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Child Free plans?

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Anyone else planning child free stuff?

Did that sound weird? I just mean DH and I are trying to embrace the path we've ended up on by making plans that include things we thought we'd given up due to our future children. Don't get me wrong. I am no where NEAR ready to go all Pollyana and silver lining and crap. Just trying to focus on on what not having kids ADDS to our lives.

Everything from stupid, small stuff like guilt-free daily coffee to signing up for my first 1/2 marathon (ok, it's only a relay so I'm only doing half... but it's a start, right!). And I think I have my DH convinced we should spend Christmas in Africa with my brother.

Anybody else? I go back and forth in the extremes. One minute I'm able to fully embrace my life and be excited about the future, even if it doesn't involved kids... and then next I'm horribly depressed thinking coffee is my consolation prize for no baby?!?!

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  • KristysRedBarnKristysRedBarn

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    I'm horribly depressed thinking coffee is my consolation prize for no baby?!?!

    Same here, but that doesn't stop me from going to Starbucks any chance I get!  

     We have started looking at that ourselves, especially in relation to our house.  Our house is 112 years old.  It's a 4 bedroom house, and now we so don't need all of those bedrooms.  In fact we don't really even use the top floor, so we're trying to figure out what we can do with it.

    We're talking about Hawaii for Thanksgiving.  We're also planning to sit down and plan what we can do with all the money we had been giving to the RE/meds.

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  • babygirlpriestbabygirlpriest

    I so get the housing thing. Unfortunately DH and I are stuck.

    When we started ttc we moved from our condo in a hip, urban neighborhood on the outskirts of DC to a 4 bedroom house in the 'burbs (cause, you know, I thought TTC meant I'd actually get a baby... stupid, I know). I feel so lame. We're the only family in the neighborhood without kids.

    We'd move if we could, but having only bought the place a few years ago it just doesn't make financial sense. And I really do love our house. I just miss living a bit closer to the action.

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  • sillygirliosillygirlio member

    Yes, I go back and forth all the time and it stinks because currently I go around in  a triangle between excited for a child free future, to horribly sad... to "maybe we should adopt, what if we regret not trying it when we're old" to "no, we can't take another ride like that" (I'm have no faith that adoption will result in a child, just more heartbreak) and then back to excited or sad.  I think until the last (adoption) one stops comming to mind, I'll be unable to plan big child free fun because I still feel the need to hoard money in case we change our mind.  It's a sickness.

    We do talk about all the things we *could* do if we didn't have kids, but right now we're in too much debt to take it seriously anyway.

     

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