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November 2011 Moms
Are we doing a FFC or what??
I've bottled it up all week waiting for FFC!! So here goes...
I secretly am resenting my hubby for losing his job. I know a lot of the details and totally agree he got the short end of the stick, but I can't stop feeling like I blame him. Like he did something wrong and I should be mad at him b/c this is all his fault and he shouldn't have screwed it up. He's taking it hard as it is, and I am worried he'll catch on to how I feel.
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Re: Are we doing a FFC or what??
I am strongly disliking my boss right now, he feels the need to wait till 4:55pm to review files I've given him and then he expects me to stay late but refuses to pay me overtime.
Its happened every night this week and I'm about ready to snap.
my co-worker, who likes to think he's my boss, sent me an email yesterday informing me he wanted to meet at 2:30 today and go over the training program and proper protocol.. all because he got called out for not doing his job and he's mad that we haven't been giving him leads. not to mention, he made himself look like an even bigger douche because he tried to sound all proper and important in the email.. yet there were spelling and grammar errors. i couldn't help but laugh!
no one every uses the email system he emailed me on.. so i'm seriously considering acting like i never saw it.
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
I judge people (well, their academic credentials) who receive degrees online or from for-profit schools.
I know it's horrible and elitist, especially since I am an educator and I should be happy that there's opportunity for educational access for a larger group of people. However, a degree from a for-profit or online school is NOT the same as a traditional university. I've taught courses at for-profit schools, so I can speak from experience. I do want there to be better access to higher education for nontraditional students, but I think traditional universities need to do a better job of providing it, because a BA from the typical online or for-profit school is not equivalent to a BA from a traditional university.
Hey, you're doing a lot better than our class did a couple of years ago! Literally one person bought a ticket besides the two people who were planning it. Needless to say, it was canceled. We were also the only senior class in history not to win the homecoming spirit competition, so I guess it's no surprise.
My confession: I want to move to the city that my best friend just moved to. MH won't move there because he doesn't want to have to get on a plane to see his parents. Some days I daydream about just going, and seeing if he follows me.
Sometimes I wish we could have a Survivor style vote each week and send someone off the island/board. This week my vote would be for someone on the October board.
I vented about someone earlier this week and she weirdly showed up on this board after a 3 year absence from the bump and found it. I shouldn't have posted it I suppose. But I should have cut ties with her LONG ago. I distanced myself from her and her drama for a long time, not seeing her and barely talking for almost 2 years, but I should have cut that off a long time ago. I regret THAT more than I regret my posting. So my confession is, I didn't want to hurt her feelings, I regret that I did, but along with that is a sense of relief that she is gone from my life now.
My other confession is that I am not looking forward to the first year with our new baby. Of course I am looking forward to holding and kissing and loving my child, but I am reeeeaaally not feeling ready for the sleepless nights and chaos of having a toddler and infant.
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
Working in higher ed, I agree with you on the fact that degrees from for-profit schools (UoP, etc) aren't the same as from non-profits.
Absolutely not being snarky, but genuinely curious-what can non-profits do to better increase the ability of non-trads. to get a higher education? From what I can see, a lot of them are already doing everything they can-offering classes online, offering classes at night, having satellite campuses that offer classes in rural areas, AND they are usually cheaper than for-profits. So what do you see that for-profits are doing better than non-profits to educate the non-trads?
As a big fan of reality shows I think that is hilarious and am picturing the "challenges" we would have to win immunity from the vote.
My FFFC - it really ticks me off that I told the DR from the beginning that I wasn't as far along as my LMP showed. They used that date anyway and scheduled my AFP test based on it. At my first sonogram in April they changed my date to 12 days behind and I asked "should we reschedule my AFP test so it's at 17 weeks still" they said no it should be okay at 15 weeks 4 days. I go in today to get this test I was on the fence about anyway, and the lady drawing my blood goes "you are at least 16 weeks right?...This test isn't as accurate if you're under 16 weeks"
I explain the situation but tell her I'm coming back in 10 days for my next appt, so why don't they just draw the blood then. Instead she says "no lets just do it now..."
So a test I debated not doing in the first place because of all the false positives probably won't even be accurate for me because they wouldn't reschedule when I asked initially and again today...If next Friday when I get called with the results and it ends up being positive for anything I know I'm going to be upset, but now I won't even trust the result.
Ugh, I can relate. I actually told my husband that I was dreading going through the newborn phase, again. He was shocked. Don't get me wrong-- I love that tiny & sweet period and it goes by quickly, but it can be SO HARD.
DS was a great sleeper (he slept through the night from 5 weeks on!), but we had other issues, like acid reflux (OMG) colic (kill me now) and weight gain issues. I tortured myself about EBF and just about had a nervous breakdown when I started supplementing (along with BFing) at 4 months, then moved to EFF at 6 months.
DS is 8 months now and most days, it's so easy. We have a nap routine, feeding routine, bath routine, bedtime routine. He's so expressive and fun...it's just an awesome age...so much better than his first few months.
With the second baby, I know I'll be more relaxed about some things, so in a way I think it will be easier... but, oh wait! That's right-- I'll have a 14 month old along with a newborn. I'm overwhelmed, to say the least.
I'm going on a mystery road trip with some girlfriends this weekend and plan on drinking alcohol. Not a lot mind you, but I'm sure I'll have a drink or two.
I really don't like Drew Carey.
I get upset when people use the word 'panties.'
I hate all of the candidates running for president next year. I used to be so into politics and now I couldn't care less, which upsets me because I want to care but I just really can't stand anyone running!
I got fired from a job last spring, it was the first time I'd ever been fired. (long story short, I was in HR and challenged one of the managers on a termination he'd made. he had ins with the owners and made sure I was next). I took it really hard and it was almost 5 months before I found another job. I realize we didn't have the stress of planning for LO's arrival, but my assistance was close to running out. I struggled with depression the entire time because not only had I let myself down, I thought maybe MH felt it was all my fault, even though he constantly assured me that I was in the right.
If you know the whole story, then that's all you need to know. You know he's taking it hard enough on himself so just do what you can to support him and help him get back to work.
i complain occasionally about working from home but after seeing many PP's FFC being about co-workers, i realize i do better in my home environment
my house is a mess because i've been so sick w/ MS and have had the cold from hell the last 3 days that i'm wishing to every higher power that FI will get the hint and clean... he doesn't... so i guess i have too.
our puppy had an accident in her kennel his morning. Fi offered to clean it up (while he was half asleep)... i admit, i didn't hesitate to say "yes please" when he offered.
(thats what he gets for not doing dishes or laundry!)
I never thought I'd see a post like this from you. My first job - the President dropped out of college after 2 semesters. The company has been in business for over 30 years, and is still running strong with employees that have lasted there just as long. At my second, the entire management team had degrees coming out their arses yet couldn't keep the ship afloat and I was fortunate enough to jump before they laid off over 50% of the staff. Education is a great building block, but it doesn't guarantee absolute success.
I think that what really attracts non-traditional students to the for-profits is the accelerated courses...however that's also what I see as part of the problem. It's hard to unpack a quality course in 5 weeks. I'm not sure that there's an answer.
Me too! It's so....victorian.
My post was not saying that education is a requisite for success, it was that not all schools are created equal. I probably should have provided more background.
The schools I am referring to are at least 2 times as costly as traditional schools, provide a much less rigorous education, and (at least in my profession) result in degrees that are not taken seriously...
Agree! Only I have another month board in mind.
Hmm I think I have a few:
-I have diagnosed insomnia thanks to PTSD, and am still taking the sleep meds prescribed by my doctor. OB says that they are fine but I still feel guilty sometimes taking them. The thing is that I won't sleep without them, and if I don't sleep then I go nuts (duh). I admire the ladies that can come off everything, and I tried going without them, but no dice.
-I still drink caffeine just about every day. Woop.
-There is a girl in the gym who smells really awful and always runs next to me. She smells to the point where I seriously can't breathe sometimes. She also pounds her feet when she runs (which sounds like a heard of elephants)-and I want to kill her.
Well I've only got 2 years of schooling but at least I know it's "ACCelerated"
This is exactly the point I was trying to make, so thank-you.
I need to clear up a few things re: non-profits vs for-profits.
Rach- I agree-it CAN be hard to pack a good course into 5 weeks. Its been done-I've even taken several-during my university's summer school semesters. But they are intense and rigorous. Unfortunately, getting a great education takes time-and too many people think they can do it faster at a for-profit and get the same results, but that just isn't the case.
Blondee-I'm also not stating that education makes or breaks a person's career or a business. I'll be the first to tell you that there were definitely classes that I was required to have to graduate that I don't use, and will never use. However, I also took many courses that prepared me for the job I have now-and in future positions I hope to have. I know that in my field, I wouldn't even be considered a serious applicant without my degrees. Unfortunately that is just the world we live in today. I believe that while education ISN'T for everyone.... almost everyone out there has access to it today. Between public and private universities, community colleges, and satellite campuses, funding assistance, tax breaks, etc....everyone has the opportunity to go if they so choose.
Charlsie...I'm confused. Are you agreeing with me and Rach that the for-profits education isn't the same as that received at a non-profit? I read your post a few times and I think you are....but I'm not sure. Can you clear this up?
I think we are thinking the same, all the way. To support your above example:
I'm teaching a 4 week course at my public, state-flagship university in June. I just finished teaching the same class over the Spring semester. In studying my syllabus, there's so much that I absolutely CANNOT do within the timeframe of a 4-week class. Gahhhhh! It's frustrating as an instructor, but I will make it a great class, regardless. I learned, after teaching a couple classes, that most of the for-profits have scripted curriculum for each class. I could not add to the course. I could tweak or change things, but I had limits. For a freshman English course, the "paper" is a 1,000 word essay, that's 3.5 pages. My 7th and 8th graders produced more substantive work!
Please note: I am not blaming the students here, but the organizations.
Thanks for making that clear ;-)
To anyone else, my original intention was not to pass judgement on individuals without advanced degrees (though I realize my first sentence could suggest otherwise). There are plenty of people much smarter than me that didn't get a college degree....I more than know this! My judgement was intended more for the INSTITUTION and the degree.
Couldn't have said it any better myself.....
And sorry I can't spell....sue me! It is a weakness of mine. Make fun of me all you want. I coudn't care less about all the mistakes.
I think you are in a pretty unique position. I'm from Toledo and I went to Bluffton College (errr University), so I am pretty familiar with your area. Ohio, especially NW Ohio is in a terrible place right now, economically. Findlay is a small area, i.e. limited jobs.
I think this "college is unnecessary" argument is gaining quite a bit of steam (but is inherently false), with the examples of unemployed friends with higher degrees. My questions for your friends would be, what are those degree in? There are so many master's degrees that are of little use or in fields that are saturated (i.e. MBAs are very common, and right now there are not as many jobs). Second, are they going to the jobs, or are they waiting for a job to come to them? In my experience in Ohio, so many of my friends wait and expect a job to come to them. I realize people have roots, but if you want to work in your field, you need to go where the jobs are. And this is true regardless of the level of education. My brother barely graduated high school. He's a talented computer programmer. He's in FL making 100k a year, without college! I am totally over-educated. I have 2 master's degrees and working on a PhD. I've never had trouble finding a job (in teaching no less!). Why? We go to the work. My brother from Ohio to Florida (with a planned move to CA later this year), and myself from Ohio to Tennessee (for Teach for America) and eventually NM (it's one of the places where my husband was able to find work).
You are right about Ohio - jobs are scarce. As for my friends, one has a masters in public admin (and something else) and is looking as far away as Denver for jobs. The other has a MSW and needs to stay in the area - she's a single mom and doesn't want to uproot her daughter or leave her family support.
I saw on another post you're traveling back to Ohio - is your family near Findlay or Bluffton?
All my family is in the Toledo area! My brother and I were the rebels who moved away.