I know life isn't fair, but come on...

vanessagorc · May 2011

what some women on our board have endured...is just too much. I know life isn't easy or fair....but seriously, how much are some of us expected to take.

Some people breeze through life, and clearly we didn't get to land in that group. But it's just time to cut us a break!

It's amazing how some people just get luck of the draw. For the nice ones, good for them. I don't wish our pain/struggles on anyone else. But for the smug b!tches, i believe in karma and u'll see...it shakes out in the end.

But really......enough already, back off all of us for awhile.

Ok vent over.

PS- we are strong enough and have been humbled enough.....MOVE ALONG!

Faith722 · May 2011

Well said.

This s!!! is just heartbreaking.

jlcrane78 · May 2011

Fo real. I have a hard time when I hear about selfish, evil, mean teenagers getting pregnant and taking horrible care of their baby.

Then I think of a certain woman (who is part of a bigger circle of incredible women) who is selfless and kind and compassionate and more than deserving of a child. And I want to punch things at the absolute unfairness of it all.

steveandkim2 · May 2011

I 150% agree with everything you said! Some things just baffle me...

bbakersgirl75 · May 2011

I agree... this is so horribly not fair!

KaliChick · May 2011

I completely agree with everything that's been said. In fact, I was just saying to someone that it's so unfair that not only do we have to struggle with getting pregnant, we then have to struggle to stay pregnant ... when do we get a break!?!?

Anasara · May 2011

Seriously.

I think what p!sses me off more than anything is that we did NOTHING wrong & yet we have to deal with this bullsh!t. I'll never "get used to it". We all work our a$$e$ off, do things right (work, go to school, have a DH/SO who is supportive, become RESPONSIBLE adults, etc.) & yet no matter how hard we try, some of us just can't catch a break when it comes to getting pregnant, staying pregnant & having a healthy child. Maybe I'm a bit of an overachiever, but the fact this whole IF thing is basically out of my hands makes it so much worse. I hate that IF & loss seem to target some of the most wonderful women who would be amazing parents.

Echloe · May 2011

Totally agree. I am so angry right now. This isn't right. Sometimes I feel like we are in some messed up sideways world.

madelyn07 · May 2011

Totally agree.

I'm so damn pissed off today.

SO DAMN PISSED OFF!

smilee · May 2011

So, so , so true.

I try not to question things too often, because it is such a lesson in futility- but today? I simply cannot stop shaking my head and wondering, WTF?

KissyfaceKate · May 2011

IF and the complete unfairness of it all makes me sick to my stomach. I hate what all of the wonderful women on this board have had to endure. Enough is enough already. It just breaks my heart.

Delta04 · May 2011

ITA! It isn't fair at all. I tell my husband all the time that random fools...er uhm, people are getting knocked up for free all the time but we have to not only pay tens of thousands of dollars to do it but deal with the emotional roller coaster that goes with it.. Uggh! Like you, I wouldn't wish it on anyone but it just seems like the wrong people are suffering...

Mrs.Voz · May 2011

So well said.... Man, I wish there was an AMEN button!!

psychmusetls · May 2011

madelyn07:
Totally agree.
I'm so damn pissed off today.
SO DAMN PISSED OFF!

This 100%

emca · May 2011

I agree!! I sit and wonder so often...why us?? I don't get it. It's days like this that make you ask a lot of questions.

LCS040209 · May 2011

AGREE.

mdluv21 · May 2011

Everyone keeps telling me what doesn't kill you makes you stronger...honestly one of these days it might just get to that point.

I am so heartbroken for so many ladies on here.

abvernon · May 2011

Word.

KDR1979 · May 2011

100% agree!

We have friends that fall into this category..EVERYTHING works out for them...They're thin, beautiful, she wins free trips every year for being in pharm sales, gets 16 week maternity leaves + off @ 38 wks just because her work allows it, got a $500K short sale house for ~$300k...get pregnant when they want and actually cried at the birth of their second child because it was the same gender as the first. They decided that they will now find out the gender at 20 wks b/c they don't want to be "disappointed" (he actually used this word when talking to my DH)at the birth of their 3rd child!!!!

Mandy_Lou83 · May 2011

I completely agree!

DeputiesWife · May 2011

100% not fair.

I cant even put in words what I feel for all of us.

"I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much."

MBfromBMC · May 2011

Yes Yes

Maybe it's unhealthy, but that has been the hardest part of IF for me - the total unfairness of it all...

It is unfair that these women who would make awesome moms are robbed of the chance. It is unfair that so many women who make terrible moms churn out children every year. It is unfair that my ability to deal with IF is based on my income and the sh*tty benefits package at my work.

Obviously, life is unfair and I sympathize with all of the other tough breaks that people get in this life, but I am definitely having the hardest time dealing with this part of the experience....

MBfromBMC · May 2011

Anasara:

Seriously.

I think what p!sses me off more than anything is that we did NOTHING wrong & yet we have to deal with this bullsh!t. I'll never "get used to it". We all work our a$$e$ off, do things right (work, go to school, have a DH/SO who is supportive, become RESPONSIBLE adults, etc.) & yet no matter how hard we try, some of us just can't catch a break when it comes to getting pregnant, staying pregnant & having a healthy child. Maybe I'm a bit of an overachiever, but the fact this whole IF thing is basically out of my hands makes it so much worse. I hate that IF & loss seem to target some of the most wonderful women who would be amazing parents.

Well said! This is exactly what I always think!

We were raised to think that achievement is based on merit and hard work. My brain just can't get over all the hard work that these IF ladies have put in and that it just isn't paying off!

Tanya+Da · May 2011

I am bitter and hateful today. And proud of it. I think we have earned the right.

((HUGS)) to all of you wonderful ladies today!

may2806 · May 2011

I have really lost faith in any 'plan' for this world. Not saying I don't believe in God, but I don't believe that a loving God would knowingly put us through what we have been through. Or any of the other horrible things that go on in the world. It just makes no sense and I refuse to believe that this is happening for a 'reason.'

F that!

Life doesn't make sense and I've stopped trying to figure out why good people have to suffer. Instead I'm just bitter and angry about it.

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