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• stella_blu member

  May 2011

  It was an easy decision for me as I didn't make enough money to cover a daycare cost and have some leftover. We've cut back on things like cable but could really cut back more. While I was still working, we put most of my pay into savings to help out over the last year. Also, DH works out of town a lot and his schedule is not consistent so all of the to and from would be on me and we'd also end up paying for childcare when we didn't need it. 

  

  
  

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• jana_86

  May 2011

  I've always wanted to be a SAHM.  I don't want my baby knowing someone more than he knows me.  (not that there is anything wrong with working moms, that's hard work right there.)  It wasn't easy at first (financially), but if it's something you want bad enough, you do what you have to do.  We gave up a lot of things (cable, got cheaper phones, etc.) to make it work, but it was hard at first.  I also started watching a friend's kid 4 days a week.  We made budgets for ourselves and kept redoing it month after month until we got it right.  

  Also it didn't make sense to pay a babysitter, I wouldn't make enough for it to be worth it.  If I were to work the only way it would be worth it was if I worked when DH was off and we'd never see each other.  So, obviously that had a lot to do with it.  GL!

  

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• nekorayne member

  May 2011

  scatteredtrees:

  an.watts:

  Hi, I will be a new mom very soon and I have been recently let go from my job..my boss refereed to my pregnancy as a "medical inconvenience" yea I know I wanted to kill her too.  While I was working though I was having a battle with myself if I should stay at home or not.  Financially it would be tougher but my heart just feels I should stay at home, at least for a little while.  What helped you decide, and how did or do you manage financially?  Thanks for any help.  

  I don't think that's legal. I interviewed for a promotion when I was pregnant (before we decided I'd SAH) and I was informed by HR that my pregnancy would not be addressed nor considered when a decision was made.

  ETA- I'm sorry I know this isn't what you were asking, but that just rubbed me wrong that someone would say that to you.

  I was going to say this to!  I don't think they can do that

  But to answer your question DH and I discussed it when we got engaged!  He felt that he would prefer for one of us to be a SAH parent and I felt the same way. HE made more money and I had always wanted to be a SAHM so it ended up being perfect. We did have to cut stuff out, we don't have TV channels (just $10 a month netflix) and very simple cell phones, one car family, etc... but we do well for us, are able to put small bits in savings, and are happy!
  

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