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April 2011 Moms
What has DH done that you don't approve of with LO?
My husband was washing gray in the sink and got him all soapy. He must have realized that he didn't have anything to rinse the suds off LO. So DH went under our cabinet, found a Lysol can, took the cap off and used that to fill with water and rinse baby!
I was pissed about two things, he left the baby unattended in the sink while he searched through the cabinet AND he used a Lysol cap to rinse off the baby!!! I try not to butt in but I nearly had a heart attack.
I feel scared leaving Gray alone sometimes with DH because he doesn't do things the way I do them. Do you feel this way sometimes?
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Re: What has DH done that you don't approve of with LO?
Oh my! That would have bothered me too.
The only thing I noticed was DH about to make formula the other day and he was running the tap water. I was like, "Uh, remember. . . only bottled water!" Other than that, he's been a trooper and gone through all of my training sessions. LOL
Oh wow, I would have been upset as well.
There are several things DH does that I don't like. When he makes a formula bottle, he doesn't make an even 2 oz or 4 oz - LO drinks 3 oz, so he tries to "eyeball" a half a scoop for the extra oz. I tell him not to do that b/c it's not an exact measurement, and it could mess up her tummy if the formula to water ratio isn't right. Also, when it's his turn to watch her, he just puts her in her swing, even when she's crying. I try to explain to him that she just wants to be held, and he gets frustrated. He doesn't want to just sit and hold her.
Don't get me wrong, he's a great husband and father, but he just doesn't have the patience to deal with a newborn, and he doesn't like to tolerate a lot of the "rules" of having a baby.
Adventures with Amelia
If DH left DS unattended in the bath, I'd be livid. The Lysol cap lacks common sense, but sometimes I just think that men don't think things through all the time.
I wouldn't say that DH does anything that I don't "approve" of, but sometimes I just have to gently suggest he do things differently. For example, he had DS on the floor doing tummy time and he was also playing fetch in the house with our 80-lb dog. I suggest that maybe we don't want to do that because the dog should understand that when the baby is on the floor, it's calm time.
I generally try to let him do things his way, so he can learn what DS needs, but sometimes I have to intervene. He loves DS so much and has so much fun playing with him, but sometimes needs to exercise just a bit more common sense.
I'm about ready to hide DH's iphone. I hate that thing so much and I HATE the way he's always attached to it - messaging constantly rather than actually interacting with the boys. This just annoys me though so it's not that I don't approve. I don't approve of his new habit of smoking cigars - he was recently told about cancer cells found during a surgery he had. While he's ok now you'd think he'd be more responsible and NOT start buying cigars AFTER the diagnosis. He acutally lit one up in front of DS the other day and I was really pissed. I told him if he wanted to do that he'd better sneak them when I'm not around and never do it around the boys. Just yesterday DS brought me a pack of matches and that was it for me. I told DH he'd better get his priorities in order and get his act together. I let him know that I thought the smoking was irresponsible given his health issues and the fact that he's a parent to two young boys and that the leaving matches around just made him an a$$hole.
DH has a hard time figuring out how to soothe the baby, so he will lay her on the boppy on his lap and just look at her (or the tv) while she cries lol!
Also if he feeds her, sometimes he doesn't give her enough, and even if she's still crying, rooting around, nomming on her hands, he'll try to put her down for a nap.
He's getting better, though. He's willing to do/try anything. He just needs some guidance.
I need to remind myself sometimes that I've spent so many more hours caring for her while I'm breastfeeding and/or while he's at work, so he's a little behind on the learning curve compared to me.
My idiot BF put chocolate frosting on her lips and said "hey mommy I like cupcakes" I almost killed him. He watches violent television like Jail, Tru TV, and WWF, with her with the volume too loud. I feel like he disturbs her and wants to hold her and stuff too much and won't give her any "alone" time. But he is bonding with her so I guess I will over look most of his flaws, except the "cupcake" thing. What an idiot.
Oh yeah, he used to want me to take her to his sister's house all the time with even late at night. But I got in a fight with his sister so that put an end to that. LOL
Me and H both "eyeball" the half scoop when she was eating 3 oz. Luckily she moved up to 4oz pretty quick. But, not gonna lie, if she gets up to 5, I'd probably do the same thing. I know, it's not the right thing to do. But it's how we roll.
Off the top of my head I can't think of anything H does that I don't approve of. Except, he carries the RnP from upstairs to downstairs with her in it. That's dangerous but he swears he's fine. Drives me nuts.
Baby #4; 7/7/2018
Last night DS was having a fussy moment around midnight last night so DH took him to go downstairs and walk him around... as he went out of the bedroom I hear DH go"CHHHT" like the Dog Whisperer. I was SO mad!! He is not a dog, he is a baby!
Then I was reading this post out to him, and when he asked if I had posted and I said no, he insisted I post about this!
Okay, so I'm not trying to blow this off, but this made me LOL. Reminds me of the South Park episode where Cartman's mom hired the dog whisperer to control Cartman's behavior. Anyone see that?
That was DH's justification of it this morning... jokingly of course! Made me LOL this morning, but last night I was angry
Oh man, I almost kicked my DH in the junk the other day...
DH is a phenomenal father and a wonderful husband, so this really caught me off guard. I had just finished pumping and I needed to wash everything so I couldn't take DS from DH quite yet. He needed to make a phone call for work, but DS was crying. He tried to soothe him for maybe 2 minutes, then got frustrated I guess and decided he just couldn't do anything about it. He took DS upstairs crying, put him in his swing in his room, shut the door and then came back down stairs to make his phone call. I was livid!! When he walked by me to get his phone I looked at him and said "are you fvcking kidding me?" We don't argue, and I'm never mean to him. I think I've only been mad at him 2 or 3 times since we've known each other, so he quickly understood that this was NOT ok with me. I brought DS back downstairs, still crying, and he went outside to make his phone call.
Later I made it perfectly clear that under no circumstance am I ever going to be ok with letting DS CIO when he's this young. I told him that if he's going to have this parenting strategy that I was going to be very uncomfortable leaving DS with him alone, and I think that really hurt his feelings, but it's the truth. If he feels like a call he needs to make for work is more important than taking care of his crying son, then we need to find someone else to watch DS during those times.
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