Girls night out= big guilt vent

GoMommy · May 2011

My neighbor has been going thru a rough time, and she came up with the idea to have a girls night and get a margarita and some chips from the mexican restartant in town (20mins away from where we live). DS has been pretty intense lately and I've been feeling pretty stress, so I thought it was a great idea. DH was going to put him to bed, and feed him once. I got milk out for him (I BF) and waited until he only needed to eat once and get put down. we left at 8:45 and I got home at 11. I thought I had made it pretty easy for DH.. I guess not. I went out and had a great time. I drove so I only had one, which was fine, cuz I have a busy day tomorrow anyway.. it was more being out with out worrying about DS.

I get home and see the mobile is off the cradle and thrown on the floor. I asked DH about it, he tells me its been a long night. Really? ok, whatever. I say, ok, so why is it off the cradle. I guess it stopped working (batteries) and DH didn't want to deal w/ it, and it was "in the way" plus DS has been crying the whole time I was gone (great.. makes me feel like ***.. now I'll really never leave). DH said DS won't go to sleep and cried (really? i've never had him no stop crying if you changed what you were doing, like walking, singing, rocking, whatever) Ugh, it just bugs me that I finally made a choice to get out and have fun without the baby and I come home and get guilted for it (wheter he meant to or not, he did).. UGH

Jennabug25 · May 2011

Sounds like my first outing from home too! Although I was only going shopping. I just walked into Target and H called telling me I needed to get home the baby wouldn't stop crying...MEN!

Firedancer1013 · May 2011

My sil is in town and suggested we get a pedi while our h's watch our kids, I came home to Dh with tears in his eyes he was so overwhelmed. I hear you.

Jaylea · May 2011

Don't let the guilt get to you. It is GOOD for them to have time together, even if it's not the most pleasant. H is his father, it is important for him to learn to deal with a fussy baby. We do it all the time - so don't feel guilt for him having to do so for two hours. It'll also get easier for both of them the more they do it - so continue to take breaks for you as you need them.

Autumn Bride 2007 · May 2011

I hear you. That used to happen more often to me. But DH has been taking B out a lot more by himself and spending time with her alone since I've been back at work. And now he's fine. He was at my parent's house without me last night w/ B and apparently she wasn't happy and he got to feel the guilt I feel when she's crying with him. So he gets it. It just takes a few alone times for the DH's to calm down and "get it"!

ksyknelvr73 · May 2011

I hate to go off here, but damn...why do the guys think they get to play helpless and stupid and we just suck it up and end up sacrificing EVERYTHING for it??? If my DH pulled this shiit we'd be having some problems. He has tried of course to do things similar to this, but I literally wrote out a schedule and suggestions of things to do and now he never bothers me.

mizzbeba · May 2011

I've been feeling guilty about leaving for a bit two and then remembered hey this baby girl has two parents. I deserve to have some time to myself as well. Those first two months were hard with her being colicky and I did it all by myself while he was at work. Men can act like big babies. Crying

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