who have you told you're TTC?

bunsen5000 · May 2011

just a curious question from a newbie!!

DH and i have not told anyone, and i have found it hard to not have a close friend (or my mom!) to talk to about it. of course i have DH, but he is afraid i am letting the process consume me, so we do not talk about it too much.

who have you told and does it help you or hurt you?

Ellis31 · May 2011

I have told my sister and my mom, it's great, they are both so supportive

I would never be able to keep it completely to myself, I'm too excited to start trying!

MamaWino · May 2011

I need someone to talk to about it so I told my best friend. A few other friends and my mom know that we'd like to grow our family soon but they don't know that we're TTC. It's killing me not telling my mom... I wanted it to be a surprise for her but I don't know think I can go too much longer without breaking down and telling her everything

Oem617 · May 2011

I have only told two of my very close friends. I like that I have the bump to share on.

KristieM1985 · May 2011

only you lovely ladies on the bump and my DH of course. haha.

crystalmeyer08 · May 2011

I have told my mom and 2 very close friends...other than that, we are keeping it a secret. We didn't want people constantly asking if we were pregnant yet because it would be hard to say no and to be reminded we weren't...and if we were pregnant, it would be hard to lie because we want to wait til I am at least 10 weeks to tell people in case something happens. It is good to have people to talk to about it in person though!

BlueEyedDreamer · May 2011

No one but my doc. We plan to keep it that way, too.

Amomtomanyluvs · May 2011

I have told my mom who I thought would be very opposed to it. And my best friend. Both have been incredibly supportive and I am really glad I told them!!!

pink diamond92310 · May 2011

One of my best friends , SIL and my MIL. My MIL is like so into it, every morning she texts me and asks me what's your temp? What does that temp mean? Did you take a OPK Or did you get your period? Did you take your clomid? Its really nice to have another woman to talk to and it's nice to know she cares so much but damn!!

RequiresExalted · May 2011

I've told a few close friends and a few close family members.

Fortunately my one friend took it to heart when I told her "just because you know we're trying, doesn't mean you should ask me if I'm pregnant every time we talk. Trust me, if it happens, you'll know! :P"

amerifrau · May 2011

My Mum, one friend, my Dad (& step-mom by association), my older brother and sis-in-law, and DH's mom... and I know my Mum has talked to at least one of her sisters about it. I'm sure my younger brother knows too. No problems so far, though my step-mom is the only one who repeatedly asks if we're pregnant yet. My Mum does give me a bit of the "just relax and let it happen", so I tend to not discuss the details with her. When she talked with one of her sisters about it, she found out that my aunt had a miscarriage that my Mum never knew about (between her 2nd and 3rd kids). I think opening the dialog can be helpful, especially to make sure there aren't any related health issues in your family that you should be aware of. But it's a different process for everyone.

Cookiegirl731 · May 2011

I've only told a close friend who is also TTC and of course DH ( I thought it was important he know Stick out tongue )

Sweetest116 · May 2011

Family and one or two friends... two coworkers know because it actually came up in conversation so I shared. I'm not keeping it a secret, not sure why!

narabug · May 2011

Only our pastor's wife knows. She guessed from something DH said and asked me. I told her we didn't want anyone else to know and as far as I can tell she hasn't told anyone else.

It's really funny because we're close with their family and spend a lot of time at their house with their kids (our age) and grandkids. Every time I'm playing with one of the grandkids our pastor says he could tell DH how to make one if I want him to. I just keep telling him DH doesn't really need help in that department. It sounds more awkward that it really is.

Szeretlek · May 2011

no one. I don't think we want to.

Lena122 · May 2011

Nobody knows. Except my DH... I figured he may like to know. I have NO intention of telling anyone else.

DH's parents are super excited to be grandparents and they've been helping us fix up the house so that we can turn our second bedroom into an actual bedroom (aka nursery) so I'm sure they suspect.

I really just think TTC is a very personal experience and its' not something I want to share with others.

LovestruckAJ · May 2011

Ugh, more people than I should have. We did damage control though. Now when anybody asks, we just say we aren't trying anymore because life's too hectic at the moment with my schooling. Bold face lie. Wink

At least people are off my back now.

waltzingmatilda13 · May 2011

DH told his brother. That's the only IRL person we have shared with and we are comfortable with that because his brother and his wife had T-TTC and we know they won't blab to anyone because the understand about being hounded with questions.

I actually asked DH before I posted here yesterday because we didn't want to tell anyone else, even internet strangers, because when it happens we aren't outing ourselves until 12 weeks. He thought it would be unfair if the internet knew before family, but I needed to talk to someone who understood and was going through the same thing.

SheenaNash1 · May 2011

I've told quite a few people lol, and I didn't really think I would. I told my mom, because she asked point blank and I couldn't lie. She's not totally on board so we don't talk about it much.

I told my BFF, but its akward talking to her about it because shes going through this "I'm 27, single, lonely and sick of it" phase and so she just feels like she is going to lose me when I have kids. So its not her fav subject either.

It sucks not being able to be happy and open about it with the too women that I'm closest too in my life.

I've told some female (and one male) co-worker, my second grade team, because we are really close. They are all excited about it.

And I've told some other close friends,basically the women who were my bridesmaids, and they are all very supportive because they all have kids already and are waiting for me to "join the club".

lukesliebe · May 2011

No one besides my H and I...I really don't want to deal with all the questions and naysayers until I already have a baby in my belly. So I can respond to all the downers who'll try to tell us we should've waited or whatever, with "it's too late"!

almostapearl · May 2011

my BFF and my older sis (whom I'm really close to)

yale · May 2011

We didn't tell anyone when ttc DS. It was ok for us though since it didn't take too long to become pregnant. This time around I feel like too many people know (mostly just close friends and family) and they're just waiting. My response when someone asks is "still trying." I'd rather not have all these people know so I wouldn't have to say anything. The bump was great first time around, it's really all I needed when I had questions or needed to vent.

stellelinds25 · May 2011

We've told a few close friends. My brother knows and I actually just told my mom over the weekend, who I'm certain told my dad. I refuse to tell anyone in DH's family b/c I'll get expectant looks everytime I say I have a stomachache or we go out to dinner and I don't have alcohol to drink.

lycih · May 2011

I told my oldest sister. I'm the closest to her out of all my siblings and she's pregnant with her third, so I thought it'd be helpful to have a someone with experience in my corner. Sometimes I think it's making it a bit more stressful though, because now she's really excited about the possibility of us being pregnant together...

MH, however... luckily not many people understand the "pulling the goalie" reference (He's Canadian. Hockey = life ) because otherwise, he'd have told half the world by now. I had to point blank tell him to STOP TELLING PEOPLE. He just kept nonchalantly telling me stories of how it kept "coming up in conversation." I'm happy he's excited but.... Luckily, he's now figured out that I'm serious about not wanting the whole world to know.

ricecakes1216 · May 2011

Just the ladies here!

My mom would pull a guilt trip on me telling me I need to wait until I live closer..it's been hard not telling her but I don't need her nagging. I don't want anyone to know until I am actually pregnant!

pennyandandy · May 2011

I finally broke down and told my BFF, just because she has kids and knows what it's like to try and be frustrated. I think my mom and sister have figured it out, but I didn't tell them and we don't talk about it.

peloquinJ · May 2011

Nobody IRL knows except us and I plan to keep it that way. I just don't want to be asked a miliion times about it. It is hard to not tell my mom, but I know she'd be one of the worst offenders.

brachatzipora · May 2011

My three best girlfriends know, but our parents don't know (although I think MIL has guessed). I really appreciate having TB to share, complain, and get advice

Mother Meghan · May 2011

I've told some friends that I am thinking about TTC, but we haven't officially started yet. I really don't think I'll tell anyone unless we have issues conceiving and then I may need some support outside my immediate family.

My only worry about telling people is hearing the "just relax, it won't happen unless you don't think about it" comments if we tell anyone, but I guess I won't know what I'll really do until we officially start trying.

outrunthemoon · May 2011

So far it's obviously my FI, my best friend (which is nice to have but she has been pregnant before, although it turned out in miscarriage, so she likes to give advice on how she got oner one oops, as well as the problems in her sex life), my good friend/co-worker, who is great because she has a daughter and is thinking about TTC another. And my boss, which only came out because of the CP and me needing to answer a phone call in the middle of the day. But she is also someone I've known since high school because I used to be friends with her son. It is so nice to have an older woman who has three grown children to talk to about the whole thing. Plus she is so excited and on board about it! Oh and my SIL but we don't really talk about it, she just periodically asks how it's going to my FI.

branwen5 · May 2011

I told my family, then at my DH's cousin's baby shower she asked me when we were going to start trying, my face said it all since I turned bright red (we had just started ttc 2 days before). Now the whole extend family is eagerly waiting

cecee36 · May 2011

I've only told my BFF and my esthetician. (Weird, I know! LOL) My BFF is like my sister and between her and DH, they provide enough support and positivity to get us through. I only told my esthetician because she just had a baby boy about 4 months ago and recently went back to work after leave. I'm a pretty private person (DH is too) by nature so telling too many people wouldn't be anything that I would do under any circumstance; I kind of like to keep things to myself. I think telling people would result in folks constantly asking if I'm PG yet and that would be too much pressure and I'd feel like they were too involved in my business. I don't respond well to that so keeping things quiet until something happens works best. Hopefully we'll have some exciting news to share in the near future!