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laney75 · May 2011

I am in one of those weird, there is nothing wrong, but I'm all up in my head funks. I have been short-tempered with my husband all weekend and today. I am out of sorts and just in my head about dumb stuff. I feel like I'm just going through the motions the past couple of days and little things are making me mad.

Anyone have these times? What do you think it is? Hormones? Moodiness? Major psychological issues? Any good tricks to break out of the rut? I don't think I'm being a total b*, I'm just not completely myself. Tongue Tied

P.S. My husband is going to be home for 2 weeks straight and is changing jobs where he'll be working at home. Also, our oldest is turning 3 on Thursday, and my SIL is about to have their first baby. So changes are coming. All wonderful things, but maybe I am internally freaking. I dunno.

ali-1411 · May 2011

Hormones? DH keeps track of my cycles better than I do, based solely on my mood

ericanandy · May 2011

Yup. I've been this way the past 10ish days. I had my BFF"s wedding this weekend so I was a bit stressed with that. Then there was a MAJOR blowout at the wedding (not involving me) and I feel super stressed about it because it seriously RUINED her wedding day and could have been prevented.

So now I'm again on edge and my back is killing me. To the point where I can't lift LO and I'm miserably grumpy. DS just took 2 hours to get to sleep (not sure if he senses my tension or what) and DH went to go pick up our car at inlaws (we borrowed one of theirs)

I'm secretly hoping on his way home he picks me up ice cream. I'm also secretly hoping that I dont kill him if he shows up without ice cream.... deep breaths

babypuplove · May 2011

That's exactly how I am about once a month. ;-) I was never like that before having kids, but now I tend to get in a pretty big PMS-y funk every month. Hopefully it doesn't last long. Just wanted you to know that you aren't alone.

susanmosley · May 2011

In response to paragraph two:

yes. a lot of things. yes. yes. likely not. time to yourself.

yes, I bet you are internally freaking! A lot is going on and on top of that, when you need it most to counteract the goings on, you probably aren't getting enough time to yourself, to quiet your mind, and to listen to your true thoughts and feelings.

Or maybe that is just what it typically is with me. Hormones too.

As much as I b!tch about the fact that I work, I know that it builds in a lot of me time - a lot of commuting time which I thoroughly enjoy and a lot of waiting for sessions time - at a park, shopping, bookstores, fro yo on a patio, etc. As this preschool school year is winding down and I am home more, I am seeing how much of that alone time I need to be sane. So I am seeing more than ever how much time most SAHMs don't get that I get and know I NEED to be in a happy place.

Do you think consistent and frequent time alone would help at all? I think having your husband home for 2 weeks is an ideal time to start!

laney75 · May 2011

Thanks guys. I am betting hormones are playing a part. I've been having cramps on/off for like a month and am still waiting for AF to start (I'm breastfeeding but am down to 3-4 feedings/day) so maybe that is what it is.

Susan - the me time is probably part of it. Funny thing is that I feel like I've had more than usual lately, which has been great. And with my husband starting a new job, we will actually probably have more time for me to do my own thing b/c he won't have a commute. So yeah, maybe I need to schedule it in more. I think you make a good point about not knowing how much you enjoy/appreciate/need it.

Anyway... we're hoping to do potty training next week so yeah... not sure how much me time I'm going to get. I did get out on a run by myself today and it was great.

Daisy77 · May 2011

I can definitely relate! The thing that frustrates me is the timing of stuff. Such as this stuff with DH's family, it irritates me all the time but lately it's really bugging me because we're behind. And of course, AF is due soon. So DH thinks it's a pms thing instead of what it really is. Anyway...

I usually find that 2 weeks or so after AF, I go "blank" for a few days. It's not that I don't enjoy doing stuff, it's that I just don't want to. My effort really slacks yet I get super impatient with things like a lack of manners (such as interrupting). I also feel worn down, like everything I do just needs to be repeated 10 minutes later (sweeping the floor only to have a child run in and forgets to take their shoes off that one time...seems like it's just because I just swept.) I know it's not pms as I know when I'm pmsing, lol. Funny thing is, I never really noticed pms until the last year or so, now I know and it's bizarre.

I wish I had some more tips but the closest thing I get is picking something I know I'll look forward to and doing/planning it around that time I'm expecting my funk. A hair cut. Ordering a new book on my Kindle. Shopping for something organizational (my new kick). Doing something that is completely unkid-related.

Depression runs in my family and my doctor has ruled it out. Still, this "funk" is fairly new, kind of annoying, and I have no idea what started it or when it really started. Right now I'm just thankful it only lasts a few days and I get a break before pms starts

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