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Someone must have it worse than me right now...
So, I'm feeling super stressed and I want someone to tell me they're worse off. So, here's my situation:
-My son's day care provider just told us yesterday that she can't watch him after this week.
-I only need care for the next 7 weeks and then I'm off for the summer. Who is going to sign up for that? Not to mention the additional transition for my son.
-I have an appointment on Monday so that's less time I can be interviewing people.
-I have a few sick days left but there are several days between now and the end of the school year when I can't use them because of field trips, events etc.
-My husband currently has enough days off to take a week off when our baby comes in Dec. If he takes time off now to help with childcare it means either less time in Dec with a new baby or unpaid time in Dec.
-I'm writing report cards, but they aren't normal report cards they are long and full of narrative bits. They average 8 pages per student and there are 18 students. Those are due by next Friday.
-I'm pregnant and throwing up every morning
- My co-teacher quit her job earlier this spring so I've been doing 2 people's jobs for a month or two at this point and I'm exhausted.
-My son still doesn't sleep through the night at 16 months and he tends to go to bed at like 10, I would prefer to go to bed at 9.
That's all I can think of for now. Someone please tell me your life is more stressful. Or maybe point out how it could be worse...
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Re: Someone must have it worse than me right now...
Sounds like you've hit a rough patch for sure! The above poster is right though, these things are temporary and you will find solutions. How about making a list of all the good things in your life too? It might help lift you up a little bit.
{hugs}
My twins are 5! My baby is 3!
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DS#3 - Allergic to Milk, Egg, Peanut, Tree Nuts and Sesame
You could try making your DCP help you find a solution, or you could beg your OB to write you a FMLA excuse for a few days (despite all the EOY events). Good luck!
I know this might sound weird and staker-ish, but I was thinking about you this morning and how you have a lot going on right now. While the first poster was a little harsh, she is right. Try to find the things in your life to be thankful for - a healthy son, a new baby on the way, a place to live. Simple things like that might make you feel better.
Has your husband thought of working opposite shifts as you? I know this isn't something that can happen immediately, but it's something to think about it. Any daycares in your area that have availability? Family that can fly down to stay with you? Have you maybe asked your current daycare provider if she can at least do a few days a week that way you aren't having to take off all 5 days? Have you spoken to your pedi about your sons sleeping habits? Not sure what time he gets up, but 10 seems like a late bedtime.
This is a speed bump and you will get through it. But if you really want a list- My grandpa passed away this Tuesday, my MIL is extremelly ill and has been in the hospital for 3 weeks now and will be pooping in a bag the rest of her life, and I just found out last night my uncle is in hospice and they give him two weeks.
Hugs to you and keep your head up.
You will survive. This is temporary. And I have been known to go to the special needs or preemie board to appreciate my own life a little more. But sometimes you're allowed to stop and feel sorry for yourself in your own situation for x amt of time. But then, when the time is up, it's time to start tackling your list. You can do it!!!
These sort of things do seem to all happen at once and really test you; 2011 hasn't been kind to us either (my dad lost his job/had double pneumonia/his father (my grandfather) died, C had RSV and I had eye infection issues all the same week back in January). Sure, it's all pretty much tied to good stuff, but it is still easy to feel overwhelmed.
Can you talk with administration about any delay on the report cards? Can anyone watch your DS for a few hours this weekend so you can rest and get a head start on the report cards? If you make arrangements for DS to return to the same daycare situation in the fall, I'm sure there'd be a center or in-home provider willing to help with DS for 7wks now; maybe DS could even go there part time 1-2 days a week over the summer to give you a break while pregnant. Deep breaths, things will come together, though I know some days you just want to scream/cry/run away for a bit.
Can your husband get a second job or change jobs to something that pays better/has more leave? You are not required to stay in a job that isn't working for you. Can you tell your sitter that you can't find anyone on such short notice and ask her if she'll help you guys out on a week by week basis?
Also - why is your 16 mo not STTN? Unless he has some kind of medical issue, I'm not sure why that's going on - and even if he's not STTN, he should be going to bed much earlier than 10 or 9 pm. I would do Ferber starting TONIGHT to remedy that situation. Getting him to bed earlier and STTN will make both of you happier.
SERIOUSLY! I def would not go to the special needs board to feel better about my life. I don't think that's what parents of special needs children want. They just want compassion and understanding and support.
Yes, we should all be grateful if we have happy healthy children... But we are also all allowed to be stressed out or hope someone is going through the same thing right now so we can relate to someone. I know when DD was first born I kept thinking about all the other mom's out there that were in the same boat with me and it made me feel better and that we would all get through it.
To OP I was going to be laid off in July (I found out yesterday I am no longer being laid off) so I can relate to things just falling apart. I am not cut out to be a SAHM but wouldn't be able to afford DD going to DC fulltime if I was laid off but would need her to go at least a few days a week to hold our spot and do interviews and stuff. It will get better and you will et through it.
Thanks everyone. You're right I definitely need to look at what's going well right now. My kid is healthy, happy and super easy going. He's probably not going to care about the transition. My husband has been awesome lately with cleaning and even with getting up at night so I've been getting more sleep. Technically the last 2 nights I've been able to sleep all night because my husband got up and rocked the boy back to sleep when he woke once. I'm not going to sleep train I'm just going to be patient. I'm completely at peace with that decision and really most of the time don't complain about it or mind.
Thanks also about the childcare suggestions. I'm working on it and we have a few leads and I'll look into some of your ideas. It's just stressful and on top of it I'm getting a head cold and so I'm all stuffy and cloudy today. I appreciate the support and those of you who clearly knew that what I needed was sympathy and we've been there. I'll let ya'll know how it goes.
ding ding ding
op - even if your DH is getting up w/ DS, you're still "waking up" right? If DD is up, I'm up - I think its in the DNA for moms to be awake if their kids are crying. I know sleep training isn't for everyone but please think about it a little - also think about how you will survive 2 kids that don't STTN (on your ML and after you go back - at 6 weeks, right?) How you will feel at 39 weeks getting up? And, really, anyway, its not about you - your LO just needs more sleep and he need a little nudge from you to figure out that its OK to STTN and he can get himself back to sleep if needed.
You know, I read this post this morning and I immediately thought:
You probably aren't starving. You probably have a roof over your head. You probably have a job that is providing you with money to have these things.
You're good. Seriously. There are people all over the world who DON'T have these things. Millions of people. You are so very blessed. Really.
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