Any moms of 2+ thinking of a third? (Or moms of 3)

sourapplemartini · May 2011

I've been struggling with this depending on the day (see post below!). #2 was an easy decision, but I wonder if bringing in a third makes sense for me. MH works long hours so most of the days it's me from bed to bed.

I don't feel like our family is done (most days!). Am I over-thinking it? Do you just decide to do it and jump in?

PhilsWife07 · May 2011

I'm there with you. My husband works shift work and I'm often flying solo. I don't feel like our family is done yet either and I'm pretty sure we'll have another but some days I just think, "what have I gotten myself into?" and "there's no way I could have another!"

sourapplemartini · May 2011

KateB1984:
I get the kids from bed to bed too. But obviously we decided on a third.
For me, I know that there may be a few really rough years with young kids and DH working all the time, but DH and I weren't done. I know I can get through those years because I want this child for the rest of our lives. In the grand scheme of things, it's a small snapshot that I'm afraid of how hard it'll be.

Our kids are almost the same ages Mine are Feb 07 and May 09.

This is a great perspective, thank you for sharing!

franciscaz · May 2011

I never had 2 to be honest but IMO 3 is awesome. I like it b/c the kids all relate to each other in different ways. I get a lot of joy seeing them all interact.

luvmagoldn · May 2011

DH and I were unsure but both felt like we needed to leave the door open. DS#3 decided we were ready for us!

There were times I wondered if we were finished after #3. Again we decided to leave the door open but did say that if I wasn't PG by the time I turned 40 we would accept that we were done. Thus, we are done with three.

A little bit of planning, a little bit of leaving it open to the universe!

shopgirl78 · May 2011

I wanted three (& got those 3) but it ended up being harder than i thought. Adding DS1 was the easiest transition. Despite DS2 being an easy baby, the logistics are just harder. Getting kids in and out of the car and to stay with you having only 2 hands. 3 in daycare (in the summer) is hard--we have very little wiggle room in the summer. Despite it being harder, DS2 is well worth it.

Jinsy80 · May 2011

Not for a long time! We would like both girls to be in school until we have a 3rd (and last) baby. So, probably in 2015. We definitely would like to try for a boy again...but we'll probably end up with another girl. Lol!

mabma80 · May 2011

DH and I had a set number of three before we were married. Heck I think before we were engaged! We are expecting DS#3 in Sept. and then DH is getting nipped in January. We are done. But I can't help but think that if I had one more it would be a girl. But my luck, it'll be another boy. : )

Another thing was that I told DH that I wanted to be done before I turned 35. I'll be 31 when DS#3 is born. I wanted to be fit and enjoy our kids cause I'm a SAHM.

We are 99.9% sure that we are done with babies and we're ok with that. : )

June2007 · May 2011

DD#2 is just 9 months old and this is already bugging me. We used to want 4(!) but reduced it to 3 after we had our first. Now that we have 2 we go back and forth. DH is more set at 2 than I am. I would love a third (and everyone thinks we want a third so that might get a boy but we would actually love a third girl!) but I keep rationalizing that I don't have to make this decision yet. We have time and will want a similar (or bigger) age gap as our first two. Sometimes I wish I could be like "we'll just not prevent but not try" but our experience is that not preventing = baby. Not complaining though but we would have to plan for it and make a decision.

I just realized how insensitive that last line could come across to someone with IF. I didn't mean to trivialize that experience in anyway, sorry if I came across rude.

KristinKD · May 2011

KateB1984:
I know I can get through those years because I want this child for the rest of our lives. In the grand scheme of things, it's a small snapshot that I'm afraid of how hard it'll be.

This is how I feel about it as well. I come from a big family and have always wanted a big family, so even though the early years can be tough, I know it will be worth it in the long-run.

DH would be happy with just our two girls, while I'd love to have four kids, so we've compromised and decided to have one more. We plan to start trying at the end of this year. I just worry that I'll never really feel done; I watch baby shows now and get teary just thinking that I only have one more chance at it.

June2007:
(and everyone thinks we want a third so that might get a boy but we would actually love a third girl!)

We are the same way -- DH even more so than me, actually. We love our girls!

SymphonyGirl · May 2011

We're trying for #3 now. I sometimes am totally freaked out by the idea of 3 little kids all running around like crazy people with only about 2 1/2 years between each kid. But, like a pp said, I know it'll only be insane for a couple of years, and then it will get easier. I don't just want them for the short-term, but for the rest of our lives. I don't feel like our family is complete yet.

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