WTF is wrong with me. Still thinking about a 3rd kid.

almostjennifer · May 2011

If I look back through my posts, I have posted about wanting a 3rd kid three times over the last year. But yikes -- things are just starting to get easier! Why would I throw another baby in the mix? I've just got my body back in to pre-baby jeans! I'm going to be 35 this summer! DH is so not enthusiastic about the idea!

I wish I could just forget about it and be happy with my beautiful, healthy boy and girl.

JennaHope · May 2011

I'm going to be 39 in a month and I'm still on the fence about another one. DH would love to have one but we are now getting to a point where DD will be out of diapers and entering that next phase. I think I need to hold onto that thought more!

eaglesfan700 · May 2011

Ha, I feel the same way sometimes, and I am going to be 39 this year! I think how it would be so much easier to just stick with what we have and not be outnumbered

But I just don't feel done, I want more. Heck if I was 35 I would be thinking about a 4th.

GL whatever you decide

EnglishMajor03 · May 2011

I totally know what you're talking about, though both DH and I are on board with another LO. I have lost a few pounds and the girls are pretty good most days...and even when they're a handful it's a case against having another

Our family just doesn't feel complete yet so we're definitely having another one...but I totally know what you mean.

vernab · May 2011

Baby #2 isn't due until Oct and we're already talking about TTC #3. ; )

naturelle25 · May 2011

Man, I am so glad I dont feel that way, lol:)

kcisthebombdotcom · May 2011

I have the reverse problem in my house. DH wants a 3rd, I do not. lol!

Luckily we have a while before we have to make a decision either way.

ali-1411 · May 2011

It took me awhile to stop wanting a third. I figured out that it was about me, I was feeling something lacking in my life and I wanted to fill the void with a baby. Not a good reason to have a baby! I'm glad I got over that. I'm sure I would have loved hypothetical baby #3 but it would have made our lives too hectic, too much. I'm finally happy with what I have

Now, I'm a firm believer in Quitting While You're Ahead!

Jerseygirl16 · May 2011

This isn't going to help but I really love having three. DS wasn't planned but if I knew then what I know now he would have been. It is such a great dynamic having the three kids close in age. They all interact with each other in different ways and it's great seeing the two older ones team up to help take care of their baby brother.

As for age I was 34 when I got pregnant with DS and 35 when I had him. I don't think that is too old at all.

I think your biggest obstacle is getting DH on board. Good luck!

almostjennifer · May 2011

ali-1411:

It took me awhile to stop wanting a third. I figured out that it was about me, I was feeling something lacking in my life and I wanted to fill the void with a baby. Not a good reason to have a baby! I'm glad I got over that. I'm sure I would have loved hypothetical baby #3 but it would have made our lives too hectic, too much. I'm finally happy with what I have

Now, I'm a firm believer in Quitting While You're Ahead!

There something to be said for this.

Liz342 · May 2011

I am REALLY torn about a 3rd too. We planned on 3 and DH is dead set on having a 3rd but there are so many obstacles in the way. We'd need a new car, I'd be SAH longer (I want to go to work when the LOs are in school for financial reasons), the 2 we have now are a handful.....

I really want to be pg and have another baby but just don't think we can handle it now. If we wait a year or 2, I'm afraid it will hurt us financially as I want to SAH with all of them so I wouldn't be working for even longer. (we are doing fine but on a tight budget and as the kids are getting older I fear they will become a lot more expensive!)

I have told DH that the reasons we want another baby are selfish and it's not fair to the kids we have now to add even more chaos. But still, I just don't feel done......

bim38106 · May 2011

I hear ya My friends and I have this discussion all.the.time! We all met in a hospital group when our firsts were 3-5 months old. Then almost all of us had #2 around the same time (about 2 years apart). Now of the 10 of us, there are 3 who are PG w/ #2 (only one of those was planned!).

Part of me feels like if they can do it so can I. I've always wanted 3 kids. DH is done with 2 though! And part of me thinks it's finally getting easy and in a good groove, why go "mess" that up. We're giving it time though....I'm 29 so I'm thankful that I can sit around and keep changing my mind about it We'll see.... But it doesn't help that DH's cousin (a friend of mine) seriously disappeared off the face of the earth when she had #3. He's now 8 months old and she emails me saying she is so crazy busy she never has time for herself anymore and her baby is always in the car seat getting shuffled for her DD1's school play, or picking up DD2 from preschool, etc... That's the part that scares me the most!

One of my friends posted this on FB today...food for thought

"Two Cents on Three Kids"

bellablue2 · May 2011

I totally hear ya on this one! I wavered back and forth for a long time!! We thought we had an accident in March and when my period started we were sooooooo bummed. That was the clincher for me. We are on our third month ttc now! lol..I am scared as I feel like my boys ages 5 and 3 are finally past the baby stage and I hate what being pregnant does to my body, but I decided that this was what I really wanted. I am 31 so I am doing it now or never! lol

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