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XP: Sick of the high drama-- help!

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DD is driving me freaking NUTS with the whining, crying about EVERYTHING, throwing tantrums, talking back. . . It's like she's constantly PMSing and she's only 4.  I have a feeling it doesn't get better. How do you get through it?? 
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Re: XP: Sick of the high drama-- help!

  • renogawrenogaw

    DD is only 3 but I've been noticing a trend towards the worse with this.  So far we've managed by refusing to do what she wants if she's whining or crying for it.  We ask her "Is that how you ask for something?"  Most of the time she'll stop whining and ask with a polite voice and a please.  If she's talking back, we'll tell her that isn't acceptable and that we're "Smiths" and "Smiths" don't talk like that.  If she keeps going, I'll find a corner and put her in time out.  I've also found that it helps to remain completely calm because if my husband or I show agitation, it only seems to make her bad behavior worse. 

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  • franciscazfranciscaz member
    I think they lied when they talked about the "Terrible Twos"... it only seems to keep getting harder.
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  • PeskyPesky member
    I agree with pp that it is important that we stay calm because otherwise DD gets more agitated.  We tend to tell her that is NOT how to ask for something, that that is unacceptable.  We model the right way of asking a few times and then we ignore her when she does with a "I thought I heard something but it didn't sound like the right tone and words were used" and that cues her to try again.  Pitching a fit is generally a one-way ticket to NOT getting what she is asking for.  "Oh, honey, I see ice cream makes you upset and cry and not act nice.  So there just won't be ice cream today."  A couple times of that and let's just say we haven't had an issue since.  Also, if appropriate, I throw it back on her.  "Oh, that is how you treat loved ones so that is how you want me to treat you?  Okay, I can do that."  And when I do, HUGE issues and she tends to change her tune quickly again.  A lot of what I do is Love & Logic.  I talk to her about using "princess" manners, as she is big into those, and asking very politely.  Once she hears the difference between good tones and bad, it is easier for her to mimic the better one.


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