Need to get this off my chest...(vent)

DCWJes · May 2011

I might get flamed for this but, I thought it was a little tacky...

I logged on this morning and maybe its my punishment for snooping but there was a page for someone with a siggy warning and it had a lot of looks and comments, so curiousity got to me. I clicked and it was someone being paged for a + pregnancy test. I am happy for her, don't get me wrong, just thought it was odd that someone was paged for a positive test by someone who was pregnant. Sorry, but it was like a punch in the gut...

Sorry again.

jessieLMK · May 2011

*big hug*

rosenb2b · May 2011

**Siggy**

No flames at all. I want to apologize.

I'm pretty sure you were talking about the page I received from Jen. I had not intro'd at that time on PGaL and she knew I'd check here first, like I always do because I know you ladies better and am comfy here. I will let Jen speak for herself but there was no intent to hurt anyone's feelings and I'm truly sorry it did. I honestly had just updated my chart and came onto TB when apparently Jen, while chart stalking Smile , spotted it. I immediately took down my chart (made it clicky with Jen's help) to avoid having anyone's feelings get hurt. I'm really really sorry. It's happened a few times here lately and I was worried about it too. Please accept my apology. If you want Jen to remove it, I'll ask her to DD.

ClaraEarlene · May 2011

I don't think it's right to flame someone for having feelings and expressing them here--that's partially what this board is for--but I did want to point out that this is a board where lots of women are TTC, so there will be talk of BFPs, even if not overtly announced as such. I've learned to click with caution when there are siggy warnings or when the thread is specifically directed at someone else.

Missa_g · May 2011

*hug*I'm so sorry it hurt you. I know neither lady, nor any of us who responded, meant to hurt you. I personally like BFP shout outs, because lurking on PGAL can be too painful sometimes, but I don't want to miss out on congratulating someone I've gotten to know here.

sabrina69barnes · May 2011

Missa_g:
.

I personally like BFP shout outs, because lurking on PGAL can be too painful sometimes, but I don't want to miss out on congratulating someone I've gotten to know here.

This.

VikingQueen · May 2011

I saw that too and I completely agree with you. ((big hugs))

jinx75 · May 2011

****TICKER AND BADGE WARNING****

If the post you're speaking of contained a ticker warning and you opened it anyway than is the author of the post really to blame? Not to mention calling someone tacky for celebrating with someone when that person (the one shouting out) has supported so many for so many months on their TTCAL journey is uncalled for. I understand that every woman here is going through the pain and hurt of having experienced loss. I understand that everyone here wants to be pg again and rightfully so. What I don't understand is why, when there are always shout out posts from women on Pgal to women on TTCAL that have recently gotten a BFP, the shout out OP is referring to is the ONLY one called out?! I think it is inappropriate for anyone to insult someone who has given almost a year and a half of themselves to being a cheerleader for every woman on this board.

jinx75 · May 2011

bump burp

VikingQueen · May 2011

AshB62:
jinx75:

****TICKER AND BADGE WARNING****

If the post you're speaking of contained a ticker warning and you opened it anyway than is the author of the post really to blame? Not to mention calling someone tacky for celebrating with someone when that person (the one shouting out) has supported so many for so many months on their TTCAL journey is uncalled for. I understand that every woman here is going through the pain and hurt of having experienced loss. I understand that everyone here wants to be pg again and rightfully so. What I don't understand is why, when there are always shout out posts from women on Pgal to women on TTCAL that have recently gotten a BFP, the shout out OP is referring to is the ONLY one called out?! I think it is inappropriate for anyone to insult someone who has given almost a year and a half of themselves to being a cheerleader for every woman on this board.

I have to agree with Jinx here, but then again I've never really understood the "Go directly to PgAL, do not pass GO, do NOT post your BFP here" dynamic of this board anyway. We've all experienced loss and we're all TTC and BFPs are a part of that. All of that aside (I'm not looking to start another debate), I don't think Jen was inappropriate. There was a warning in the title, and you didn't have to open it.

Ok I wasn't hurt by it as the OP but I understand where she is coming from. I don't mind people coming over here to post their BFP, my feeling about it though when I saw a PGALer post to another now PGALer was why not just post on PGAL? I am truly happy for everyone who has gotten their BFPs recently and I love seeing them come over, I just think in that situation it would have been more appropriate to post on PGAL since she was already over there and obviously the lady that was paged will be over there now.. KWIM?

jinx75 · May 2011

VikingQueen:
AshB62:
jinx75:

****TICKER AND BADGE WARNING****

If the post you're speaking of contained a ticker warning and you opened it anyway than is the author of the post really to blame? Not to mention calling someone tacky for celebrating with someone when that person (the one shouting out) has supported so many for so many months on their TTCAL journey is uncalled for. I understand that every woman here is going through the pain and hurt of having experienced loss. I understand that everyone here wants to be pg again and rightfully so. What I don't understand is why, when there are always shout out posts from women on Pgal to women on TTCAL that have recently gotten a BFP, the shout out OP is referring to is the ONLY one called out?! I think it is inappropriate for anyone to insult someone who has given almost a year and a half of themselves to being a cheerleader for every woman on this board.

I have to agree with Jinx here, but then again I've never really understood the "Go directly to PgAL, do not pass GO, do NOT post your BFP here" dynamic of this board anyway. We've all experienced loss and we're all TTC and BFPs are a part of that. All of that aside (I'm not looking to start another debate), I don't think Jen was inappropriate. There was a warning in the title, and you didn't have to open it.

Ok I wasn't hurt by it as the OP but I understand where she is coming from. I don't mind people coming over here to post their BFP, my feeling about it though when I saw a PGALer post to another now PGALer was why not just post on PGAL? I am truly happy for everyone who has gotten their BFPs recently and I love seeing them come over, I just think in that situation it would have been more appropriate to post on PGAL since she was already over there and obviously the lady that was paged will be over there now.. KWIM?

No I don't know what you mean...when Jen shouted out to Rosenb she had not yet posted her intro on Pgal...regardless calling someone tacky who has given 17 months of support to everyone on this board is wrong. Period, point blank!

VikingQueen · May 2011

jinx75:
VikingQueen:
AshB62:
jinx75:

****TICKER AND BADGE WARNING****

If the post you're speaking of contained a ticker warning and you opened it anyway than is the author of the post really to blame? Not to mention calling someone tacky for celebrating with someone when that person (the one shouting out) has supported so many for so many months on their TTCAL journey is uncalled for. I understand that every woman here is going through the pain and hurt of having experienced loss. I understand that everyone here wants to be pg again and rightfully so. What I don't understand is why, when there are always shout out posts from women on Pgal to women on TTCAL that have recently gotten a BFP, the shout out OP is referring to is the ONLY one called out?! I think it is inappropriate for anyone to insult someone who has given almost a year and a half of themselves to being a cheerleader for every woman on this board.

I have to agree with Jinx here, but then again I've never really understood the "Go directly to PgAL, do not pass GO, do NOT post your BFP here" dynamic of this board anyway. We've all experienced loss and we're all TTC and BFPs are a part of that. All of that aside (I'm not looking to start another debate), I don't think Jen was inappropriate. There was a warning in the title, and you didn't have to open it.

Ok I wasn't hurt by it as the OP but I understand where she is coming from. I don't mind people coming over here to post their BFP, my feeling about it though when I saw a PGALer post to another now PGALer was why not just post on PGAL? I am truly happy for everyone who has gotten their BFPs recently and I love seeing them come over, I just think in that situation it would have been more appropriate to post on PGAL since she was already over there and obviously the lady that was paged will be over there now.. KWIM?

No I don't know what you mean...when Jen shouted out to Rosenb she had not yet posted her intro on Pgal...regardless calling someone tacky who has given 17 months of support to everyone on this board is wrong. Period, point blank!

I agree that the OP could have used another word other then Tacky

Rawr08 · May 2011

You know how you feel. I agree with you in a certain way. I feel TTCAL is a safe place where we can be, we all have been through hell. I missed the post (or posts) you are refering to, I really don't want to look at them. I am so sorry you were upset by what happened. *hugs*

AGFaso · May 2011

AshB62:
jinx75:
****TICKER AND BADGE WARNING****

If the post you're speaking of contained a ticker warning and you opened it anyway than is the author of the post really to blame? Not to mention calling someone tacky for celebrating with someone when that person (the one shouting out) has supported so many for so many months on their TTCAL journey is uncalled for. I understand that every woman here is going through the pain and hurt of having experienced loss. I understand that everyone here wants to be pg again and rightfully so. What I don't understand is why, when there are always shout out posts from women on Pgal to women on TTCAL that have recently gotten a BFP, the shout out OP is referring to is the ONLY one called out?! I think it is inappropriate for anyone to insult someone who has given almost a year and a half of themselves to being a cheerleader for every woman on this board.
I have to agree with Jinx here, but then again I've never really understood the "Go directly to PgAL, do not pass GO, do NOT post your BFP here" dynamic of this board anyway. We've all experienced loss and we're all TTC and BFPs are a part of that. All of that aside (I'm not looking to start another debate), I don't think Jen was inappropriate. There was a warning in the title, and you didn't have to open it.

THIS IS THE BOTTOM LINE OP. You should not have called out Jen. She has supported soooooo many people on here for the longest time and she did not deserve that. You deserve to be called out for being a lurky loo.

celineg · May 2011

AGFaso:
AshB62:
jinx75:

****TICKER AND BADGE WARNING****

If the post you're speaking of contained a ticker warning and you opened it anyway than is the author of the post really to blame? Not to mention calling someone tacky for celebrating with someone when that person (the one shouting out) has supported so many for so many months on their TTCAL journey is uncalled for. I understand that every woman here is going through the pain and hurt of having experienced loss. I understand that everyone here wants to be pg again and rightfully so. What I don't understand is why, when there are always shout out posts from women on Pgal to women on TTCAL that have recently gotten a BFP, the shout out OP is referring to is the ONLY one called out?! I think it is inappropriate for anyone to insult someone who has given almost a year and a half of themselves to being a cheerleader for every woman on this board.

I have to agree with Jinx here, but then again I've never really understood the "Go directly to PgAL, do not pass GO, do NOT post your BFP here" dynamic of this board anyway. We've all experienced loss and we're all TTC and BFPs are a part of that. All of that aside (I'm not looking to start another debate), I don't think Jen was inappropriate. There was a warning in the title, and you didn't have to open it.

THIS IS THE BOTTOM LINE OP. You should not have called out Jen. She has supported soooooo many people on here for the longest time and she did not deserve that. You deserve to be called out for being a lurky loo.

AGFaso, a warning at the beginning of your post would have been nice... did not need to see your unannounced squash ticker.. ouch

jessieLMK · May 2011

PetraStonegirl:
May I offer myself as a peacemaker?
I just want to tell Jes that I am very sorry she was hurt. Expressing those feelings are understandable, especially considering that her feelings are so very raw right now. Her most recent loss was only a few days ago.

Yes

jinx75:
If the post you're speaking of contained a ticker warning and you opened it anyway than is the author of the post really to blame? Not to mention calling someone tacky for celebrating with someone when that person (the one shouting out) has supported so many for so many months on their TTCAL journey is uncalled for. I understand that every woman here is going through the pain and hurt of having experienced loss. I understand that everyone here wants to be pg again and rightfully so. What I don't understand is why, when there are always shout out posts from women on Pgal to women on TTCAL that have recently gotten a BFP, the shout out OP is referring to is the ONLY one called out?! I think it is inappropriate for anyone to insult someone who has given almost a year and a half of themselves to being a cheerleader for every woman on this board.

most of us haven't suffered a loss so recently as this past weekend. everyone always says that TTCAL is our safe haven from all the PG-ness of the world, but we are so ready to have shout outs left and right, because we want to support our members when they move on.

having also had a loss within the past 2 weeks, i can understand how jes feels right now. and that post just happen to be the one that salted the wound.

Mellimo83 · May 2011

Cant we all just hug it out!? Right Hug

hopefulmom81 · May 2011

PetraStonegirl:
May I offer myself as a peacemaker?
I just want to tell Jes that I am very sorry she was hurt. Expressing those feelings are understandable, especially considering that her feelings are so very raw right now. Her most recent loss was only a few days ago.
For those who are newer here, who might be wondering why someone would come directly here, rather than taking time to heal on mc/pl board where there are no BFPs, please understand that this is not the OP's first time around, and for her, TTCAL is the best place to return to.
Because Jes was on PgAL when Jen was making such a profound impact on our lives here, and then Jen graduated only a few days before her loss, I'm sure it didn't occur to her that Jen would naturally page Rosenb2b here. Also, if it were further down the line, and Jes had begun to heal, and she was close to the people involved, I don't think she would have been as hurt.
FWIW, I believe that Jen didn't do anything wrong be paging Rosenb2b here, Rosenb2b certainly didn't do anything wrong by deciding to hold off for a day for confirmation before announcing on PgAL, and Jes didn't do anything wrong by expressing her feelings. I believe that it was just an unfortunate mess of timing.
Group hug? (((HUG)))

Well said, as always, Petra

jinx75 · May 2011

jessieLMK:
PetraStonegirl:

May I offer myself as a peacemaker?

I just want to tell Jes that I am very sorry she was hurt. Expressing those feelings are understandable, especially considering that her feelings are so very raw right now. Her most recent loss was only a few days ago.

jinx75:

If the post you're speaking of contained a ticker warning and you opened it anyway than is the author of the post really to blame? Not to mention calling someone tacky for celebrating with someone when that person (the one shouting out) has supported so many for so many months on their TTCAL journey is uncalled for. I understand that every woman here is going through the pain and hurt of having experienced loss. I understand that everyone here wants to be pg again and rightfully so. What I don't understand is why, when there are always shout out posts from women on Pgal to women on TTCAL that have recently gotten a BFP, the shout out OP is referring to is the ONLY one called out?! I think it is inappropriate for anyone to insult someone who has given almost a year and a half of themselves to being a cheerleader for every woman on this board.

most of us haven't suffered a loss so recently as this past weekend. everyone always says that TTCAL is our safe haven from all the PG-ness of the world, but we are so ready to have shout outs left and right, because we want to support our members when they move on.

having also had a loss within the past 2 weeks, i can understand how jes feels right now. and that post just happen to be the one that salted the wound.

So it's ok to insult a long time member of this board simply because it was the post the salted the wound? Do the shout outs about BFPs from those that are not on Pgal not hurt just as much? I see a double standard all over this board today!

emeraudecephiro · May 2011

GIFSoup

Well...I do have to agree, there was the appropriate steps taken so that wouldn't happen. It's kind of like touching a hot stove - you know not to do it and do it anyway...but if you call the stove bad does the burn go away? Not really.

I PPH you Jes...As a friend and someone who opens those all the time...sometimes it's better not to.

Luvmybella · May 2011

celineg:
AGFaso:
AshB62:
jinx75:

****TICKER AND BADGE WARNING****

If the post you're speaking of contained a ticker warning and you opened it anyway than is the author of the post really to blame? Not to mention calling someone tacky for celebrating with someone when that person (the one shouting out) has supported so many for so many months on their TTCAL journey is uncalled for. I understand that every woman here is going through the pain and hurt of having experienced loss. I understand that everyone here wants to be pg again and rightfully so. What I don't understand is why, when there are always shout out posts from women on Pgal to women on TTCAL that have recently gotten a BFP, the shout out OP is referring to is the ONLY one called out?! I think it is inappropriate for anyone to insult someone who has given almost a year and a half of themselves to being a cheerleader for every woman on this board.

I have to agree with Jinx here, but then again I've never really understood the "Go directly to PgAL, do not pass GO, do NOT post your BFP here" dynamic of this board anyway. We've all experienced loss and we're all TTC and BFPs are a part of that. All of that aside (I'm not looking to start another debate), I don't think Jen was inappropriate. There was a warning in the title, and you didn't have to open it.

THIS IS THE BOTTOM LINE OP. You should not have called out Jen. She has supported soooooo many people on here for the longest time and she did not deserve that. You deserve to be called out for being a lurky loo.

AGFaso, a warning at the beginning of your post would have been nice... did not need to see your unannounced squash ticker.. ouch

THIS! Not posting a ticker warning is what is TACKY. Thanks for that!

CashewsMommy · May 2011

I'm sorry you're having a difficult time!

BabyTrippin · May 2011

DCWJes:
I might get flamed for this but, I thought it was a little tacky...

I logged on this morning and maybe its my punishment for snooping but there was a page for someone with a siggy warning and it had a lot of looks and comments, so curiousity got to me. I clicked and it was someone being paged for a + pregnancy test. I am happy for her, don't get me wrong, just thought it was odd that someone was paged for a positive test by someone who was pregnant. Sorry, but it was like a punch in the gut...

Sorry again.

To be blunt, this kind of crap is 90% of the reason I (for the most part) steer clear of this board. No one is EVER happy with what someone else does. If you can't bear the thought of someone who is actively TTCing getting a BFP then wtf are you doing on a TTC board? The world does not and will not revolve around any one person.

Allowing your loss(es) to define you and every emotion you have is dangerous. You may not see that until you face losing your husband/job/sanity, but fighting your way up into the sunshine is the only course you can take and remain whole.

DCWJes · May 2011

BabyTrippin:
DCWJes:

I might get flamed for this but, I thought it was a little tacky...

I logged on this morning and maybe its my punishment for snooping but there was a page for someone with a siggy warning and it had a lot of looks and comments, so curiousity got to me. I clicked and it was someone being paged for a + pregnancy test. I am happy for her, don't get me wrong, just thought it was odd that someone was paged for a positive test by someone who was pregnant. Sorry, but it was like a punch in the gut...

Sorry again.

To be blunt, this kind of crap is 90% of the reason I (for the most part) steer clear of this board. No one is EVER happy with what someone else does. If you can't bear the thought of someone who is actively TTCing getting a BFP then wtf are you doing on a TTC board? The world does not and will not revolve around any one person.

Allowing your loss(es) to define you and every emotion you have is dangerous. You may not see that until you face losing your husband/job/sanity, but fighting your way up into the sunshine is the only course you can take and remain whole.

If you steer clear of this board why are you posting now? If you read the post and understood it, you would know that I am happy for her. You missed the whole point of the post.

And I do NOT allow my losses to define me. My most recent loss was less than a week ago. Who are you to say that I allow it to define me?

DCWJes · May 2011

As for everyone else, this post was not meant to call out anyone, I was just speaking my mind and I knew if I did, I might get flamed. Yes, I am partly to blame ok. I understand that. I wasn't calling anyone names or saying anyone was tacky. (I blame that word on my emotional distress). So please, put your claws away. I am sorry that I hurt people's feelings.

Rosen2b, thank you for your apology. Thats really all I wanted. Not this all-out drama BS.

jinx75 · May 2011

DCWJes:

As for everyone else, this post was not meant to call out anyone, I was just speaking my mind and I knew if I did, I might get flamed. Yes, I am partly to blame ok. I understand that. I wasn't calling anyone names or saying anyone was tacky. (I blame that word on my emotional distress). So please, put your claws away. I am sorry that I hurt people's feelings.

Rosen2b, thank you for your apology. Thats really all I wanted. Not this all-out drama BS.

****TICKER WARNING****

Why did you feel you were owed an apology?

tiffany119 · May 2011

PetraStonegirl:
May I offer myself as a peacemaker?
I just want to tell Jes that I am very sorry she was hurt. Expressing those feelings are understandable, especially considering that her feelings are so very raw right now. Her most recent loss was only a few days ago.
For those who are newer here, who might be wondering why someone would come directly here, rather than taking time to heal on mc/pl board where there are no BFPs, please understand that this is not the OP's first time around, and for her, TTCAL is the best place to return to.
Because Jes was on PgAL when Jen was making such a profound impact on our lives here, and then Jen graduated only a few days before her loss, I'm sure it didn't occur to her that Jen would naturally page Rosenb2b here. Also, if it were further down the line, and Jes had begun to heal, and she was close to the people involved, I don't think she would have been as hurt.
FWIW, I believe that Jen didn't do anything wrong be paging Rosenb2b here, Rosenb2b certainly didn't do anything wrong by deciding to hold off for a day for confirmation before announcing on PgAL, and Jes didn't do anything wrong by expressing her feelings. I believe that it was just an unfortunate mess of timing.
Group hug? (((HUG)))

Yes You always do! Wink Well said.

PS - I'll hug ya! hehe

amandachs · May 2011

tiffany119:
PetraStonegirl:

May I offer myself as a peacemaker?

I just want to tell Jes that I am very sorry she was hurt. Expressing those feelings are understandable, especially considering that her feelings are so very raw right now. Her most recent loss was only a few days ago.

For those who are newer here, who might be wondering why someone would come directly here, rather than taking time to heal on mc/pl board where there are no BFPs, please understand that this is not the OP's first time around, and for her, TTCAL is the best place to return to.

Because Jes was on PgAL when Jen was making such a profound impact on our lives here, and then Jen graduated only a few days before her loss, I'm sure it didn't occur to her that Jen would naturally page Rosenb2b here. Also, if it were further down the line, and Jes had begun to heal, and she was close to the people involved, I don't think she would have been as hurt.

FWIW, I believe that Jen didn't do anything wrong be paging Rosenb2b here, Rosenb2b certainly didn't do anything wrong by deciding to hold off for a day for confirmation before announcing on PgAL, and Jes didn't do anything wrong by expressing her feelings. I believe that it was just an unfortunate mess of timing.

Group hug? (((HUG)))

You always do! Well said.

PS - I'll hug ya! hehe

Petra, you for quite a while now have been one of my favorites here... Thankyou for your once agin classy and well stated reply. I you :-)

lauralew · May 2011

amandachs:
tiffany119:
PetraStonegirl:

May I offer myself as a peacemaker?
I just want to tell Jes that I am very sorry she was hurt. Expressing those feelings are understandable, especially considering that her feelings are so very raw right now. Her most recent loss was only a few days ago.
For those who are newer here, who might be wondering why someone would come directly here, rather than taking time to heal on mc/pl board where there are no BFPs, please understand that this is not the OP's first time around, and for her, TTCAL is the best place to return to.
Because Jes was on PgAL when Jen was making such a profound impact on our lives here, and then Jen graduated only a few days before her loss, I'm sure it didn't occur to her that Jen would naturally page Rosenb2b here. Also, if it were further down the line, and Jes had begun to heal, and she was close to the people involved, I don't think she would have been as hurt.
FWIW, I believe that Jen didn't do anything wrong be paging Rosenb2b here, Rosenb2b certainly didn't do anything wrong by deciding to hold off for a day for confirmation before announcing on PgAL, and Jes didn't do anything wrong by expressing her feelings. I believe that it was just an unfortunate mess of timing.
Group hug? (((HUG)))
You always do! Well said.

PS - I'll hug ya! hehe
Petra, you for quite a while now have been one of my favorites here... Thankyou for your once agin classy and well stated reply. I you :-)

Ditto everything.

lauralew · May 2011

Bump burp.

jessieLMK · May 2011

jinx75:
jessieLMK:
PetraStonegirl:

May I offer myself as a peacemaker?
I just want to tell Jes that I am very sorry she was hurt. Expressing those feelings are understandable, especially considering that her feelings are so very raw right now. Her most recent loss was only a few days ago.

jinx75:

If the post you're speaking of contained a ticker warning and you opened it anyway than is the author of the post really to blame? Not to mention calling someone tacky for celebrating with someone when that person (the one shouting out) has supported so many for so many months on their TTCAL journey is uncalled for. I understand that every woman here is going through the pain and hurt of having experienced loss. I understand that everyone here wants to be pg again and rightfully so. What I don't understand is why, when there are always shout out posts from women on Pgal to women on TTCAL that have recently gotten a BFP, the shout out OP is referring to is the ONLY one called out?! I think it is inappropriate for anyone to insult someone who has given almost a year and a half of themselves to being a cheerleader for every woman on this board.
most of us haven't suffered a loss so recently as this past weekend. everyone always says that TTCAL is our safe haven from all the PG-ness of the world, but we are so ready to have shout outs left and right, because we want to support our members when they move on.
having also had a loss within the past 2 weeks, i can understand how jes feels right now. and that post just happen to be the one that salted the wound.

So it's ok to insult a long time member of this board simply because it was the post the salted the wound? Do the shout outs about BFPs from those that are not on Pgal not hurt just as much? I see a double standard all over this board today!

she never insulted her. she said the post was tacky, not the poster

jessieLMK · May 2011

jinx75:
DCWJes:

As for everyone else, this post was not meant to call out anyone, I was just speaking my mind and I knew if I did, I might get flamed. Yes, I am partly to blame ok. I understand that. I wasn't calling anyone names or saying anyone was tacky. (I blame that word on my emotional distress). So please, put your claws away. I am sorry that I hurt people's feelings.
Rosen2b, thank you for your apology. Thats really all I wanted. Not this all-out drama BS.

****TICKER WARNING****
Why did you feel you were owed an apology?

she wanted an acknowledgement that maybe the punched-in-the-gut feeling had some merit. an apology is kind of like an acknowledgement that the punched-in-the-gut feeling had some merit. Surprise

LilMaggs · May 2011

Look, the appropriate precautions with the post were taken. You made the choice to open it. I really don't see how it's fair to protest Jen posting here when you were in chat almost every night before your loss, and were discussing the latest BFP's in the TTCAL chat. And Jen has been hands-down the most supportive person I've seen in my time on this board. No one else comes close. I really find it ridiculous to be calling Jen out. We are ttc. There will be BFP's. Sadly some of our graduates do come back. Sadly, some women will never graduate.

Jes, I love you. but I really do find this post quite hypocritical.

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