How do you tell your mom that she is dressed like a w****

vspek · May 2011

So my mom is fairly young and thinks that she is 25, which is even younger then I am. So yesterday I caught her wearing a dress that was a see through and you could see everything including her thong and a bra. I would not say that it was ok to wear for anyone, but let alone for someone who is almost 50. This is just one of the occasions when she wore something inapropriate. Her skirts are way too short, her cleavage is always showing a bit more then it should be, but this dress was just way over the top. She does not have the best figure, so there are certain things that she should be covering.

I do appreciate that she looks much younger then she is, but she should not be wearing certain things. She asks me go to shopping with her, but she never listens to anything and every time she gets something inappropriate, she says that it's in season now and very popular. Let alone, I work in the city and see what's in season and what's popular and none of the things that she is wearing at it.

I asked my dad and turns out, he told her exactly the same thing about the dress without even talking to me. I don't know where she is getting these things, but they really do look ridiculous on her.

I would appreciate any advice. This has been a problem for a long time, but now that she became a grandma and will have another grandbaby in 5 months, it's gotten worse.

lunatunatoo · May 2011

You should try and get her on What Not To Wear! I've wanted to do that with my mom for years - but for the opposite reason, everything she wears is frumpy and some shade of purple.

vanessa11411 · May 2011

My mom is 52 and she came to my wedding looking like snookie/prostitute her eyeshadow was all black almost up to her eyebrows. She also wanted to do a wardrobe change so she can get into something shorter and sexier so she can dance like a sl*t at my wedding. She gets all freaky with my cousins and stuff it's f**king gross. She wears miniskirts and low cut tops and she does not have the body to be wearing crap like that. It's really embarassing. I don't talk to my mom anymore so I can't really give you advice about fixing it. I'm just glad I don't have to see her anymore in her ridiculous outfits.

christinaramirez08 · May 2011

It sounds like your mom is having a midlife crisis and is afraid of getting older. About to turn 50 and having another grandchild is ony confirming that. Maybe she needs to talk to someone about how she is feeling and why she thinks she needs to dress the way she does. She's obviously doing it for attention and maybe she's craving that attenton because she isn't getting it at home. Just something to think about.

mrsgabus · May 2011

Oh My,,,, I have been here before lol.

When My mom hit 40 she decided that she was suddenly a 18 year old lady again. I was a young teenager and she dressed worse than me (which you would think would be hard at times). During the next ten years she went back and forth between looking like a "grandma" and looking like a "prostitute" . It has only been the past 2-4 years that she has actually started to change her style to a more appropriate and tolerable dress code.

In her case she was going through "a midlife" Crisis and my step dad at the time liked how she dressed. <shakes head> When they seperated she was on the prowl so she continued but lucky things are changing. In my case We told my mom on multiple occasions that her "clothing" was inappropriate. She use to wear my clothing as well, which is hard to believe as I am a size 0 and she at the time was a size 7-9.

The easiest thing to do is tell her the truth. Mom you are beautiful and would look great in everything but that outfit is just horrible. She needs to understand that you are embarrassed by her choice of clothing

forensicmama · May 2011

lunatunatoo:
You should try and get her on What Not To Wear! I've wanted to do that with my mom for years - but for the opposite reason, everything she wears is frumpy and some shade of purple.

I totally thought the same thing!!!

OP: My mom always dressed like a guy, so I guess I understand in some twisted sense. Either way... see through dress? Gross! I wouldn't set foot in that thing if I was 18! Good luck breaking it to her.

PearlPink · May 2011

My mom and I are really close and if she showed up somewhere in a see-through dress I'd tell her to go home and change because she was making a fool of herself.

Maybe you need to sit her down and tell her that there are ways to dress sexy, and age appropriate, as well as body type appropriate. If she refuses to listen, stop shopping with her and if she asks why "mom, i'm embarrsed by the clothes you wear and I don't want any part in you wearing them or picking them out"

Sounds like she REALLY needs what not to wear. I'd take frumpy over that anyday!

mteston · May 2011

My mom wears a size 8 shoe and I wear a 61/2 or 7 and she ALWAYS tries to wear my shoes. ANNOYING! Especially my flip flops! I don't say anything to her though because she can't afford to go buy things on her own. The only other annoying thing she does is wear a bikini top when she mows the lawn. lol. I just let it go. But I would definitely have a talk with your mom. Maybe stage an intervention. lol. Call Dr. PHIL!

wilma007 · May 2011

christinaramirez08:
It sounds like your mom is having a midlife crisis and is afraid of getting older. About to turn 50 and having another grandchild is ony confirming that. Maybe she needs to talk to someone about how she is feeling and why she thinks she needs to dress the way she does. She's obviously doing it for attention and maybe she's craving that attenton because she isn't getting it at home. Just something to think about.

Since PP?s have said most of what I?d say then lets go back to your posting originally! You said ?? yesterday I caught her wearing a dress that was a see through ? ? Here?s where you should have put your foot down telling her in no uncertain terms that?s inappropriate for a woman your age! Do you really want people thinking you?re a streetwalker? Mom, you?re an attractive woman so I wish you?d take more pride in your appearance! Stop wearing - shirts that are to short, showing so much cleavage - it?s just not ! Stop embarrassing dad and me!

I appreciate you looking younger than your age; but, at the same time your dressing like that is just taking away from your looks - makes you look cheap! Mom I want you to dress appropriately!

I?ll go shopping with you but, only if you dress in proper attire - that means clothes, make-up, shoes all complimenting you as a woman! Not some freak! I want my mother to look like a million bucks not cheap! OK!

Do you really think dad is pleased or happy being out with you or someone who look?s like some ole streetwalker or even worst? No, I don?t think so! You just look ridiculous in those things - so stop dressing that way get some pride in you appearance! After all we want to be proud of you - mom!

This is something you need to talk to her about; be firm - that?s my advice to you!

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