Anyone Team Green for baby #1 and found out for baby #2?

jarbatz · May 2011

Its early and I have lots of time to think about this....but I have always been 100% Team Green...even before I was married....I always knew I'd be Team Green. Nothing against those that choose to find out....I just have always wanted to wait.

So baby #2 is coming....will most likely be our last and DH has expressed an interest in finding out. For no other reason that "why not"....and I have been warming to the idea.

A few of my team green friends have said they too would consider finding out for the next one....but when I told my sister last night (who was Team Green for all 4 kids) she said the minute I find out I will regret it. I am pissed that she reacted that way...but of course now I can't stop thinking about it....will I regret it?

I hate that my family members have such influence over me....but at the same time I don't want to regret any choices I make for this pregnancy since it probably is the last time I will experience it.

Thanks for any advice/input!

roundtheworldgirl · May 2011

We were Team Green the first time around because DH wanted to be. I kind of wanted to know, but he felt strongly so I went along with it. I ended up really liking being Team Green, and planned to do it for the second time, too. My birth center doesn't recommend u/s unless there is something potentially wrong to check out, so I figured I wouldn't have an opportunity anyway. Turns out I had placenta previa, and ended up having to have an u/s around 18 weeks anyway. So I told DH I wanted to find out. The doc told us she wasn't entirely sure, but she thought it was a girl. I didn't feel any immediate regret (but then, I wasn't ready to announce to the world that we were having a girl either, based on what the doc said).

Lambie. · May 2011

Not the situation you are asking about but I always planned on being Team Green too but DH wanted to find out the first time (he is awful with both being paitent and with surprises) so we found out. I never regretted it for even a second even though I had wanted to be team green.

caymanbride · May 2011

Mine is a different situation, but I found out with both boys, and loved knowing! It was so fun to shop, decorate, plan, talk about names, etc...Also to envision life first with one little boy, and then knowing A would have a little brother. I don't regret knowing for a second.

Having said that, I'd like to go Team Green for # 3 just because I'm curious to see what the other side is like!

katie052409 · May 2011

We were team green with #1 because I strongly wanted to wait while DH wanted to find out. I wanted to be able to plan/ envision/ etc for both genders and I loved that. Especially since we though DD was a boy the whole time, when she came out and they announced it was a girl, it was AMAZING. (we had weekly u/s due to being high risk so it was hard not to "notice" parts- good thing we were bad at that!)

For #2 we find out the gender in a few weeks. Part of this is because DH really wants to find out (compromise, compromise, right?) And also so that we can plan what to do with the bedrooms (if its another girl we may room them together in a super girly room, whereas if its a boy, we will do seperate nurseries). Lastly, although I LOVED being team green, I don't think I could wait again. I can't wait to be able to envision my DD with a younger brother or sister and so this time around waiting till 40 weeks is too much even for me.

Good luck!

jarbatz · May 2011

katie052409:

We were team green with #1 because I strongly wanted to wait while DH wanted to find out. I wanted to be able to plan/ envision/ etc for both genders and I loved that. Especially since we though DD was a boy the whole time, when she came out and they announced it was a girl, it was AMAZING. (we had weekly u/s due to being high risk so it was hard not to "notice" parts- good thing we were bad at that!)

For #2 we find out the gender in a few weeks. Part of this is because DH really wants to find out (compromise, compromise, right?) And also so that we can plan what to do with the bedrooms (if its another girl we may room them together in a super girly room, whereas if its a boy, we will do seperate nurseries). Lastly, although I LOVED being team green, I don't think I could wait again. I can't wait to be able to envision my DD with a younger brother or sister and so this time around waiting till 40 weeks is too much even for me.

Good luck!

Hey - we are in the same situation...totally thought DD was a boy the entire time...had countless U/S due to high BP...and were always so scared the Tech would slip. Just thinki it would be cool now to experience it the other way...and of course to help plan, etc. If you think of it - post back here after you find out! Can't wait to hear what you're having and what it was like for you this time around! :-)

TinaL99 · May 2011

We were Team Green with DD and we loved it! The moment in the OR when DH told me that "we have our little Stella" was so special. We are Team Green again b/c we want to relive that moment 1 more time (this is our last baby).

It has been a lot harder this time around though. I think that because this is our last baby I feel like I need to "get over" the fact that I may never have a son. I've thought about finding out this time around so I have time to come to terms with the fact that I might have 2 daughters and DH & I have discussed it, too. Since our talk I've realized that I truly don't care if it's a boy or a girl. Our family will be complete once s/he arrives and we will be as thrilled to have another daughter as we would be to have a son.

Anyway, sorry for the tangent! I cannot wait for DH to announce "We have our little Audrey or Henry" in the OR (repeat c/s). To us personally, that is something that we want again and a moment that we will remember forever. Totally worth the wait.

MrsPatterson · May 2011

We were Green with DS and DH really, really wanted to find out with DD. I wanted to be Green again, but I caved and we found out. I was shocked that she was a girl, even though I had a feeling. For some reason I'd always believed that we'd never have a girl. When she was born, I was sorry that we had found out. With DS, I knew he was a boy, even though we were technically Green, so it was no surprise at all when my OB said "It's a boy!". With DD, I would have been truly surprised and it would have been an incredible moment. This is just me, but if I were going into a pregnancy knowing it was my last one, I would absolutely want to be Green again.

CaitlinJ22 · May 2011

caymanbride:
Mine is a different situation, but I found out with both boys, and loved knowing! It was so fun to shop, decorate, plan, talk about names, etc...Also to envision life first with one little boy, and then knowing A would have a little brother. I don't regret knowing for a second.
Having said that, I'd like to go Team Green for # 3 just because I'm curious to see what the other side is like!

I agree. Also having a boy and a girl, I know that we have stuff for both sexes....so I would LOVE to not find out next time. Thats our plan...we'll see if we can stick to it. I think its something I would love to experience. I liked knowing, but I would like to feel the other side too. I want DH to anounce the baby's sex when s/he is born for #3.

PhilsWife07 · May 2011

caymanbride:
Mine is a different situation, but I found out with both boys, and loved knowing! It was so fun to shop, decorate, plan, talk about names, etc...Also to envision life first with one little boy, and then knowing A would have a little brother. I don't regret knowing for a second.
Having said that, I'd like to go Team Green for # 3 just because I'm curious to see what the other side is like!

Ditto all of this!

ldoo · May 2011

We didn't find out with #1 (girl) and did with #2 (girl). Each way was awesomely exciting! How could you regret it? It's your child. Ignore your family. Do what you want.

cherhop1 · May 2011

So I'm still Team Green with LO#2 BUT I have been tempted this time to find out. The suspense is killing me. First time around I was just so excited to be have a baby that it didn't faze me to obsess about the sex. Not knowing is fun.

This time around it is most likely our last also so it would be nice to know if I will ever have a daughter or not. I guess the big question is: Will it change anything? Will you get your tubes tied if you get one of each? If the answer is no then finding out simply to satisfy your curiousity might be a disappointment. Your sister has hit a nerve! Sounds like you enjoy the surprise element so I'm guessing because the suspense is greater this time around the surpise moment at birth will be monumental!

I feel for you. I almost broke down and bought an Intelligender pee test at 29 weeks. I planned on keeping the secret to myself as my husband said we waited this long why find out now? Luckily I only have 1 month to go and I am so glad I didn't find out.

Listen to your gut. Big Smile Make sure you thought it out and don't cave in at a weak moment.

jarbatz · May 2011

cherhop1:

So I'm still Team Green with LO#2 BUT I have been tempted this time to find out. The suspense is killing me. First time around I was just so excited to be have a baby that it didn't faze me to obsess about the sex. Not knowing is fun.

This time around it is most likely our last also so it would be nice to know if I will ever have a daughter or not. I guess the big question is: Will it change anything? Will you get your tubes tied if you get one of each? If the answer is no then finding out simply to satisfy your curiousity might be a disappointment. Your sister has hit a nerve! Sounds like you enjoy the surprise element so I'm guessing because the suspense is greater this time around the surpise moment at birth will be monumental!

I feel for you. I almost broke down and bought an Intelligender pee test at 29 weeks. I planned on keeping the secret to myself as my husband said we waited this long why find out now? Luckily I only have 1 month to go and I am so glad I didn't find out.

Listen to your gut. Make sure you thought it out and don't cave in at a weak moment.

Thanks for the response. Everyone have given great feedback. But I think you're right...she did hit a nerve. And my first delivery was absolutely horrible....emergency c-section after 24+ hours of labor...I was SO drugged and out of it that the big "its a girl" moment was totally lost...I didn't even get to hold her for hours after b/c my arms were numb. I feel really jipped of that moment and after ALL that waiting. So I think since this will most likely be the last time (never say never, LOL)...that we will be Team Green again! If there's a 3rd, then maybe we'll find out! :-)

jkelly41 · May 2011

With DS, we were Team Green and I was so tired and glad the pushing was over, the moment was lost of me. I remember thinking "oh great, it's a boy- now give me my baby." I couldn't have cared less what the sex was, I just wanted to see my LO.

With DD, we found out at 20 weeks and it was wonderful! We had the doc write it down in an envelope and we opened it a few days later at home (on Mother's Day). It's was just me, DH, and DS and it was a moment I'll never forget.

Now that all said- I've had it both ways. IF we have a third, I think I'd go Team Green so that I can try to capture that "movie moment" of "it's a ____!!"

JesseKhloe&Me · May 2011

We were team green with #1 and Loved it.

We found out with #2(&#3) only because it was twins, we had a million ultrasounds and we needed to be financially more prepared to afford 2 new babies (clothes, etc.)

It was not dissapointing to find out, of course you will be excited, but once you know, some of the excitment is gone IMO.

Having done both, I think it is 100% more exciting to wait.

Good Luck