How do you convince your H to go to the Dr?

franceshouseman · May 2011

Seriously, H is driving me insane. 2 years ago he was having what we thought were gallbladder attacks. We went to the hospital and they did tests but him being a hard head, he refused the ultrasound to check his gallbladder. So, now for the past 2 years on and off he has these crazy sick episodes. He's having one now. He's cranky and being a jerk, which I understand he doesn't feel good, but seriously go to the Dr! I think he's afraid of what they'll say. It doesn't help he's overweight and his bp is high, which he denys. I just don't get it. Why not get checked instead of being in pain?

DreadLoc · May 2011

Make an appointment and tell him that you will be charged if he doesn't go.

uluvfranke · May 2011

remind him that you would like him to be there for his kids. also let him know you can always find someone else to raise them if he dies.

franceshouseman · May 2011

MrsLacy:
Make an appointment and tell him that you will be charged if he doesn't go.

Thanks, I never thought about doing that. Smile

leahmom02 · May 2011

use the kids to guilt him into going. He can't crap out on his kids yet!

*edited because I can't fuckingtype!

franceshouseman · May 2011

uluvfranke:
remind him that you would like him to be there for his kids. also let him know you can always find someone else to raise them if he dies.

I've used that line a lot. I truly think he's scared and that's half the problem. I just don't understand why someone wouldn't get checked to know for sure. Men are such strange creatures.

sillypit · May 2011

I have to make the appointment for him but if I do and tell him when it is, he goes.

Chrissy1019 · May 2011

My H was the same way. His father had some crazy, almost fatal, health issues last year. I pretty much laid if out for him that he is NOT doing to me what his father did to his mother. I think she aged years in days. Since then he's been really on top of getting his act together medically. I would just explain to him that his health isn't only affecting him, it's you and the kids as well. That should be more than enough of a reason for him to go to the dr.

MamaToK · May 2011

My H refuses to ever go to the doctor too. Annoying. But then he's a huge baby about being sick.

JhawkCE · May 2011

If it makes you feel any better mine won't go to the Dr. and he IS a Dr.

Tell your husband either he goes or you don't want to hear any whining when his gallbladder acts up. Because it's his own fault if he wants to continue to suffer through them.

Then ask him whether he would like to meet with a Dr. and get a good reccomendation for a GOOD surgeon and schedule an outpatient proceedure OR he can wait until it becomes emergent at 3 am on a Sat night (because it always happens at 3 am on a Sat night) and he can pray that:

1. The surgeon isn't tied up with a stabbing or gunshot victim.

2. The surgeon isn't an inept moron with 10 gallbladder mal-practice suits.

3. The OR staff and surgeon aren't tired and pissed off because they were all snugg in their beds until he walked in.

kerribear1717 · May 2011

If it's his gallbladder the procedure is really easy if they have to remove it. Sometimes you can just alter your diet and get educated and they won't have to remove it. I had mine out earlier this year. Yes I did have to go to the hospital and ER (and pay for it) but it was the first time I'd had the pain. But I planned the surgery and it was not painful at all afterward. I didn't work for a week but I was totally fine. No restrictions at all really. GL!

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