God I feel like an a$$.

naturelle25 · May 2011

We got an invite to a kids birthday party today that said "no gifts please." In the back of my mind, I knew I should bring a gift, but I didnt. Things got so hectic this week and I just didnt have time. I think almost everyone else showed up with a gift. I feel like such an a$$...ugh. I almost feel like I owe an apology to the mom!

BobbiJanay07 · May 2011

I don't, if you didn't bring a gift you followed the request.

OctGirl80 · May 2011

BobbiJanay07:
I don't, if you didn't bring a gift you followed the request.

Ditto. If I wrote "no gifts" on an invite and people still gave gifts, I'd be annoyed and appreciating that you followed my request.

I've already had to tell people to stop buying things for DD. I appreciate the gesture but she already has more clothes than she'll ever wear and more toys than can fit in 2 toy boxes. Seriously, enough already.

*Willis* · May 2011

Please. THe mom is probably thanking you for following her request. No gifts means no gifts. And usually means the person has more crap than they want/have room for.

notkateanymore · May 2011

You shouldn't feel like an ass. You did what they asked. I HATE when people don't follow the simple instructions of don't bring a gift.

JAM2000 · May 2011

don't feel bad. You did what the invite said.

I on the otherhand, did not do what an invite said.....a few months ago we got an invite to a b-day party for a kid my son met through storytime. We just know the mom and the kid through that. We get an invite to the party and the invite included a card with an "in lieu of a toy or clothing, please make a contribution to our son's 529 account. Minimum contributions start at $25" Seriously, we got this in an invite. I'm not a family member, just a mom and her kid who these people met through storytime. I mean something like that is something you send to a grandparent or aunt or uncle- not casual friends.

Needless to say, the kid got a $12 playdoh toy from Target and I didn't feel bad about it one bit!

susanmosley · May 2011

ugh

THERE SHOULDN'T BE AN UNSPOKEN RULE THAT YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BRING A GIFT WHEN IT SAYS NOT TO BRING A GIFT.

and yes, I am shouting about it. You certainly, hands down, for sure, not a doubt, absolutely do NOT owe anyone an apology for not taking a gift when it said not to take a gift.

did I say ugh yet? Ugh.

susanmosley · May 2011

JAM2000:
I on the otherhand, did not do what an invite said.....a few months ago we got an invite to a b-day party for a kid my son met through storytime. We just know the mom and the kid through that. We get an invite to the party and the invite included a card with an "in lieu of a toy or clothing, please make a contribution to our son's 529 account. Minimum contributions start at $25" Seriously, we got this in an invite. I'm not a family member, just a mom and her kid who these people met through storytime. I mean something like that is something you send to a grandparent or aunt or uncle- not casual friends.

AND holy crap to this.

JAM2000 · May 2011

susanmosley:
JAM2000:
I on the otherhand, did not do what an invite said.....a few months ago we got an invite to a b-day party for a kid my son met through storytime. We just know the mom and the kid through that. We get an invite to the party and the invite included a card with an "in lieu of a toy or clothing, please make a contribution to our son's 529 account. Minimum contributions start at $25" Seriously, we got this in an invite. I'm not a family member, just a mom and her kid who these people met through storytime. I mean something like that is something you send to a grandparent or aunt or uncle- not casual friends.
AND holy crap to this.

oh and let me tell you how many other local moms I've mentioned this too .....and I don't care if it gets back to the mom who sent it.

naturelle25 · May 2011

rmj80:

Why would you feel bad for following instructions? Was the mom/child expecting gifts even though she left different instructions? It really pisses me off when people ask for/say one thing, but really expect another...

Did the kid open them in front of everyone??

I wouldn't feel bad at all...

YES! I think this is why I felt so bad. I really dont think the mom was expecting gifts at all. They are actually a really well-off family and their daughter seems to have every toy under the sun. Im sure she really did mean "no gifts."

MCC1010 · May 2011

JAM2000:

don't feel bad. You did what the invite said.

I on the otherhand, did not do what an invite said.....a few months ago we got an invite to a b-day party for a kid my son met through storytime. We just know the mom and the kid through that. We get an invite to the party and the invite included a card with an "in lieu of a toy or clothing, please make a contribution to our son's 529 account. Minimum contributions start at $25" Seriously, we got this in an invite. I'm not a family member, just a mom and her kid who these people met through storytime. I mean something like that is something you send to a grandparent or aunt or uncle- not casual friends.

Needless to say, the kid got a $12 playdoh toy from Target and I didn't feel bad about it one bit!

WTH? That is rude not to mention tacky.

Andrewsgal · May 2011

This is why I Hate no gift parties and unless it is a close friend will skip them. If I don't skip them I will always bring a gift! I think putting no gifts please on invitations is so very very rude to begin with.

heatherglen814 · May 2011

MCC1010:
JAM2000:

don't feel bad. You did what the invite said.

I on the otherhand, did not do what an invite said.....a few months ago we got an invite to a b-day party for a kid my son met through storytime. We just know the mom and the kid through that. We get an invite to the party and the invite included a card with an "in lieu of a toy or clothing, please make a contribution to our son's 529 account. Minimum contributions start at $25" Seriously, we got this in an invite. I'm not a family member, just a mom and her kid who these people met through storytime. I mean something like that is something you send to a grandparent or aunt or uncle- not casual friends.

Needless to say, the kid got a $12 playdoh toy from Target and I didn't feel bad about it one bit!

WTH? That is rude not to mention tacky.

Holy crap! My jaw dropped with this. It's like stating on a wedding invite: Cash gifts only, please.

almostjennifer · May 2011

JAM2000:

don't feel bad. You did what the invite said.

I on the otherhand, did not do what an invite said.....a few months ago we got an invite to a b-day party for a kid my son met through storytime. We just know the mom and the kid through that. We get an invite to the party and the invite included a card with an "in lieu of a toy or clothing, please make a contribution to our son's 529 account. Minimum contributions start at $25" Seriously, we got this in an invite. I'm not a family member, just a mom and her kid who these people met through storytime. I mean something like that is something you send to a grandparent or aunt or uncle- not casual friends.

Needless to say, the kid got a $12 playdoh toy from Target and I didn't feel bad about it one bit!

Indifferent

hiltyn78 · May 2011

Andrewsgal:
This is why I Hate no gift parties and unless it is a close friend will skip them. If I don't skip them I will always bring a gift! I think putting no gifts please on invitations is so very very rude to begin with.

I understand it might be rude to specify it but don't you ever feel that, as a mom, your kid already has too. much. stuff? I so wish I could have a birthday party that was just a bunch of kids playing at our house, eating cake, having fun, and then going home. I don't think my DD would care if she got one thing or not. But if I want that, I have to move to fantasyland. so strange.

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