Would you say something?

DreadLoc · May 2011

We went to a playground today was Joy was swinging and loving it. Another family came and the minute they walked into the playground the dad lit a cigarette. It didn't bother us until he decided to sit down three swings away from Joy.

I just grabbed Joy and walked to the other side. DH wanted to ask him to put it out, but I don't know...I guess we just wanted to avoid any confrontation and ended up not saying anything.

We feel like a playground should be smoke free if there are other families present. If someone does need to smoke, at least have the decency to stay clear of other families.

What do you think? And would you have said something?

Aubrianarose · May 2011

That is wrong on many levels. I hate when people do that. But, I would have probably done what you did as well and maybe give him the stink-eye until he left.

jamiemsmith · May 2011

I wouldn't have said anything either, but I do find it rude.

Mama_SAS · May 2011

You can?t control what idiots do outside on public land. You could have said something but you had no real grounds to, you know?

I don?t get it though. I was a smoker before I had kids and I knew enough not to smoke at ?kid? places. How do parents not know this?

LordValuemart · May 2011

rochella:
I wouldn't have said anything unless there were no smoking signs. People are really dumb, though. I saw a very pregnant lady smoking at a park, surrounded by her other kids, and I had to bite my tongue.

LordValuemart · May 2011

rochella:
LordValuemart:
rochella:
I wouldn't have said anything unless there were no smoking signs. People are really dumb, though. I saw a very pregnant lady smoking at a park, surrounded by her other kids, and I had to bite my tongue.

Oh jeez, yeah, don't you know that jackhammers cause the geigh in babies

Sweet, Ronan's gonna be a total flamer then, I worked right next to a construction zone most of my pregnancy.

hermione76 · May 2011

I would have said something, but that is just me. When I was visibly pg I was sitting on a bench and some douche sat beside me a lit up. There were about a billion other places to sit. I asked him why he picked to sit next to me!

HiggyFan42 · May 2011

I wouldn't have said anything directly to him but I probably would have said something to DH loud enough for the smoker to hear.

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DreadLoc · May 2011

Thanks ladies,I'm glad I'm not the only non-confrontational person out there!

DH and I talked after reading some of your responses and MamaSAS's response gave us an idea. I'm going to talk to a few other mama's at the library storytime we attend and try to get the city to make all children's areas in the city smoke free. Maybe a petition will help us.

It just worries me because what if a child has a respiratory issue and someone wants to smoke where they're playing? If there are no "No Smoking" signs then the child will be the person who has to leave, not the smoker.

bmqcmg · May 2011

Yes, I would have said something. I would have tried to keep it nice as possible though to try to keep it as friendly as possible with Juliana and other kids around.

Jaffytaffy · May 2011

That's pretty rude. I would have asked him if he wouldn't mind waiting until he left the playground to smoke, not only because of the smoke, but because I dread the thought of some toddler eventually digging his discarded cigarette butt out of the sand and eating it. Playgrounds are no-smoking zones. That should go without saying.

When I was about 7 months pregnant, my H and I were on vacation, and when we were getting into an elevator at the hotel, a guy who was in the elevator with us lit up right next to me in the freaking elevator! I was about to rip him a new one, but another lady who was in the elevator did it before I even could.

bobbyruth · May 2011

I would have done the same thing as you. I really think there should be no smaking signs at playgrounds.

LinnyAnne10 · May 2011

I would of just taken my kid far away and not say anything, and give him dirty looks from across the playground.

Mama_SAS · May 2011

MrsLacy:
Thanks ladies,I'm glad I'm not the only non-confrontational person out there!
DH and I talked after reading some of your responses and MamaSAS's response gave us an idea. I'm going to talk to a few other mama's at the library storytime we attend and try to get the city to make all children's areas in the city smoke free. Maybe a petition will help us.
It just worries me because what if a child has a respiratory issue and someone wants to smoke where they're playing? If there are no "No Smoking" signs then the child will be the person who has to leave, not the smoker.

Good plan!

SnoopyLuv · May 2011

I'm pretty confrontational and very passive aggressive so I likely would have said "Excuse me" in a nasty way and the death stare or I would have said "So you smoke around your kids regularly?"

Then we would have left soon after that.

sodelish · May 2011

I would say something if they blew smoke in my face. Or, if there wasn't another place we could go in the playground to play where we wouldn't smell the smoke.

OctoberBabyH · May 2011

I would have wanted to say something, too. I probably would have done the same thing you guys did...walk away. I think that even if there were signs up, people would smoke. (I worked at a hospital for awhile with No Smoking signs all over the campus and people still lit up. Ugh.)

1CINCYGIRL · May 2011

I wouldn't have said anything, it is a public place and you don't have any grounds to say anything. He could have smoked right next to you. Smokers know where they can smoke, and WILL say something back. Nobody needs a redneck fight at the playground, even adults need to play fair Smile

You do have a good idea about making it a non smoking area in the future though. Good Luck!

longingtoholdher2010 · May 2011

I hate when people smoke around children!!! I would have said something, and my DH would have given me grief for it but in the end I am not gonna let some jerk give my children second hand smoke, and I hope any other mother would do the same for my children.

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