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Tell me this is normal/a good thing (DCP related)

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Ok, I feel terrible about this, so I need some fellow mom's to tell me this is normal/actually a good thing.

Yesterday when I dropped the LOs at dacyare (they go 3x/week), I handed DD to DCP in the driveway. I then went around to the other side of the van to get DS while DCP went into the house. When I got to the house, DD was crying. I asked DCP's daughter (who is DCP's assistant) what happened. She said, "Mom left the room." So, I asked, "You mean DD got upset when she saw me go back to the car?" DCP's daughter said, "No, I mean DCP. She hates when DCP leaves and isn't within sight or in the room."

Apparently DD is really unhappy whenever she can't see DCP and is really attached to her. This made me feel terrible b/c DD is definitely not that clingy with DH and me. We call her "Miss Independence" b/c she's so unclingy. But, I guess I should be happy that DD likes DCP and is crying when DCP leaves, rather than crying when she sees DCP.

So, is this normal?

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Re: Tell me this is normal/a good thing (DCP related)

  • Jitterbug2668Jitterbug2668 member
    I'd say yes, its normal, but I'm also curious as to what others say.   My DS about jumps out of my arms and into my Aunts (his DCP) every single morning and kicks and screams when I take him outta there every afternoon.  He's also Mr. Independent at home.  I think its a good thing they're comfortable where they are. 
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  • WinesNot WhinesWinesNot Whines
    Yes, my LO is very attached to one of his daycare teachers. He follows her around and cries when she leaves the room or when she's giving attention to another baby and not to him. I think it's normal (and good that he loves her so much!). I know she loves him, too. I'd be more concerned if he didn't like his DCP.
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  • ArtslvrArtslvr
    Not only do I think it's normal, for me, it's what I want.  Our DCP spends many, many hours with our LO's (DD #2 and DS) and I can only hope that they form a strong attachment to her.  If they didn't, I'd wonder if I had made the right DCP choice!
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  • DCtoLowcountryDCtoLowcountry
    It's a good thing that your LO is attached to your DCP. I know irrationally it hurts since you're the mom. I hate when DS protests leaving DCP, but I'm glad that they have a good relationship and he has a good time there since I enjoy my time at work, too. Hang in there!
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  • mommmyzmommmyz

    Yep, this happens to us too. I used to get upset that he seemed to love her SO much, honestly some afternoons he got upset about leaving with me! Luckily that phase passed, but truly, I had to tell myself this was a very good thing. I'd rather have this than tears every morning at drop off, which is what my parents had with me for years (and I know we could still have as his phases change!).

     

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  • MrsNJSwimmerMrsNJSwimmer member
    from a slightly different perspective, I have to say it's also a good thing!  I LOVED my at home sitter when I was growing up - in fact, I still keep in tough with her and her family (she had 2 kids that were about 7-10 yrs older than me).  I too was Miss Independent from a young age (as my mom has always told me) .  I'm sure it made my mom feel bad that I wanted to stay there and spend more time with my sitter, but we have a healthy relationship now and I'm glad I felt loved at more than one place!  
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  • victoria1212victoria1212 member
    DD gets upset when she has to leave DCP in the afternoon. So, yes- totally normal but it makes me happy because it means she is happy! I do get a big hug from her when I show up but then she wants to stay with her friends.
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  • ch ch ch chiach ch ch chia

    Also remember - kids go in stages.

    There was a 2 or 3 month period where DD didn't want to leave DCP's house...  and now she rushes into my arms (usually).  I think there are periods of time where they are more emotionally and physically dependent on the DCP - and it doesn't always make sense or correlate with other behaviors in different environments.

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  • Mzshell13Mzshell13 member
    Definitely normal.  DS runs in the house every morning when DH dropps him off, and fusses every day when I pick him up.  DS was extremely attached to our DCP assistant, who just moved to a new state 2 weeks ago. They were like 2 peas in a pod.  He's had a hard time adjusting this week, but is back to normal.
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