Would you marry him if his sister was psycho?

thejennigirl · May 2011

What about having said future SIL a member of your wedding party?

I fitted her in her bridesmaid dress, and was exasperated because she wanted it taken in, but there was nothing to take in. Sure, if you life your arms over your head and hop up and down like you're in a bad music video, yes, a strapless dress will shift and move. But, in reality, you hold flowers. At your waist. You get to wear the straps at the reception.

Welllll....

Future SIL went a little nuts a few days after her fitting and drove to another girl's house in the middle of the night and threatened to kill her. She ended up in a mental hospital, where she was diagnosed bipolar type 1 and schitzophrenic (sp?).

No problem, she'll be out of the hospital well before the wedding, future MIL assures the bride. In fact, psycho chick not only gets out weeks before the wedding, she gets out and decided her hospital stay is the bride's fault and therefor, the bride must die.

Ensues dramatic voice mail, texts, and snail mail that explain to the blushing bride exactly how she plans to kill her.

Bride removes psycho from wedding party and the family of the bride bans her from the church (they hired guards for the doors of the church and the reception hall). Psycho decides that she has been wronged (again), so she eggs the church and yells profanties thru the entire service.

When groom and bride decide enough is enough, they go to call the police. Except newly minted MIL refuses to give them the groom's phone. Why, you ask? Because MIL thinks all of this is the bride and groom's fault, because they didn't make enough fuss about pyscho, and then they took away her tiny roll in "a day big enough for everyone". After all, doesn't he realize that his sister has never had to share the lime light before, and it's hard on her.

Psycho spent the reception riding on a stretcher on her way to the state mental hospital. The misister called the police while MIL argued SIL's case.

I really, really, REALLY hope this man is worth it to her (the bride).

sophabelle · May 2011

wow.... she must love that guy an awful lot to put up with that crap! i mean the SIL is bad enough, but honestly it would be the MIL that would have me 2nd guessing that relationship lol. SIL obviously has some mental issues going on.... what's MIL's excuse? (maybe it's genetic from her side? lol)

nikll34 · May 2011

Indifferent

Yikes.

papagena · May 2011

wow....

MissyOlivePants · May 2011

Puts things in perspective, huh? I guess I don't have it too bad afterall!

Soyager · May 2011

Sad.

Lotte134 · May 2011

Oh my.

Lady Galadriel · May 2011

Me thinks its time for both of them to get a name change and RUN LIKE HELL!!!

pixy_stix · May 2011

Sounds like MIL might have a few mental issues as well.

Maybe SIL will calm down once she's on meds.

satreece · May 2011

Um... before I read the post, I said "no... it might be genetic. plus nobody needs a psycho sil."

Now that I read it: WOW. Yeah... Not sure I would have married him, but I'd sure as heck be getting FAR away from that family and HOPING it wasn't genetic. That is some crazy sh!t.

ToastieSimons · May 2011

Because MIL thinks all of this is the bride and groom's fault, because they didn't make enough fuss about pyscho, and then they took away her tiny roll in "a day big enough for everyone".

I'm ashamed to say it...this is my MIL. My SIL is a total witch, still trying to break DH and I up depsite 4 years of marriage and a baby. And MIL told me that we need to make sure SIL feels included, this day is not all about you. SIL is very insulted that she isn't in the wedding, she is family after all. (I had a MOH no bridesmaids and to be nice I let her do a reading) Then she wore a white dress to the wedding, and MIL says well she needed to feel special too.

I still married him. Then we moved 7 hours away from MIL and FIL and probably 15 hours? maybe more from SIL.

thejennigirl · May 2011

ToastieSimons:

Because MIL thinks all of this is the bride and groom's fault, because they didn't make enough fuss about pyscho, and then they took away her tiny roll in "a day big enough for everyone".

I'm ashamed to say it...this is my MIL. My SIL is a total witch, still trying to break DH and I up depsite 4 years of marriage and a baby. And MIL told me that we need to make sure SIL feels included, this day is not all about you. SIL is very insulted that she isn't in the wedding, she is family after all. (I had a MOH no bridesmaids and to be nice I let her do a reading) Then she wore a white dress to the wedding, and MIL says well she needed to feel special too.

I still married him. Then we moved 7 hours away from MIL and FIL and probably 15 hours? maybe more from SIL.

I sincerely hope there were no death threats involved in your big day.

ToastieSimons · May 2011

thejennigirl:
ToastieSimons:

Because MIL thinks all of this is the bride and groom's fault, because they didn't make enough fuss about pyscho, and then they took away her tiny roll in "a day big enough for everyone".

I'm ashamed to say it...this is my MIL. My SIL is a total witch, still trying to break DH and I up depsite 4 years of marriage and a baby. And MIL told me that we need to make sure SIL feels included, this day is not all about you. SIL is very insulted that she isn't in the wedding, she is family after all. (I had a MOH no bridesmaids and to be nice I let her do a reading) Then she wore a white dress to the wedding, and MIL says well she needed to feel special too.

I still married him. Then we moved 7 hours away from MIL and FIL and probably 15 hours? maybe more from SIL.

I sincerely hope there were no death threats involved in your big day.

not quite that far, but it wouldn't surprise me. She talked *** about me to the other family, hit on married men at my wedding, made out (pretty nasty) with her date so that she would be in some of my pictures. Told me she didn't want me in the family so I'd better watch out and that she would make me pay. She said give it 6 months she'd make my life so miserable that I'd be begging to leave.

And she wasn't going to come to the wedding. She only came to be there for her brother. She had to drive his car to the reception hall for when we could leave and she left him a note in there about not having to do this and it's okay to leave. But she knew her brother was too good of a man to leave me at the altar so I just better be prepared for the divorce papers. She said she felt bad for everyone there supporting me because they obviously don't know how horrible I am.

And MIL thinks it's all okay. All because SIL wasn't around while you two dated, she just wants to feel like it's a big day for her. She just doesn't KNOW you yet, she just doesn't understand.

So it was pretty close to death threats, although it's all MY fault, not DH's. He's a saint in their eyes.

thejennigirl · May 2011

ToastieSimons:
thejennigirl:
ToastieSimons:

Because MIL thinks all of this is the bride and groom's fault, because they didn't make enough fuss about pyscho, and then they took away her tiny roll in "a day big enough for everyone".

I'm ashamed to say it...this is my MIL. My SIL is a total witch, still trying to break DH and I up depsite 4 years of marriage and a baby. And MIL told me that we need to make sure SIL feels included, this day is not all about you. SIL is very insulted that she isn't in the wedding, she is family after all. (I had a MOH no bridesmaids and to be nice I let her do a reading) Then she wore a white dress to the wedding, and MIL says well she needed to feel special too.

I still married him. Then we moved 7 hours away from MIL and FIL and probably 15 hours? maybe more from SIL.

I sincerely hope there were no death threats involved in your big day.

not quite that far, but it wouldn't surprise me. She talked *** about me to the other family, hit on married men at my wedding, made out (pretty nasty) with her date so that she would be in some of my pictures. Told me she didn't want me in the family so I'd better watch out and that she would make me pay. She said give it 6 months she'd make my life so miserable that I'd be begging to leave.

And she wasn't going to come to the wedding. She only came to be there for her brother. She had to drive his car to the reception hall for when we could leave and she left him a note in there about not having to do this and it's okay to leave. But she knew her brother was too good of a man to leave me at the altar so I just better be prepared for the divorce papers. She said she felt bad for everyone there supporting me because they obviously don't know how horrible I am.

And MIL thinks it's all okay. All because SIL wasn't around while you two dated, she just wants to feel like it's a big day for her. She just doesn't KNOW you yet, she just doesn't understand.

So it was pretty close to death threats, although it's all MY fault, not DH's. He's a saint in their eyes.

My sympathies. Really.

ToastieSimons · May 2011

thejennigirl:
ToastieSimons:
thejennigirl:
ToastieSimons:

Because MIL thinks all of this is the bride and groom's fault, because they didn't make enough fuss about pyscho, and then they took away her tiny roll in "a day big enough for everyone".

I'm ashamed to say it...this is my MIL. My SIL is a total witch, still trying to break DH and I up depsite 4 years of marriage and a baby. And MIL told me that we need to make sure SIL feels included, this day is not all about you. SIL is very insulted that she isn't in the wedding, she is family after all. (I had a MOH no bridesmaids and to be nice I let her do a reading) Then she wore a white dress to the wedding, and MIL says well she needed to feel special too.

I still married him. Then we moved 7 hours away from MIL and FIL and probably 15 hours? maybe more from SIL.

I sincerely hope there were no death threats involved in your big day.

not quite that far, but it wouldn't surprise me. She talked *** about me to the other family, hit on married men at my wedding, made out (pretty nasty) with her date so that she would be in some of my pictures. Told me she didn't want me in the family so I'd better watch out and that she would make me pay. She said give it 6 months she'd make my life so miserable that I'd be begging to leave.

And she wasn't going to come to the wedding. She only came to be there for her brother. She had to drive his car to the reception hall for when we could leave and she left him a note in there about not having to do this and it's okay to leave. But she knew her brother was too good of a man to leave me at the altar so I just better be prepared for the divorce papers. She said she felt bad for everyone there supporting me because they obviously don't know how horrible I am.

And MIL thinks it's all okay. All because SIL wasn't around while you two dated, she just wants to feel like it's a big day for her. She just doesn't KNOW you yet, she just doesn't understand.

So it was pretty close to death threats, although it's all MY fault, not DH's. He's a saint in their eyes.

My sympathies. Really.

eh it is what is. But I'm making her eat her words, because it's been 4 years. And I just showed her that I'm over her. I don't have any contact with her, she has minimal contact with my son. I dont' send her pictures, neither does DH.

jbergs · May 2011

ToastieSimons:

Because MIL thinks all of this is the bride and groom's fault, because they didn't make enough fuss about pyscho, and then they took away her tiny roll in "a day big enough for everyone".

I'm ashamed to say it...this is my MIL. My SIL is a total witch, still trying to break DH and I up depsite 4 years of marriage and a baby. And MIL told me that we need to make sure SIL feels included, this day is not all about you. SIL is very insulted that she isn't in the wedding, she is family after all. (I had a MOH no bridesmaids and to be nice I let her do a reading) Then she wore a white dress to the wedding, and MIL says well she needed to feel special too.

I still married him. Then we moved 7 hours away from MIL and FIL and probably 15 hours? maybe more from SIL.

This very thing happened to me as well. Only my SIL has made death threats. Not towards me, but my MIL and FIL. She's been hospitalized more times than I can count and lies like it's her job about me. Just two weeks ago I was criticized by my MIL for not being a better friend to my SIL. They are sick, sick people. We're moving 15 hours away this summer.

Pamela05 · May 2011

Nope. Would have broke it off after the death threats. And a crazy MIL to boot! I always wonder about all the women who complain about thru awful inlaws. That's something that should be considered in choosing the man.

Dobie_Mama · May 2011

B's sister is psycho. She didn't just make death threats, she tried to strangle him, at one point, when he tried to talk to her about how he was concerned for her well being. It is what it is. It's certainly not a fun situation but it's out of B's control.