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Pregnant after a Loss
FH Vent!
Whenever people ask me if this is my first, I always say that we have four angel babies and hopefully this will be our first take home baby. It's just my automatic reply and I wouldn't feel right saying it's my first because I don't feel that way.
Anyway, a lady at the store asked me today if this was my first and I said what I always do and she got really mad. She told me I shouldn't talk about my losses. She told me that she is 9 weeks pregnant and it makes her nervous and sad to hear about others losses. Really? Well I'm so sorry for making YOU nervous. I will just pretend like my four babies that I lost never exsisted so you can be a comfortable FH! Errrr!
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Re: FH Vent!
BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
BFP#3 8/19/13 Another boy! 17P, modified bedrest and Nifedipine helped us have a termie! DS2 born 4/19/14 at 38w5d.
Loss #6 2014 Loss #7 (chemical) 2014
~DS Born! 2009~
~DD Born! 2013~
The brothers I Rule and OMG! with their faithful sidekickFootFoot.
My life has a superb cast but I can't figure out the plot.
Oh she was just a doll.
I just told her that she couldn't catch a m/c and that I wasn't going to ignore my 4 angels just to make her feel better. And that I hoped she had a very healthy nine months and I walked away.
I just don't understand how self absorbed people can be!
Good answer! What a twatwaffle!
Haha, awesomeness!
BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
BFP#3 8/19/13 Another boy! 17P, modified bedrest and Nifedipine helped us have a termie! DS2 born 4/19/14 at 38w5d.
Agreed! I'm still struggling with that answer. If it's someone I know, they know it's not my first. It's all the strangers that ask questions. I seem to be sticking to "hopefully our first living child."
BFP #1: 07/10/2009, Missed m/c, D&C 08/12/2009
BFP #2: 01/31/2010, Identical Twins died in utero due to TTTS, D&E 05/19/2010
BFP #3: 09/16/2010, natural m/c 9/21/2010
PCOS & Bocornuate Uterus Dx 1.4.2011
BFP #4: 01/11/2011
WOW, what a biatch! Maybe she shouldn't ask these questions if she can't handle the answer. Forget her!
ETA: Great response! I hope you made her feel like the giant douche she is.
BFP 5/9/10. U/S - no heartbeat 6/2/10 (7 weeks). Induced miscarriage 6/7/10.
Chemical pregnancies 12/2/10, 1/3/11, and 2/7/11.
dx: RPL due to poor quality uterine lining; begin progesterone January 2011
BFP 3/10/11. EDD 11/19/11. E arrived 11/15/11!
Loss Blog | Life Blog
Holy fvck...I can't believe she said that to you! I would have flipped.
If you can't take an answer, don't ask the question! I love your response!
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
BFP-2/4/10 EDD-9/27/10 M/C-2/11/10 7w3d D&C and Methotrexate-2/19/10
BFP-11/21/10 M/C-11/25/10
Clomid Cycle #1-BFN
Clomid Cycle #2-BFP-1/18/2011 M/C-1/26/2011
BFP-5/18/11 Riley arrived 2/3/12 8lbs6oz 21.5in
What a terrible person. God forbid she ever goes through a loss, I hope people don't treat her how she treated you. Your response was perfect.
BFP #1 4/22/10 MC 5/5/10 (6w4d) EDD 12/25/10
BFP #2 10/19/10 CP 10/27/10 (4w6d) EDD 6/30/11
BFP #3 5/10/11 Lucas Abelardo born 12/29/11 at 37w3d
BFP #4 12/10/12 MMC 1/14/13 (9w3d) D&C 1/15/13 EDD 8/16/13
BFP #5 8/22/13 Lucia Elizabeth born 4/17/14 at 38w
Oh, you should see a thread on the December BMB right now talking about snark. Apparently, the consensus is that women who have three or four posts and then post that they are miscarrying are offensive. "It just makes us nervous." Um, miscarriage is not contagious, you asshats. Sorry it's so difficult for you to cope with something happening to someone else, and that you have such in inability to show any amount of empathy.
OP - I'm so sorry you were faced with such blatant rudeness and hostility. You certainly performed with grace under pressure with that response of yours, though!