Am I the only one...

autumn wren · May 2011

announcing before 12 weeks? We've already told our families and we plan on telling our friends next week as long as all goes wel at our appointment and we hear the heartbeat. I just can't wait that long and my family has already begun telling their friends...there's no way it would stay a secret for four or five more weeks. I understand waiting and I hope I don't get flamed for telling so early. I really am feeling like the minority here!

cynasmin · May 2011

we plan to start telling family & friends after our appointment tomorrow - around the time of some other family news that we are waiting on!

cschissell · May 2011

No one should flame you for doing what you want. We are telling close family after our first appointment when we know everything is progressing ok, but we decided to wait till 12 weeks to tell friends. I might need to tell some friends before hand though because of my 30th birthday coming up in June. We usually take each other out for drinks and shots for big birthdays. Not happening this year.

JGM281207 · May 2011

We've started telling close family and friends. I'm feeling comfortable with things, and those closest to me can tell I'm not feeling well anyway so there is no point in hiding it. As for general work/acquaintances we'll wait till 12 week.s

MrsMeMo · May 2011

Our appointment is Friday at 7w6d. Once I tell my boss (either Thursday before or Monday after) we'll be telling the rest of our friends and family. I felt like I didn't tell enough people the first time, and b/c of that I got very little support.

LoniTJ · May 2011

We've told quite a few people already. We are way to excited too keep it a secret and I know that the people we've told would be very supportive if something were to happen. It's all a personal choice, to each their own!

ondjima · May 2011

I told my best friend tonight. She has been praying for me the whole time, I felt like she needed to know! We will tell our parents after the appointment on Thursday. I am so excited!

darters82 · May 2011

It's nothing to be flamed over. It's a personal choice. Some people are comfortable telling right away, and others want to wait.

We have told no one so far. With DS we told our parents at 7.5-8 weeks, after we had our first appointment and an u/s. We told everyone else at 12 weeks. That's what we'd like to do this time, but my first appointment won't be until 9.5 weeks, and we won't have an u/s, so we'll wait and see how that appointment goes before deciding whether to go ahead and tell our parents.

It really is up to you with whatever you feel comfortable doing!

illinigal · May 2011

Since my parents and sister knew we were going through IVF, they knew the day of my beta. My sister would have hounded me, so they all knew the day of our BFP. DH's parents and brother don't know yet, but we'll probably tell them this weekend if my first ultrasound looks good on Thurs. As for friends and others, we'll probably wait until at least 10 weeks.

CalMum_Momma · May 2011

No one should flame you. It's your choice. We told both times almost as soon as I had POAS! Last time we told MIL within a couple days (only waited to do it in person) and then told my family a week later (also waited until we could do it in person). That time I was about 7 weeks along. This time, according to my ticker I am about 4w (not sure that's accurate yet), but we've already told everyone. I even made the big FB announcement and told the other parents at storytime.

starrynyt · May 2011

I think this is such a personal decision and I know for sure you're not the only one announcing before 12 weeks. Do what feels right to you...it's okay if you're in the minority.

ETA: Given my past history of m/c we aren't telling anyone yet (only my sister knows) and after we see a h/b may consider telling a small group of people.

JenTorrge · May 2011

You should definitely tell as soon as you want to! I am TRYING to wait till 12 weeks due to previous losses, but EVERYONE knows we are trying and I keep so many friends up to date on what's going on that I'm sure they'll figure it out! LOL Congratulations to you!!

califorever81 · May 2011

We finished telling our family and friends yesterday. The only reason it took so long is because we wanted to do it in person. We haven't talked about Facebook yet, but since all the important people already know I don't see why we would keep it a secret on there.

jason&robin · May 2011

This is my last baby so we wanted to do something fun and special. My first appt isn't until 9 weeks and we wanted to make sure all was okay. That following weekend (June 25), we will tell the family and I will then put up a ticker.

autumn wren · May 2011

Thanks, that makes me feel a lot better. I really felt like I was the only one telling at eight weeks or earlier. I'm praying all goes well at our appointment next Wednesday. I can't wait to see how much our little one has grown!! It's still so surreal.

TheDuckis · May 2011

We've already told my sister and H's close friend, and we just got the BFP yesterday. I'm telling my parents tomorrow (it's my mom's birthday). We also have friends coming into town this weekend and there's no way I'll be able to hide not drinking from them. I am seeing my doctor tomorrow, but I doubt she'll have any more conclusive information than the pee stick this early on.

We'll probably wait until 12ish weeks to tell work and the world at large, but my feeling is that even if something happens I'm not going to hide a miscarriage from my family, so there's no use holding out on them.

Jessiree · May 2011

It's not a flameful decision. I told my mom and a couple of friends the day I got my BFP, but they all knew we were in treatment cycle, so there was really no avoiding saying something anyway. We are going to tell the rest of my immediate family after we hear the h/b - I have an u/s scheduled for Thursday, and then we'll tell my extended family around 10-11 weeks. We aren't telling my ILs until 14 weeks, so we'll keep the news pretty quiet until after that point, though.

KHab1 · May 2011

I think it's different for everyone and you should do what feels right for you. The reason I'm waiting:

We told early - at around 5w - last time and it was a disaster. We had an ultrasound where they told us the baby had died, so we had to tell our families that we lost the baby. Two days later I had an ultrasound where everything was ok, and the baby was alive, so I had to tell them, no, everything is ok ... THEN I lost the baby for real and had to tell family and friends AGAIN that we lost the baby.

It's so hard to contain the excitement, and I want to tell everyone I see, but I don't want to put them through that again. So even though my family keeps asking me if I'm pg. because I'm not drinking and not feeling great, I keep saying no. Hopefully this time when I do announce it, there will be no going back!

littlemonster417 · May 2011

No, DH and I have already announced it to everyone. After we saw the hb we went ahead and told.

Misha14 · May 2011

We have already told both our mothers and my grandparents as well as our siblings and some of our closets friends.

I had a miscarriage last November and I did the exact same thing and don't regret it. The fact that the people I love and who love me got to experience the excitement of my first pregnancy and then support me through the sadness of the loss was priceless.

After trying to conceive for over two years I believe that the fact that we are pregnant is something to be celebrated! I want to tell the world, but have settled for those close to me.

It's okay to be excited and want to share that excitement with the people you love.

lauren.cus · May 2011

Nope! I'm in the exact same boat! If all goes well at the u/s tomorrow well be out in the open

shortstuff15 · May 2011

We told our parents already and will be telling the rest of the family after I make it to 9 weeks, as that is longer then what I lasted with my last pregnancy. If I waited until I saw/heard the heartbeat it would be probably 14 weeks and I'll likely be showing by then!

debrian08 · May 2011

We are telling our immediately family this weekend, as long as the u/s looks good today. FX! We're going on a trip for a week, then when we get back we plan on telling friends.

We probably won't do the FB reveal until closer to 12 weeks (same for work).

JessieP76 · May 2011

We've told some close friends and immediate family. I guess we'll share more around 12 weeks. I haven't told my boss because I'm asking for more money and I don't want that to influence it.

alirdavis7 · May 2011

I told most of my family when I was only 6 weeks, I was so excited I couldn't help it and I'm a terrible liar. I say tell how ever you want when ever you want.

ctgirlingermany · May 2011

It is a completely personal decision. Nobody should flame you for when you chose to announce your pregnancy.
I didn't announce my first pregnancy, and had to then call people to tell them I was in the hospital having surgery, family included, and then had to explain that it was my first pregnancy, etc. For me, it was super awkward, and for this reason, I chose to announce to family and close friends this time as soon as we saw the heartbeat at 6w.

Do what you believe is right, this is best for you!

StarreEyes · May 2011

I told my mom over the weekend, and my three closest friends. In my mind, these are people that I would definitely tell if we had a loss, so I might as well tell them early. If the worst were to happen, at least they had a chance to be happy with me, before the pain. If all goes well at my next ultrasound, we'll tell the remainder of our families.

mundayem · May 2011

I say more power to you if you feel comfortable telling that early. I know I'm not planning on telling anyone until at least week 14 but that's only becuase of my losses and what all I know about what can go wrong I just don't want to tell a bunch of people to have to turn around and tell them that something might be wrong with another pregnancy of mine. I'm hopeful everything is ok but with so much uncertainty I'm just not comfortable sharing until later.

Shayliz · May 2011

We told our immediate family already and my boss and fellow supervisors because I needed help covering a shift when I was sick. Otherwise, we are going to try and wait to hear the heartbeat to tell anyone else.

twoBECAMEone · May 2011

We told everyone the day we found out at exactly 4 weeks. Mostly because everyone knew that we were doing IVF. They were all supportive the whole way through and I knew that if anything bad happend and we miscarried that they would be there for us as well. It's not a rule that you wait until 12 weeks and if you want to tell people, you have every right to yell it from the rooftops!

eklanger · May 2011

We are going to try to hold out until father's day which for us will be just over 8 weeks. That will be after our second appointment and we should have heard a heartbeat by then.

Raven0227 · May 2011

twoBECAMEone:
It's not a rule that you wait until 12 weeks and if you want to tell people, you have every right to yell it from the rooftops!

I agree with this and much of what the other ladies have said. We haven't told everyone. I'm waiting until I'm in Boston to tell my father, step-mom and extended family in person. I've already told my BFF and some close coworkers. I needed to tell my coworkers for when I need to run out of my classroom for the many potty breaks. It's a personal choice. We've told a lot sooner with each pregnancy it seems.

liveandlove10 · May 2011

I told my BFF right after I pee'd on the stick. I needed help finding an OB and she's had 3 kids so she knew who to direct me to. I also told my boss when I was 5 weeks 3 days. The doctor had scheduled a bunch of blood work, and appointments so I figured it was easier to tell her then lie about why I was missing work.

DH's parents will find out this Saturday, and my mother & brother will find out Sunday. It's been killing me to keep it from them for so long, but my SIL just got married on Sunday and we didn't want everyone to know before her wedding. Plus my brother and BIL are good friends, and I didn't want to chance telling my family and having my brother spill the beans to BIL.

elandric · May 2011

We've told a few people. We're telling DH's family this week because they will be in town (they live 2000 miles away) and I will be telling mine probably at 10 wks. I think it just depends on the person and what experiences youve had in the past. I can see why those who have had previous losses wait or if you just want to be cautious.

bbaker1028 · May 2011

We've told our families and I have told a few close friends. I am horrible at keeping secrets!!

Want a personalized experience?

Am I the only one...

Re: Am I the only one...

Choose Another Board

Search Boards