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Team Green & having 2nd thoughts

Mommy2BMichelleMommy2BMichelle
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We found out with our DD1, this time we thought it would be nice to have a surprise.  Considering we have most of the essentials in neutral, we'd have to get some clothes - not too bad. 

BUT i'm having 2nd thoughts.  This is my 2nd and there are a bunch of things that are... different.  I feel like i'm not as into this pregnancy as my 1st - from what i've heard from fellow bumpies, could be normal,  But I really don't feel that "connected" to baby to be and i'm wondering if knowing the sex is the difference? 

I just feel like there is stuff i'm missing out with #2 than the bond we established with DD before she was born - I can't order the name in letters, I can't refer to him/her by name, I can't say he's pretty quiet today, or she is waking up now...

Anyone out there considering finding out the sex after this long?

Anyone out there find out and go team green and now have a preference?

I'm really leaning towards finding out - bonding with baby seems more important to me than having a surprise at this point, am i crazy?!

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  • Mommy2BMichelleMommy2BMichelle
    i should add that i can't for the life of me pick a name and i think this is why, i just keep pushing it back thinking i'll look at it later
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  • marybeth05marybeth05 member

    Your situation is the same as ours! We found out what we were having when I was pregnant with DD #1 and have decided to go Team Green this time around!

    It is hard but I am so looking forward to having that surprise in the delivery room!  In my personal experience my second pregnancy is different from my first in many ways- I feel that I am much busier at home and in my career...Taking care of a 4 year old and DH taking on his first year as a school principal has been time consuming!  It almost feels hard to sit down and absorb/enjoy this pregnancy!

    If you have made it this far stay strong and remain Team Green!!!! Good luck!!! 

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  • JustaKidAtHeartJustaKidAtHeart
    We just found out we are having boy #3 this last weekend. So we waited a long time.  I think that anything after baby #1 is different because it isnt your sole focus.  I say go with your gut.  If it is telling you that you need this to bond then do it.  If you think you will be disappointed you found out then dont.  When we were pregnant with the boys we found out and lied to EVERYONE saying we didnt know so that it was a surprise/big announcement for them.  Maybe that is your compromise.  You have to do what feels right to you.
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  • ExpatFamily06ExpatFamily06
    I'm not Team Green but I am also feeling less connected to this baby.  Since it's a boy, and we pretty much have everything, there is nothing new to buy really aside from a few things here and there.  I've already 'been there, done that' with the first, so I am not freaking out and researching and reading like a mad woman about everything this time around.  The only thing on my mind now is how the heck I am going to go from 1 too 2 kids.  
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  • beachgirl10beachgirl10

    We were Team Green for this one and have set up an elective ultrasound for this weekend to find out the sex. It is driving me crazy not being able to really buy anything, especially if it turns out to be a girl. Also, I want to call the baby by a name, not Baby LastName or anything like that.

    We found out with our DS at 19 weeks, and like you said, I just don't feel that connection with this one like I did with him. I also don't really "feel" like doing baby stuff to get ready because there isn't much to do with not knowing the sex of the baby. I am nesting and have some ideas to personalize the nursery but can't do it since we haven't found out yet. Finally, my DH just told me to set up an appt and find out.

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  • DarrenAndMelissaDarrenAndMelissa

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    I'm not Team Green but I am also feeling less connected to this baby.  Since it's a boy, and we pretty much have everything, there is nothing new to buy really aside from a few things here and there.  I've already 'been there, done that' with the first, so I am not freaking out and researching and reading like a mad woman about everything this time around.  The only thing on my mind now is how the heck I am going to go from 1 too 2 kids.  

    This exactly. We are expecting DD#2 so we already have everything. I finally got motivated and went to Hobby Lobby yesterday to get some decor for the nursery. Other than that, I feel like this pregnancy is just flying by and I'm definitely not as consumed by it as I was with DD#1.

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  • Mommy2BMichelleMommy2BMichelle

    Thanks for taking the time to reply gals! 

    As 1 said, hang in there!  I have that feeling too, feeling like maybe i'm just cracking!  I will have to give that some more thought!

    And, if we do find out, is that going to help the connection feeling? I'm not sure it will as so many have posted, it's just different with #2 or more

    I'm still not sure what we are going to do but will keep you posted 

    Take care everyone!

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