We are planning to tell W after Tuesday, the 3rd beta. I want to give him something as a gift to open. Has anyone seen any cute or non traditional "Big Brother" shirts? We would prefer something a little original but don't have a ton of time to shop on line for shipping ect..
Any suggestions? Any local Etsy shops that we wouldn't have to worry about shipping?
Also, for 2nd time mom's, when did you tell the big? Is this too early? He's going to be so excited and I'm so excited to tell him but worried he might blab?
Re: Big Brother shirts and when to tell
We always wait until we have that first U/S in hand...about 12 weeks and we are ready to tell friends and family. U/S are a family event for us and that is when we tell the kids ("Look that is a baby!"). Be prepared to hear,"When is the baby coming?" until the baby is here, if W is 3 or 4 years old.
No advice on shirts other than to do one yourself, I understand it is pretty easy.
We told our parents by having Ella wear this shirt https://www.etsy.com/listing/61811248/custom-personalized-going-to-gonna-be-a
You can have it personalized with your son's name on the back and it came in the mail a little less than a week after I ordered it. It says comes with a free gift and the free gift is a newborn size onesie that says, I love my big brother/sister.
Since DD is so young, she can't tell anyone, so we didn't worry about that, but I'd think with a young child I wouldn't tell until I wanted everyone to know. I know how their mouths work.
We told family at 7 weeks and everyone else at 8.
No advice, of course, being a FTM. I wanted to mention/remind you that your first u/s will likely be at 6 weeks, with another one probably around 8 weeks. So, you'll have something to show/share earlier, if you chose to do it that way. With us, we were a little too worried to share much that early, but I know that could be a cool way to tell people, if you wanted to use an u/s.
I am SO excited for you! Can't wait to hear your next beta numbers!
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I found J's shirt at Fred Meyer (just a Carter's one). We didn't tell her till around 11 weeks and told family at 13 weeks because that's when we saw them.
My fave etsy seller was zoeysattic but she's in St Louis. I love this one BTW if you can wait for shipping
https://www.etsy.com/listing/71642731/can-you-dig-it-dump-truck-big-brother
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I had to bookmark that shirt, that is just way to cool.
Although I don't have any experience with this yet, I agree with KRoseToes. Walter would be crushed if anything were to happen. But I also don't think I would be able to wait. (I told my family the day I got my BFP). You know Walter better than any of us, so you need to make the decision that is best for your family; however, he may be so excited that he can't keep the secret.
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We bought Big Sister shirts at Fred Meyer. We told my parents when I was almost 7 weeks - it was halloween so we told them we were going to put the girls halloween costumes on and had them walk out. It was perfect because they had their cameras and video camera going.
The girls were too young to understand when I first found out I was pregnant so we didn't really start trying to explain it to them until I was noticibly showing (after 20 weeks.)
We didn't tell anyone else until after the NT Scan.
I probably don't post enough for you to know me, but I'm SO excited for you! Congrats again!
It's totally your call when to tell W, but it does feel a little unfair to tell him this soon. 1--To him, 9 months will feel SO long to wait; 2--It'll be hard for him to keep it quiet (if that's what you are hoping for); and 3--If (God forbid, knock on wood) you miscarried, it would be really sad for him and hard to understand. This happened to my SIL and my nephew still talks about it.
But, I'm sure you're bursting and just want to celebrate with him! That would be a tough decision.
Hmmm, you all bring up a good point about waiting....we definately will tell him before our parents and we were planning to do that after the 6 week US since we'll be seeing them in person and this will be the last time we see them in person until september. We do want to do it in person since we can. So, we'll have to talk about to do for telling W....Thanks for your input.
Tiff, I'll send you a FB message.