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February 2011 Moms
sbuxsweetie
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Non-clicky family planning poll
sbuxsweetie
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Because the board has been slow..
1. How many children would you like to have? Why?
2. Are you and SO on the same page about the "magic number?"
3. Will you, at any point, do something permanent to prevent more babies? How do you think you'll know when you're done? If you're not planning on having any more, how come?
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Re: Non-clicky family planning poll
1. How many children would you like to have? Why? I want 3; I'd even be willing to consider a fourth.
2. Are you and SO on the same page about the "magic number?" Not lately. DH is worried about finances mostly, and definitely wants 2, but is still a little unsure about 3.
3. Will you, at any point, do something permanent to prevent more babies? How do you think you'll know when you're done? If you're not planning on having any more, how come? If I end up having more c-sections, we will discuss getting my tubes tied while I'm in the OR, but I won't consider this unless we both agree on it and feel a sense of completion. If I'm unsure, I'll wait and possibly ask DH to get snipped later, when we're ready to be done for sure.
ETA: Forgot the "why" in Q1: I am the oldest of 3 and LOVED having 2 siblings growing up. We have always been close, and I would love for DS to have the same experience.
1) I don't want any more. DD is enough and it takes up SO much energy to care for her. Not to mention the amount of financial stress involved. I do enjoy sleep and having time to myself, but caring for DD all the time with H at work and me keeping everything up to par at home AND working myself is a little much right now. And (don't hurt me) I really don't like kids. At all lol
2) H probably wants more. Whenever anyone mentions more he says 'not right now' so I'm thinking he still really just wants to have a little boy. UGH.
3)I think when I've got a better foundation/career under me that H and I will have an actual talk about more or not. We're young so I'm not going to say 'absolutely not' if he REALLY wants one more. Haven't thought about what to do if he agrees with 'no more' yet.
Haha, I have a friend who feels the same way, and she has two daughters. She was so psyched to get past the baby stages and into the "little lady" stuff.
Curious.. was DD planned? Most people I know who say they don't like kids but have them, had them by surprise.
1. How many children would you like to have? Why?
I always wanted 3 - but after we lost our first daughter I think I am really happy with just one. I don't think I could handle the stress of another pregnancy - I was so stressed this pregnancy that the same thing would happen and didn't enjoy it.
2. Are you and SO on the same page about the "magic number?"
We are both happy with things how they are now. But he was never on board for 3 only 2.
3. Will you, at any point, do something permanent to prevent more babies? How do you think you'll know when you're done? If you're not planning on having any more, how come?
In a few years when we are positive we aren't going to have more kids and are old enough that insurance will pay for one of us to do something permanent then we will.
1. How many children would you like to have? Why? I would like to have 2 children. Possibly three. I like kids, I think they're great and I'm excited to watch them grow and learn.
2. Are you and SO on the same page about the "magic number?" We're on the same page about two, yes. DH has another child from a previous marriage so doesn't want a third. I think the financial situation will play a big role in whether or not there's a third baby. Also, my health, since I got severe pre-e with my first, I feel like if I have another difficult medical condition with number two, we might stop.
3. Will you, at any point, do something permanent to prevent more babies? How do you think you'll know when you're done? If you're not planning on having any more, how come? We will likely get DH snipped. It's easier and, honestly, I don't want to get my tubes tied. I don't know if we'll know whether or not we're done. There are days now when I think I'm all done, but I know we're not.
Definitely not planned lol but it's not her fault so I try to make her ridiculously happy.
A Frog, A Monkey and a Ladybug
1. How many children would you like to have? Why?
4 but if I am not a VBAC candidate we will stop at 3, possible 2. I do not want to put myself at risk just to have more children.
2. Are you and SO on the same page about the "magic number?"
He doesn't really care. He gets the deer and headlights like when I tell him 4 children though, lol.
3. Will you, at any point, do something permanent to prevent more babies? How do you think you'll know when you're done? If you're not planning on having any more, how come?
Truthfully, and some may not agree, but I would love to look into just getting rid of my uterus. Between the endo and pmdd it can make life really hard sometimes and it can affect my relationship with people, especially MH.
No idea when we will know when are done though. Maybe we get that feeling when you know your family is complete.
1. Just one! We are big into travel and would like to be able to take DD with us - but feel like 2 would make it so hard. Plus there's the financial side of it - and we don't know if we'd even be able to conceive again (DD was conceived via IUI). Also, I'm already 35 and would feel like we'd need to start trying again soon and we are SOOOO not ready for that yet.
2. Yes, we are 100% on the same page
3. DH was told he can't get me pregnant (well, the Dr said it would be like winning the lottery...twice) So, he doesn't think we need to use any BC. I'm still thinking of doing something just in case since we REALLY don't want anymore babies. We love DD, but we really are built to be parents of one.
1. How many children would you like to have? at this moment in time, DH & I are both completely content with one. Why? b/c kids are a h*ll of a lotta work and we are selfish in some respects, namely this one.
2. Are you and SO on the same page about the "magic number?" yes, totally insync.
3. Will you, at any point, do something permanent to prevent more babies? doubtful. How do you think you'll know when you're done? good question- I don't know, I haven't thought about it too much. I think it'll be instinctual- like right now, I don't feel the urge to have another....however, DS is still so new, so I'm open to that mindset changing for current and potential future babies. If you're not planning on having any more, how come? see #1
Just the one. We just really feel that this will be the best fit for our family. It will allow us more time with DS, more travel, resources, more space. We also both grew up with same sex siblings close in age and neither of us had great relationships as kids. We know that siblings don't always equal best friends/confidants. 2. Are you and SO on the same page about the "magic number?"
Yes, definitely.3. Will you, at any point, do something permanent to prevent more babies? How do you think you'll know when you're done? If you're not planning on having any more, how come?
DH has already volunteered to get the snip so I'll probably take him up on that. We decided on one child before we had DS and our experience with him has absolutely confirmed our decision. I'm sure one day I'll miss how teeny tiny he was but I would never want to relive what we went through with him in the first few months.
1. How many children would you like to have? Why?
We want 2 earth babies and we may consider a 3rd.
2. Are you and SO on the same page about the "magic number?"
Yes
3. Will you, at any point, do something permanent to prevent more babies? How do you think you'll know when you're done? If you're not planning on having any more, how come?
I will not do anything permanent nor will I stay on BC. He's fertile every day and I'm only fertile for a day or two out of the month. He can get snipped or use condoms.
1. We'd like 3. We both are the youngest in familes of 3, so I guess it feels like the right number. Honestly though, we want at least one of each flavor, so if by chance we ended up with 3 girls, we'd probably try for a 4th.
2. Yes. I thought we might change our minds after the first, but we're still sticking to it.
3. I have no idea if we'll do anything permanent. We haven't talked about it, I guess because it's several years and several pregnancies down the road.
I like this thread..
1) I want 3-4.
2) Dh feels the same. we are planning for 3 and if we feel we are financially stable for another or that we do not feel complete he is on board for another. We both want a big family and both come from big families.
3) He will probably get snipped when we decide we are finished. I refuse to go on BCP ever again.
1. How many children would you like to have? Why? I use to want as many as God gave me since I have PCOS, but after this one.. We are one and done. Unless God has other plans that I am not aware of:)
2. Are you and SO on the same page about the "magic number?" Yes we are
3. Will you, at any point, do something permanent to prevent more babies? How do you think you'll know when you're done? If you're not planning on having any more, how come? Nope I would never do anything permanent beacuse you never know.
1. I think just two. I have always felt like I don't want to be outnumbered between children and adults, in all honesty. Plus, I'm not sure if we can afford more than that.
2. For the most part. I know DH wants more, I think he wants 3, and I guess it's possible, but we at least definitely agree on at least 2.
3. Absolutely. DH is getting the snip. I think we'll just know when it's the time.
BFP # 1 - 12/19/09 EDD 08/27/10 - D&C 1/26/10 @ 9w5d
BFP # 2 - 06/05/10 EDD 02/17/11, DS1 born on 2/14/11
BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d
BFP # 4 - 07/27/13 EDD 04/08/14 - CP 07/29/13
BFP # 5 - 09/14/13 EDD 05/28/14, DS2 born on 5/22/14