2+ moms, will you do things different?

Kristin131 · May 2011

DS's sleeping was terrible and I know part of that is just him, but I wonder if it was also something we were doing? Early on I know we didn't establish good bedtimes or a constant ritual, so that is something I will make sure to do better this time.

Also he was an "efficient" BFer, only like 5 minutes a side. I gave him a bottle at bedtime every night after 2 or 3 weeks so I could see how much he was eating (turns out he was very efficient lol) and then I would go pump. PITA. I think I will try and BF at bedtime with this one, although I'll have to see how that affects DS's bedtime ritual (I also put him down every night).

I don't know, I just feel like I can maybe "fix" things with this LO that almost sent us over the edge with DS and I'm kind of afraid I will try and over-correct. I know every baby is different so I'm a little scared of learning all over again!

mbritto4 · May 2011

I really don't remember a lot of DD's first few months due to PPD and deaths in my family before she was a month old. So this LO will seem easy compared to having to run to the hospital and spending a week in a funeral home sleep deprived.

This LO seems calmer than her sister so I hope she's a good baby, especially since MH will start traveling when she's 2 weeks old (unless one of us has complications). I'm still undecided on breastfeeding. I didn't have the best experience last time (due to that chaotic first month) but I have the Medela PIS so I plan to at least pump her first few months if feeding direct proves problematic again.

I'm most worried about how to handle 2 kids by myself, since MH will travel and all of my "support" people still have FT jobs.

BethD76 · May 2011

I'm going to start this LO on table food a lot sooner. I was really worried about choking and kept him eating his food pureed longer than I should have. He will still eat his vegetables pureed, and acts like he doesn't want to bother to chew certain things. Eventhough some days he will only eat food that he can feed himself. Maybe I can avoid this with DD.

rpm2009 · May 2011

I don't have big plans to do a lot of things differently, but I have had thoughts on a few things. With DS we didn't move him to the crib until he was almost 4 months old. We had plans to move him around 3 months but then he got his first cold and it got delayed. With this LO I think I might want to try and move him to his crib earlier - maybe at 8-10 weeks. The other thing that I have thought about is focusing on enjoying it more. With DS I was so nervous and fixated on nursing, etc. that I feel like I missed out on some of the more sweet moments. I know this is easier said then done, but I plan to try.

lissiealkie · May 2011

I don't think I'm going to do much differently with DD. About the only thing I'm going to do differently is try to BF with minimum pumping. I BF'd DS, but pumped exclusively due to him having a tight frenulum and not being able to latch on.

DS was and is a great sleeper and I truly believe its due to a sleep routine. We are hoping that DD will be the same.

BethD76 · May 2011

mbritto4:

I'm most worried about how to handle 2 kids by myself, since MH will travel and all of my "support" people still have FT jobs.

I worry about this too. MH hardly ever travels but I will be with the kids alone a lot.

Kristin131 · May 2011

BethD76:
I'm going to start this LO on table food a lot sooner. I was really worried about choking and kept him eating his food pureed longer than I should have. He will still eat his vegetables pureed, and acts like he doesn't want to bother to chew certain things. Eventhough some days he will only eat food that he can feed himself. Maybe I can avoid this with DD.

Oh ya and this! DS will actually pick pieces of veggies out of what they are mixed into and hand them to us. But if I puree them he loves them. Same with chicken and other meats.

Also I plan to actually try and nap while LO naps instead of trying to save the world like I did last time lol.

Gummybear · May 2011

BethD76:
mbritto4:

I'm most worried about how to handle 2 kids by myself, since MH will travel and all of my "support" people still have FT jobs.

I worry about this too. MH hardly ever travels but I will be with the kids alone a lot.

ME TOO!! DH travels semi-regularly and all the ILs etc. have jobs. I am really worried about it because DD is very spirited and requires a lot of attention because she is excessively active and well, spoiled with attention, being an only for nearly 4 years.

I plan of BF longer since I will not have to return to work. That is about it. I felt like we did a really good job during the baby stage. It's the pre-school age that killed us.

mainemommy · May 2011

Im going to take advantage of people wanting to help. With Brianna she was my first, so she was easy, I napped when she napped. With Camden he was easy because I got their naps scheduled together & I could still nap. Both kids have given up naps now & a 5 year old & a 3 year old are draining as it is, let alone with little sleep.

jesss1022 · May 2011

Things will be different this time, bc DS#1 was in the NICU for 2 weeks and went home on meds and a special diet, feeding schedule, and blood sugar testing. Since this pregnancy has been complication free so far, we will probably be taking home a newborn. When DS#1 came home, we didn't have to put him on a schedule, he was already on a set schedule for sleeping and eating. This time we will have to get DS#2 on a schedule ourselves...and try to coordinate the 2 so I can get some sleep:) I plan on sleeping more too...I didn't take advantage of people's offers to help, and I really should have.

COMomma81 · May 2011

I don't think I will, but who knows. I'm very much a go-with-the-flow type of person and it'll depend a lot on the baby's temperament and how things are going with DS. Our "schedule" is pretty unconventional as it is...so we are just going to play things by ear. I will have a lot of family support, especially in the beginning so I plan to take advantage of that too

The only thing I think I might do different is transition the baby to her room sooner, but it depends on her...again, just playing it by ear.

paulsgirl86 · May 2011

Kristin131:

BethD76:
I'm going to start this LO on table food a lot sooner. I was really worried about choking and kept him eating his food pureed longer than I should have. He will still eat his vegetables pureed, and acts like he doesn't want to bother to chew certain things. Eventhough some days he will only eat food that he can feed himself. Maybe I can avoid this with DD.

Oh ya and this! DS will actually pick pieces of veggies out of what they are mixed into and hand them to us. But if I puree them he loves them. Same with chicken and other meats.

Also I plan to actually try and nap while LO naps instead of trying to save the world like I did last time lol.

EXACTLY these - DS didn't get his first tooth until right after his first birthday and it's still almost impossible to get him to eat whatever we're eating. Also the naps - I thought it was a cop-out to sleep when he slept (it seemed like there was so much else I needed to do during those hours!), and I ended up turning into a totally exhausted basket-case (with a clean house). This time I am going to be a total nazi about making both kids nap at the same time so I can sleep, too!

MrsBreezer80 · May 2011

As long as he's a good size and gaining weight properly, I will NOT be waking LO up to eat. Just. No. I really think that is part of what caused DD's sleep issues early on. Additionally, I won't bed share as much - on a bad night, maybe, but for the most part, no. I will also try other measures to get him to sleep that aren't just sticking my boob in his face. Certainly its effective, but it causes bad habits that last too long. I don't know if these things will make a difference, but DD didn't sleep longer than 3 hours until she was 10 months old

Kristin131 · May 2011

MrsBreezer80:
As long as he's a good size and gaining weight properly, I will NOT be waking LO up to eat. Just. No. I really think that is part of what caused DD's sleep issues early on. Additionally, I won't bed share as much - on a bad night, maybe, but for the most part, no. I will also try other measures to get him to sleep that aren't just sticking my boob in his face. Certainly its effective, but it causes bad habits that last too long. I don't know if these things will make a difference, but DD didn't sleep longer than 3 hours until she was 10 months old

I don't know if this makes you feel better or worse but I never let DS in our bed or used the boob to pacify and he still didn't STTN until after 8 months! Maybe I should have lol

krisim · May 2011

I was very anxious the first time around (mostly about doing things "right" and whether DD was eating/sleep enough) and never really relaxed until DD was over 12 months old. This time I hope I'm more easy going and can rest/relax a little more...though that will be hard with a toddler.

I hope we can do sleep training earlier this time around. We waited until DD1 was about 6.5 months old and we completely exhausted by the time we started since she was not a good sleeper at all--she had to be held (while you were standing up) to fall and stay asleep. It was very hard because DH traveled for work and left me to do a lot nights by myself, plus working full-time.

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