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CeltiCutie
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OMFG you have GOT to be kidding me
CeltiCutie
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Seriously I can't take much more. DCP texted that she is "sick" and can't watch the kids today. Really?! Really?! I am just sitting here crying. I see my best friend maybe once a year to every two years if I am lucky. I REALLY need this break today. I know DH is going to be useless and I'm not going to be able to leave. I just don't understand what I did to deserve all of this and not be able to catch ONE break and have ONE day to myself and to see my friend. I seriously cannot take it right now. I was woken up in the middle of the night coughing which made me throw up cuz I coughed so hard but I was ok with it because I knew I could take A to day care today and lay back down and I would have a good day... ya not so much.
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Re: OMFG you have GOT to be kidding me
I'm SO sorry! I replied to your post last night and I feel bad you're at your wit's end like this. If I lived closer I would totally babysit!!
Can you *demand* your husband suck it up? Normally that wouldn't be my advice but you really need some time!
UPDATE::: DCP texted a bit later to say her DH said he'd help w/ the kids so I just dropped Addy off. I picked up gross McD's breakfast (don't judge me, EFF'ers! lol) and am now sitting here eating and just trying to decompress. I have a chiropractor appt at 10:30 and then Mani/pedi's at 1pm.
I felt kinda bad taking Addison, especially cuz DCP knows I'm off work today, but on the other hand, I just don't care. Addy was the only one there so far and I am hoping more kids come or else I will feel really bad. LOL
I will try to pick her up after nap to help DCP out, but I just NEED this day like nothing I have ever needed before.
Thank you all for listening and bearing w/ my total Debbie Downer self all week! Believe me I am hoping things get better so I can shut up, too!
((HUGS))
OMG Seriously though. I mean I get that he was/is in pain. But like sleeping all day and all night and he is still sleeping?! WTF. That doesn't seem normal to me... I think he's just being lazy. Plus like even yesterday when I picked A up from DCP and we got home she was SO excited to see him and he was just like not even excited. He barely acknowledged her! I was SO mad. She missed him all week and he is normally a super awesome Dad, so I don't get it. Like do those pills jack him up THAT bad, really? or is he just being a douche?
I wouldn't feel bad about dropping her off. She's the day care provider. You pay her in exchange for her watching your kid. You being at work or not fails to enter into the situation.
And if she's sick, it's her duty to find a backup child care arrangement for you.
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I don't want to start anything here, but it is the parent's responsibility to have back up daycare in the event of an emergency not the provider's. (And Celti, if that's not written in your handbook you need to add it in there!) Most private DCPs rarely take sick days (at least I never do) unless they are REALLY sick or contagious. I've worked through many horrible colds, sinus infections, thrown backs, etc. If I close, there's a good reason for it. I do have a substitute, but the kids still have to be cared for in my home. Calling the sub to come when I'm sick still exposes those kids to my germs and doesn't give me the rest that I need to recover.
On the other side of things, if the DCP was willing to have her DH watch the kids, then she can't be that sick. She may have just wanted a "me" day. And texting that she's sick is an unprofessional way of closing for the day.
PS: I'm glad it worked out for you. I was going to tell you not to give DH the option of keeping Addy. You had her all week while sick. I would have handed her to him and said, "I have an appointment. Be back at _____. Love you!"
I this she is sick but not THAT sick... I think she just knew maybe some parents were off already. I dunno. Either way I do feel a little bad and that won't change that. Cuz I know she is a bit sick. But then I have been sick all week... So I feel the pain. LOL
Danaan, here is what I have in my handbook:
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Personal/sick days are of no charge if I am closing for the day. If an extended illness or an unforeseen situation causes me to close other than the above mentioned, there will be no charges for those days.
Should I make it more descriptive to say that no backup care is provided?
I would definitely include a note that says it is the parent's responsibility to find alternate care. The last thing you want to be doing while sick or dealing w/ a family emergency is finding someone to watch your daycare kids. I usually try to offer the parents a couple of options, but it's strictly a courtesy on my part. I make it abundantly clear that I am not responsible for that.
Awesome thanks! I'll amend it now!
Thanks for all your help and advice on this stuff!
I would definitely make this clear if you plan to do home DCP. My DCP, as well as my prior DCP, both had backups listed in case of illness. I wouldn't sign up with a home DCP otherwise.