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2nd Trimester
"You don't look pregnant, you just look fat!"
That's what the lady that delivers the mail to my work said to me today when she found out I was pregnant. Really??? Who says that?? I was already feeling insecure about my "middle stage" where I don't quite look pregnant yet. Anybody else experience horrible comments like this??
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Re: "You don't look pregnant, you just look fat!"
I don't know how many times I have said this, but who teaches people to talk to others that way?!?! I swear some people have no filters or common sense for that matter.
And, for the record, I am sure you all look beautiful with your cute pregnant bellies! Some people are just plain idiots!
Thats horrible of her to say! People can be so rude!
When we were in Mexico last week a woman came up and asked me if I was expecting, I said yes, we have twins on board! She then said I knew it, I told my husband, thats not chubby thats a baby. I was thinking the rest of the trip, well guess I look more fat than prego apparently! Everytime I walked by them at the resort pool I felt like asking her husband if he was expecting! He wasn't so slender! haha
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Speaking of rude comments... my BF and I have been together for a while and this baby came as a surprise. I know he is the love of my life and this is just the beginning of our family together, but we are not married. My brother and sister have both recently gone through really bad divorces so I'm a bit weary of rushing into a marriage at this point. Plus I don't want a baby to be the reason I get married anyhow, I don't want my marriage to be a consequence of my actions. But of course, the first question out of so many people's mouths is "So when are you getting married??" Ideally yes, I would have love to have been married when I got pregnant. But even more so I would have loved to have paid off my student loans, bought a house, had a better job... just because two people are not married does not mean they can't be two perfectly good parents.
Sorry, end of rant. I've had a bad night. I hope I haven't offended anyone I just really needed to vent.
In my first trimester I got stuck teaching at a 3 week camp in the winter, I had to sleep there and had no control over my diet. I had severe morning sickness and actually lost 5 pounds. There was a guy that kept insisting that I was wearing baggy clothes because I must be showing. Of course, this had nothing to do with the fact that the hallways were below freezing between my dorms and classes.
I didn't mind until the last day when I wore a tighter sweater, and he came right up to me and pointed to my belly (not totally flat, but normal) and insisted that I was "getting so big!" I almost cried because I was 8 weeks along, had lost weight, could not eat more than one or two meals a day, and this guy did not just realize that he pretty much called me fat.
When I was pg with my first, my dh's grandma said exactly that to me at my shower. I was about 34 weeks.
About a year later, she was livid when someone commented on her son's (FIL) weight. She kept ranting, "Who talks about how fat someone is? You NEVER say something like that to someone's face!"
Got the rudest comment I've ever heard of this week. My husband has one of our baby boy's 20 week 3D face-shot pics on his desk. A female co-worker walked up, looked at it and said "that's disgusting". Unbelievable. She knew it was our baby and she said it right to my husband. He was like--what's wrong with you---it's a baby! (I said he should have said "hey---that's MY SON." She never apologized to him. It really offended both of us. I tend to think there was a bit of a defense mechanism reaction going on because she's 40+, wanted kids but wasn't able to get pregnant, and her husband doesn't want to adopt. Months ago I shared with her that we were having trouble getting pregnant, so maybe she resents us, and it came out in the comment, but really?
My freshman high school students were figuring out how far along I'll be at the end of the year. When I told them it would be about 7 months, one of the 15-year-old boys replied "Wow, you'll be really fat by then!"
It made me laugh because he didn't mean anything by it, he's a teenage boy. The girls started yelling at him and I explained that he really shouldn't say things like that anyone, even pregnant people. Overall, it was pretty funny.
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i recently got a few comments that left me miffed too. im and esthetician and we wear scrubs to work so you never really could see my belly. well the other day i was sick of wearing em so i threw an all black outfit (another option we can wear) that showed my belly more. a co-worker came up and said "you know....for how tall and skinny you are im suprised you showing this much already!" WOW....thanks alot! then she asked how far along i was again...and i said 20ish wks....and then shes like "oh...i didnt think you were that far....well that makes sense". grrrrrrr!
and then the other nite...my husband and i were talking on the couch and i asked if everyone he works with knows about the baby..and he laughed and said "yeah, but this one co-worker came up and asked how our baby making was going and i told her we were already expecting and that you were 5 1/2 mo. along...and her response was 'well.....i was wondering cuz i saw you two walking in the store the other day and noticed she was looking a lil wider in the back. thats where it all goes ya know....to the hips.' " jeff said not to take it personally....shes an idiot. but i was PISSED. i had baggy maternity cargo pants on.....give me a break! and yes ive always been tall and thin and maybe people are just used to always seeing me that way...but i honestly didnt think i had gained enough weight for people to comment on. ive gained like 9 lbs so far...pretty good for 21 wks in my eyes. i think i look just fine.....really healthy...so they can just suck it. LOL
I was wearing a form fitting shirt & skirt at a parade this weekend and a total stranger walked by and said "wow you look like you're ready to pop". I told him I wasn't due until October & he stopped walking, looked at my belly again and said either there's more than one in there or that baby's gonna be huge".
I've gained a whopping 6 lbs & at about the halfway mark I think I look pretty damn good. People have no filters.
Ohhhhh, I WISH someone had the balls to say something like this to me!! It hasn't happened yet, but it would not be a pretty sight lol. With my fiery temper, I would rather enjoy unleashing a hormonal wrath upon the offender!!!
Uhg, enough people say stuff to pregnant women because they are oblivious and don't think, but can't pregnant women have each other's back? i mean, come on, we're all going through this together!