My bmb is making me ill

pennynjon · May 2011

I need to just stay off there. The other day they were posting about how they couldn't read the posts about miscarriages, because it made them worry. It isn't contagious. Now their pet peeve is people posting about having a mc after only a few posts??? We are all in first tri! I have only posted a couple of times. It makes me so mad how selfish and insensitive people can be. But it is fine to read nine thousand posts a day about morning sickness.

starrynyt · May 2011

I feel like this inevitably happens on every BMB. I like mine so far, but I'm dreading when these things start.

JoAnna914 · May 2011

pennynjon:
I need to just stay off there. The other day they were posting about how they couldn't read the posts about miscarriages, because it made them worry. It isn't contagious. Now their pet peeve is people posting about having a mc after only a few posts??? We are all in first tri! I have only posted a couple of times. It makes me so mad how selfish and insensitive people can be. But it is fine to read nine thousand posts a day about morning sickness.

I JUST commented on this on another thread on this board - I am astounded at their inability to have a little empathy toward a woman who probably has no idea what to do with herself at such a painful time. I know that the BMB boards are more snarky than we are here, but I just don't get the fear inspired by OTHER PEOPLE'S miscarriages.

karma79 · May 2011

We're in the same BMB. I stear clear except when someone over here clues us in to the fvckery going on over there. :::heading over to Dec BMB:::

ravenorchid · May 2011

Ug. That would make me so mad. I have never even gone to my board. I feel like it would just stress me out, so I stay here.

Junebug060609 · May 2011

The Oct BMB went through a similar phase. I really wish people could get over their own insecurities/worries and realize that the women posting those posts, regular posters or not, are hurting more than those 'offended' can imagine if they've not had a m/c themselves. I don't care if they are 2 seconds pregnant or full term, those that have a loss have just as much a right to post so on their BMB as those bitching about m/s for the 14th day in a row.

I also wish they'd realize that some of the ladies that had m/c that they are talking about still lurk on the board. I know I lurked on my former BMB (still do, actually)...and it hurt to read crap like that.

pennynjon · May 2011

JoAnna914:
pennynjon:
I need to just stay off there. The other day they were posting about how they couldn't read the posts about miscarriages, because it made them worry. It isn't contagious. Now their pet peeve is people posting about having a mc after only a few posts??? We are all in first tri! I have only posted a couple of times. It makes me so mad how selfish and insensitive people can be. But it is fine to read nine thousand posts a day about morning sickness.

I JUST commented on this on another thread on this board - I am astounded at their inability to have a little empathy toward a woman who probably has no idea what to do with herself at such a painful time. I know that the BMB boards are more snarky than we are here, but I just don't get the fear inspired by OTHER PEOPLE'S miscarriages.

. Hey, how are you doing? How was the us? I have been looking for an update.

hart0620 · May 2011

karma79:
We're in the same BMB. I stear clear except when someone over here clues us in to the fvckery going on over there. :::heading over to Dec BMB:::

Me too! It is the always popular "Unpopular Opinion" post. Seriously...why do they need to have a whole thread just to be b*tchy...if you hate everything everyone posts and think they are stupid why are you on the bump?!? ugh.....I get too mad about it.

Eris-Alexis · May 2011

starrynyt:
I feel like this inevitably happens on every BMB. I like mine so far, but I'm dreading when these things start.

This exactly. My only hope for our board is that there are a large number of PGAL ladies there, so I am hoping we might be able to miss some of that.

karma79 · May 2011

hart0620:

karma79:
We're in the same BMB. I stear clear except when someone over here clues us in to the fvckery going on over there. :::heading over to Dec BMB:::

Me too! It is the always popular "Unpopular Opinion" post. Seriously...why do they need to have a whole thread just to be b*tchy...if you hate everything everyone posts and think they are stupid why are you on the bump?!? ugh.....I get too mad about it.

Why the h*ll would anyone want to start a thread of unpopular opinions!!?!?!? That just sounds like it's going to stir up some emotions.

No thanks!

I'm fired up, what a bunch of tw@tw@ffles!!! (that would be the hormones talking, lol)

karma79 · May 2011

Junebug060609:

The Oct BMB went through a similar phase. I really wish people could get over their own insecurities/worries and realize that the women posting those posts, regular posters or not, are hurting more than those 'offended' can imagine if they've not had a m/c themselves. I don't care if they are 2 seconds pregnant or full term, those that have a loss have just as much a right to post so on their BMB as those bitching about m/s for the 14th day in a row.

I also wish they'd realize that some of the ladies that had m/c that they are talking about still lurk on the board. I know I lurked on my former BMB (still do, actually)...and it hurt to read crap like that.

This!

I think some BGP's are needed over there in fantasy land.

maymaymia · May 2011

That is just so pathetic. I can't even believe how rude and heartless people can be. It makes me sick too!

We went through the same thing on the July Board and I believe PrincessDi made a thread calling people out on how insensitive they were being and people still couldn't see it.

Junebug060609 · May 2011

I just lurked a bit on the December board. What bothered me just as much as the UO post was that the m/c posts only had a handful of responses.

steph141 · May 2011

I toggle back and forth from the Dec BMB, but mainly I'm here. I get annoyed with things and then come back over here. I'm with you, though. It's astounding to read some of the things posted on there.

starrynyt · May 2011

Eris-Alexis:

starrynyt:
I feel like this inevitably happens on every BMB. I like mine so far, but I'm dreading when these things start.

This exactly. My only hope for our board is that there are a large number of PGAL ladies there, so I am hoping we might be able to miss some of that.

That's true. I feel like people have generally been compassionate thus far.

smallfry5909 · May 2011

Junebug060609:
I just lurked a bit on the December board. What bothered me just as much as the UO post was that the m/c posts only had a handful of responses.

This KILLS me. I HATE when people post "Oh, I just can't look at this m/c posts, way too depressing and scary" yet they are the most viewed posts on that board, with the fewest comments.

M/c isn't contagious, and those girls are being selfish brats. It's as simple as not opening the post if you don't want to be scared about it.

Grrrrr, makes my blood boil. I am sticking here for sure!

damabo80 · May 2011

maymaymia:

That is just so pathetic. I can't even believe how rude and heartless people can be. It makes me sick too!

We went through the same thing on the July Board and I believe PrincessDi made a thread calling people out on how insensitive they were being and people still couldn't see it.

Yep. And then some ladies said "well, that's a fear, and I'm entitled to my opinions, blah blah blah". Yes, you're entitled to your opinion....but have an effin heart and think about how your "opinion" is going to feel to someone who is currently bleeding out their baby.

A$$hats. Can't stand people like that.

shoefreak85 · May 2011

I remember when that happened on my last BMB. I have stayed away from January's this time for that exact reason.

JoAnna914 · May 2011

pennynjon:
JoAnna914:

pennynjon:
I need to just stay off there. The other day they were posting about how they couldn't read the posts about miscarriages, because it made them worry. It isn't contagious. Now their pet peeve is people posting about having a mc after only a few posts??? We are all in first tri! I have only posted a couple of times. It makes me so mad how selfish and insensitive people can be. But it is fine to read nine thousand posts a day about morning sickness.

I JUST commented on this on another thread on this board - I am astounded at their inability to have a little empathy toward a woman who probably has no idea what to do with herself at such a painful time. I know that the BMB boards are more snarky than we are here, but I just don't get the fear inspired by OTHER PEOPLE'S miscarriages.

. Hey, how are you doing? How was the us? I have been looking for an update.

Everything is perfectly fine - thanks so much for asking! The source of the spotting was a tiny polyp on my cervix that was disintegrating, and it's stopped altogether now. Otherwise, Little Bean is in perfect shape (at least so far)! I actually did an update in the same thread and bumped it up on Tuesday night, but I don't think a lot of people saw it.

Fififa21 · May 2011

I?m sorry. Unfortunately, some women just don?t have any empathy and won?t until they have actually experienced a loss themselves. They are selfish, rude, and insensitive! Just hang out over here with us :-)

Froggy76 · May 2011

The Nov. board went through this too. I also hated the follow-up posts for reassurance... some ladies think that they should start their own thread for other people to tell them that they're not going to end up like the poor sap who just had a m/c. Drove me crazy. You know the ladies who m/c are still checking in... why would you post something that basically says, "Sucks to be them. I hope it doesn't happen to me!"

nekillo · May 2011

Junebug060609:
I just lurked a bit on the December board. What bothered me just as much as the UO post was that the m/c posts only had a handful of responses.

I feel awful. I am terribly guilty of not clicking on m/c announcements... When I do respond I try to steer ladies to Mc/pgloss because of how much those ladies helped me, but when I go so long between appointments and my anxiety is sky high, it is hard to read those (too close to home). That being said, I think those ladies have EVERY RIGHT IN THE WORLD to make those posts, and should be supported.

Things have def. been BSC over there lately!

(heads over to dec to check things out)

JoAnna914 · May 2011

nekillo:

Junebug060609:
I just lurked a bit on the December board. What bothered me just as much as the UO post was that the m/c posts only had a handful of responses.

I feel awful. I am terribly guilty of not clicking on m/c announcements... When I do respond I try to steer ladies to Mc/pgloss because of how much those ladies helped me, but when I go so long between appointments and my anxiety is sky high, it is hard to read those (too close to home). That being said, I think those ladies have EVERY RIGHT IN THE WORLD to make those posts, and should be supported.

Things have def. been BSC over there lately!

(heads over to dec to check things out)

Yes - I am with you. On some days, it's more difficult for me to actually read and open the posts, but that's MY issue - not that of the poor woman posting! I can't imagine holding it against her for seeking support.

pennynjon · May 2011

JoAnna914:
pennynjon:
JoAnna914:

pennynjon:
I need to just stay off there. The other day they were posting about how they couldn't read the posts about miscarriages, because it made them worry. It isn't contagious. Now their pet peeve is people posting about having a mc after only a few posts??? We are all in first tri! I have only posted a couple of times. It makes me so mad how selfish and insensitive people can be. But it is fine to read nine thousand posts a day about morning sickness.

I JUST commented on this on another thread on this board - I am astounded at their inability to have a little empathy toward a woman who probably has no idea what to do with herself at such a painful time. I know that the BMB boards are more snarky than we are here, but I just don't get the fear inspired by OTHER PEOPLE'S miscarriages.

. Hey, how are you doing? How was the us? I have been looking for an update.

Everything is perfectly fine - thanks so much for asking! The source of the spotting was a tiny polyp on my cervix that was disintegrating, and it's stopped altogether now. Otherwise, Little Bean is in perfect shape (at least so far)! I actually did an update in the same thread and bumped it up on Tuesday night, but I don't think a lot of people saw it.

I am so happy to hear that!

smallfry5909 · May 2011

JoAnna914:
pennynjon:
JoAnna914:

pennynjon:
I need to just stay off there. The other day they were posting about how they couldn't read the posts about miscarriages, because it made them worry. It isn't contagious. Now their pet peeve is people posting about having a mc after only a few posts??? We are all in first tri! I have only posted a couple of times. It makes me so mad how selfish and insensitive people can be. But it is fine to read nine thousand posts a day about morning sickness.

I JUST commented on this on another thread on this board - I am astounded at their inability to have a little empathy toward a woman who probably has no idea what to do with herself at such a painful time. I know that the BMB boards are more snarky than we are here, but I just don't get the fear inspired by OTHER PEOPLE'S miscarriages.

. Hey, how are you doing? How was the us? I have been looking for an update.

Everything is perfectly fine - thanks so much for asking! The source of the spotting was a tiny polyp on my cervix that was disintegrating, and it's stopped altogether now. Otherwise, Little Bean is in perfect shape (at least so far)! I actually did an update in the same thread and bumped it up on Tuesday night, but I don't think a lot of people saw it.

So happy everything went okay!!!

mundayem · May 2011

I don't spend much time on mine. I feel like I would always be a debbie downer since I'm not an FH and are not all puppies and rainbows about everything all the time.

JoAnna914 · May 2011

Thanks, penny and smallfry! I don't want to hijack this thread and be an AW (we're supposed to be indignant and outraged in this thread, lol), but wanted to thank you for your support and kind thoughts!

anonomity · May 2011

Froggy76:
The Nov. board went through this too. I also hated the follow-up posts for reassurance... some ladies think that they should start their own thread for other people to tell them that they're not going to end up like the poor sap who just had a m/c. Drove me crazy. You know the ladies who m/c are still checking in... why would you post something that basically says, "Sucks to be them. I hope it doesn't happen to me!"

Yup, this is why I rarely post on Nov BMB... unless it is to put some stupid b!tch in her place. Wink

hugs&hissyfits · May 2011

The tick me off regularly so I haven't been over there that much. I'm going to check it out now though Wink

vlewis515 · May 2011

I'm sorry they were being such cvnts. You know what makes me snarky? People that talk about things that they have no experience with! And for that matter people who have had experience with something and still have no sensitivity for it!

butterflynola · May 2011

I Rarely go on my bmb or even the tri boards I like to stay around here where we are more understanding and realistic. Sorry they're such jerks

try not to let it get to you.

RizziB · May 2011

I just read the whole thread and I'm shaking my head. I saw the first post about the m/c post pet peeve earlier when there weren't many replies, but I was shocked to see how many people agreed with her! I tend to lurk more than post, but I had to agree with you on that one! How incredibly insensitive!!

I hope all the other December PgAL ladies don't abandon the board though because clearly some balance is needed over there!

ashleyrsotomayor · May 2011

I stopped reading/posting on my BMB pretty early on. There was some ridiculous drama and FHness over there and it was just annoying. I like you all much better:)

magel050485 · May 2011

I read the UO on your BMB and it made it ill too. I dont think they realize that people post this looking for support, that many other people on the boards have miscarried and often reach out to them offering support. I hope they all get over their unselfish ways before becoming parents.

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