11

    Baby Boy Smudgie born 10/4/11

    <a href="http://s837.photobucket.com/albums/zz298/triple_sevens/?action=view

    Report Reply
  • KristysRedBarnKristysRedBarn
    imagetriple_sevens:

    *poking my head in*

    I'm an occassional lurker, too, because several women I've grown to care a lot about are planning to make this their home board and I want to be there for them however I can. I won't post again, I just wanted to unveil myself (that sounds creepy) and show my support. BGP, Dandy, Kristy--if it makes you uncomfortable, I'll stop reading also. You know you can give it to me straight :)

    I'm okay with it.  I lurk on PgAL, PAL, etc because I "know" so many ladies on those boards, but don't really feel comfortable posting.  There is a big difference between lurking because you want to keep up with people, or because you may be joining this board in the future, and lurking because you like a good train wreck. 

    imageimage
    Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!
    April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks
    Report Reply
  • Cissi64Cissi64
    imagetriple_sevens:

    *poking my head in*

    I'm an occassional lurker, too, because several women I've grown to care a lot about are planning to make this their home board and I want to be there for them however I can. I won't post again, I just wanted to unveil myself (that sounds creepy) and show my support. BGP, Dandy, Kristy--if it makes you uncomfortable, I'll stop reading also. You know you can give it to me straight :)

    I'll confess to lurking to keep up with folks, too.    I think  the "trainwreck" lurkers needing to take a hike.  They are probably the same ones who kept asking why this board was needed in the first place and wasn't it the same as some of the other boards, etc.  I just miss you guys and worry about you!

    dd(Brianna) 11/01/94, ds(Bram)10/17/95, ds(Jesse)9/26/97, dd (Annie Ruth) 7/27/05 5mc Jan '08, May '08, Feb '09, Sept '09, Apr '11 "And can it be that in a world so full and busy, the loss of one weak creature makes a void in any heart, so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of vast eternity can fill it up." - Charles Dickens

    PAL/PGAL Welcome

    Report Reply
  • gidgegidge member
    I lurk here
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • StephKStephK member

    I am not a dedicated lurker, but I do read from time to time.  I cringed at the "purpose of this board" thread.  I honestly don't understand why everyone else cares so much, or why they think their opinion matters.

    I continue to come back when I think of it because there are people who post here that I know.  I read because I want to try to understand what you're going through and be supportive even though it is kind of inappropriate to post (except for threads like this, I guess).  I'm sorry it feels like gawking - I never noticed the astronomical number of views for each thread, until you brought it up.  Would you prefer lurkers go away?

    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • XXXXX222XXXXX222 member

    Hey Gidgy :D

    Steph, personally I don't mind the lurkers but do find it amusing at least for the time being. :) 

    Report Reply
  • tct1219tct1219 member

    First, I hope it's not offensive that I'm posting here. I'm also a lurker because there are family and friends in my life who may fit into the CFNBC category and I want to better understand others' way of thinking and make sure that I don't do or say anything that would hurt them.

    While I am a proponent of adoption instead of having biological children and had planned to only adopt, I certainly don't judge people who choose not to adopt. [I realize having a bio child makes me a bit of a hypocrite in that regard but I also believe that compromise with my husband is important and of course I love my daughter no matter how she came to us]

    It's much worse, in my opinion, when children are adopted as a sort of 'consolation prize' and treated as such [whether intentionally or not]. No child should feel unwanted and if adoption/ fostering isn't right for a family, I very much respect their decision not to do so. There are so many things to enjoy and be thankful for in life and [to me] being a parent is only one of them.

    I hope my wording didn't offend anyone or come across in the wrong way, I just wanted to clarify that and I might not be the only person who has lurked here a few times to better understand other people's situations.

    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"