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How do you manage the kiddos at Church?  Is there a crying/family room?

I ask because the few times I've tried to sit and listen to the service w/ RB, its craziness.  She talks and wants to run around, ect.  Our Church has a nursery that's set up like childcare (ie. you drop the kids off and the adults to go service) but RB has never let us leave her there w/o screaming her head off.  So when we go to Church, it ends up being Sprout in Church school and the mommies + girls playing in the nursery.  I'd like to be able to actually listen to the service sometime in the next few years Confused   any tips?

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  • InfamousQBertInfamousQBert

    i don't know how bad the screaming is, but i worked in my church's nursery in high school and we were used to kids screaming when they were dropped off. there's always at least one kid who screams every single time and then calms down after a while. one little boy became my special project because he was SO bad. by the end of a week, he still cried, but would settle down after 5 or 10 minutes (instead of the hour or so at first) and was a pretty normal, playful kid.

    that's all just encouragement to maybe give the nursery another try if you think it could work.

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  • sugarisamazingsugarisamazing

    I'm sorry, I don't mean to butt in. I was just going to add that the screaming when trying to drop off is pretty normal for a lot of kids. I know its hard, but usually its best to just walk away. Its much easier than trying to push her away or keep telling her over and over that you're leaving, as kids dont usually understand what's going on. Working in a back-up childcare center, we got children that were not used to being left at daycare all the time and it always seemed that the children whose parent's hung around too long had a much harder time adjusting. If mom or dad said goodbye, dropped off and walked away, the children were usually much easier to calm and had more fun.

    Sorry, didn't mean to make that a novel, just my .02 :)

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  • LolaBelle515LolaBelle515 member
    I'm not a mom (yet!!), but I am a minister and we see this regularly---it's totally normal:)  

    A few ideas:
     
    First, ask your pastor. He/she knows your congregation best...they might have creative ideas of what has been done in the past in your community.
     
    Does your daughter have a little kid friend in church? Maybe they can play together before going into the nursery, so that she's more comfortable when you need to leave.
     
    You could also try leaving for just a few minutes during the service (ie. the sermon or communion or whatever) and coming back to get her after that...each week, make it a few minutes more until she's used to being in the nursery more.
     
    Does she have a favorite toy? Perhaps you could bring it with her to distract her a bit? 
     
    In the end, know that your congregation supports however your family worships, whether it means in and out every five minutes or in the nursery when needed.
     
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  • thiswillbethiswillbe
    Have to run to a meeting, but just wanted to say I see your question and will be right back to answer it. :)
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    And by "right back" I mean two days later... Stick out tongue Sorry, it's been a crazy week at work. Annnnyway...

    Our Church is pretty small, and unfortunately they don't offer (or have any space for) childcare, so the kiddos have to stay with us the whole time. They have a cry room, but it's not very sound proof (learned that the hard way!) and the sound system in there is perpetually on the fritz, so we can't hear much of what is going on if we go in there.

    We usually start out with them sitting with us in the pews. We bring sippies, quiet snacks (bagels are good), and quiet toys. We keep the kids on our laps, mostly, or sometimes on the floor directly in front of us. We usually make it about 20 minutes before one or the other of them starts talking loudly, at which point one or the other of us (usually we rotate weekends) takes the noisy one out an adjoining room to play. Once the second one gets noisy, they are brought out, too, and the other mom goes back to see the rest of the service. We pick the kids up and take them with us at communion time, so S and I can receive communion together.

    We like the place we go, but I've been thinking about looking for alternatives because a) they only have one service, which starts at 11 and runs right into their prime nap time, which is rough and b) it'd be nice to go somewhere that has childcare so S and I could attend the service together.

    married 03/08/08 -- ttc with PCOS (dx 2005) & DS
    IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
    Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
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