How do you ladies do it?

smilingjb · May 2011

LO is offically 2 weeks old today. I swear I feel like I can't get anything done around the house and I just feel like a feeding machine. Even DH is here and I am starting to freak out when he has to go back to work. I feel so tired and don't want to go out either.

Please tell me it gets better!!

~Lynchie~ · May 2011

Dont worry, I'm willing to be that none of us did anything but sleep, change diapers, and feed baby for at least the first month, if not the first three...

It 100% gets better!

keri1013 · May 2011

Ditto Lynchie, it definitely gets better! They are really portable at this age, so don't be afraid to go out if you do feel up to it.

Zista · May 2011

Taking care of a newborn is a full-time-plus job. You should lower your standards on housework, ask for extra help, and just focus on being a mommy. It gets easier in about eight months or so.

(j/k... kinda...)

MissLauraQ · May 2011

YOU DON'T DO IT ALL! Screw the laundry, who cares about the house, get take out dinner every night...just sleep, feed, diaper. Repeat. We're still doing it and my DS is 10 years old :P

It's a hard adjustment if you are used to keeping a well cleaned house. Right now you don't need help with the baby - you need help with the house and dinner duties.

Seattle_JiLLn · May 2011

Lower your expectations. Don't expect to get anything "done" for a while. Your job is to take care of the baby. You are a feeding machine. That's it right now. Don't worry about having a clean house right now... ask for help from friends and family. But seriously, the first three months are all survival. It gets better. Dont' worry.

ttgcole · May 2011

MissLauraQ:
YOU DON'T DO IT ALL! Screw the laundry, who cares about the house, get take out dinner every night...just sleep, feed, diaper. Repeat. We're still doing it and my DS is 10 years old :P

It's a hard adjustment if you are used to keeping a well cleaned house. Right now you don't need help with the baby - you need help with the house and dinner duties.

all of this! I wasn't sure I would survive the first 3 mo. I would try and just walk around the block with baby just for some fresh air. We are all here to vent to, you will get through it, I promise.

tfarabians · May 2011

Its super hard...even harder with 2! Sleep when the baby sleeps, its a luxury you don't have with 2 and it really does help! I started to feel more human by month 4 and even make it to the gym a couple days a week these days. I pumped this time so that dh could take his turns getting up in the middle of the night. Let things go for now, you can catch up on them later!

Zista · May 2011

The only thing to add... the one thing I tried to get out of the house for weekly if I could (starting at 3 weeks) was the Evergreen parent-baby classes. Just commisserating with others at the some point helped a ton with the stress and isolation.

smilingjb · May 2011

Thanks Ladies for letting me vent! Embarrassed

*Bloom2be* · May 2011

Seattle_JiLLn:
Lower your expectations. Don't expect to get anything "done" for a while. Your job is to take care of the baby. You are a feeding machine. That's it right now. Don't worry about having a clean house right now... ask for help from friends and family. But seriously, the first three months are all survival. It gets better. Dont' worry.

Yep, this!

doublem · May 2011

Take it one day at a time! Don't compare yourself to other moms, because every baby is different and every family makes a routine that works for them. Try to celebrate every little success you can - changing a diaper without getting poo on yourself, having your little guy sleep 15 minutes more than you expected, the little faces he makes in his sleep, any opportunity you get to shower/eat uninterrupted... Smile

Ask for and accept any help that is available, and don't ever feel guilty for asking your DH to do something! Hang in there - I completely agree with everyone else: it does totally get better!

JRS72206 · May 2011

It gets SO much better! Give yourself 2 months to get into a nice routine.

Seattle_JiLLn · May 2011

JRS72206:
It gets SO much better! Give yourself 2 months to get into a nice routine.

Or two years. Somewhere in between 2 months and 2 years you'll get a plan.

mrssmith717 · May 2011

Oh, please don't be hard on yourself! If there was ever a time to neglect the housework..... We've all been there and ignored the dishes and laundry. Tell your DH that he's going to have to step it up a little bit while you are adjusting. And go find a parent baby class. Evergreen's are great.

KNemo · May 2011

Seattle_JiLLn:
JRS72206:
It gets SO much better! Give yourself 2 months to get into a nice routine.
Or two years. Somewhere in between 2 months and 2 years you'll get a plan.

Yes

LifesPeachy · May 2011

Yes it gets better! The next couple weeks might be more of the same and then it'll get a lot easier because I am sure you'll both fall into a routine. Don't worry about the house. Things got way easier for me after the first month. Good luck and congrats!

sparkelz · May 2011

I would try and take this time to just enjoy your baby and not worry about everything else as much. I took 13 weeks off work after DD was born and thought I would get so much stuff done around the house. In reality after she was born all I wanted to do was hold her and lookow at her because I knew how quickly she was going to grow and I didn't want to miss a thing while she was so little.

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