Anyone else having a surprise shower?

meganjane86 · May 2011

Apparently in my family showers are suppose to be surprises... and it's driving me crazy! I can't ask any questions, I have no idea when it is, I don't even know if there's a day set! I finally broke down and asked my grandmother if there was anything she needed... like a list of my friends names or anything. She told me to stop asking questions.

I know it sounds totally selfish, but I will be really hurt if my friends aren't there. No one has said anything about a shower- none of my friends have offered or brought it up or anything. Ugh.

I'm holding off on buying things from the registry until after the shower.... whenever that might be. I asked my grandmother if I should start picking things up over the course of the summer, and she said, "Ohh no! You're the first grandchild to have a baby- people will want to throw you a shower!" I just don't want to hold off on buying the things we need and then be running around in August trying to get everything in time! Gah! I feel guilty even asking questions about it though....

Is anyone else having a surprise shower?? How much do you know? How are you dealing with buying things?

TotallyNot_Isha · May 2011

I am, but I know when it is/accidently found out about it. But I am not going to tell anyone because they are working hard on it.

But, it's being given by my work so that makes it a little easier.

msm1379 · May 2011

Apparently my shower is going to be a surprise. I do know that my mom and BFF are hosting, outside of that I don't know anything! They did, however, ask me for a guest list, people I want there. But I know my mom has done some revising...adding some family members that I didn't think to invite. Such as aunts I haven't seen in years. My extended family doesn't really talk much.

Not knowing is driving me crazy. I've been trying to hold off on buying much of the stuff off my registry, it's hard though. I'm a planner and I feel really unprepared, even though my due date isn't until the end of August. Rationally I know I have time. But there have been a few items that I was able to get a great deal on that I just bought. But I made sure to mark them off the registry. I have bought some of the stuff that "you can never have too much" like bath wash, lotion, wipes, and a few small packs of diapers. It makes me feel better to have something . The biggest part that's annoying is that I registered for a lot of the decor items for the nursery, so I can't really decorate too much until after.

Assuming you registered, you can stalk your registry to get an idea when it's coming up. Between that and my DH usually works weekends, if he "magically" has a saturday or sunday off, I think I'll be able to figure it out.

mandyhall2882 · May 2011

Mine is not going to be a surprise, because my mom just isn't good at surprises Wink

My best childhood friend (who now lives in Las Vegas) just told me today that she might be able to make it to my shower next weekend after all... so that's a big surprise to me! Hmm maybe she shouldn't have told me and just showed up? That would have really been a surprise lol.

kkasper13 · May 2011

My shower is a surprise, too. I know that my sister is doing the majority of the hosting, and my dad is involved with the planning, too. That is the only shower I am having (other than work) so it will be family and friends. I was asked to send a guest list and I mostly used the list from my bridal shower last year. I know the shower is in the end of June. My sister told me that much. But that is all I know.. I am stalking my registry everyday to see what items have been bought. I am starting to freak out because my work shower is next week and then the other is in about a month and I feel like more should have been bought so far. There are just some items on the registry that we will need right away and a lot of the things bought won't be used right away. Oh well....

danni914 · May 2011

Mine is a surprise but I have figured out when it is because apparently I was a detective in another life. My sisters and my mom are throwing it and they did ask for a guest list. I essentially just gave them the list of all the women that were invited to my wedding with a few additions and deletions.

MrsCase1 · May 2011

im not saying this to hurt anyone's feelings but i do not understand the concept behind "surprise" showers. i do not see any benefit or excitement to it and i am actually a huge fan of surprises. just doesnt make sense to me. i'd be anxious, too.

msm1379 · May 2011

Mrs Case:
im not saying this to hurt anyone's feelings but i do not understand the concept behind "surprise" showers. i do not see any benefit or excitement to it and i am actually a huge fan of surprises. just doesnt make sense to me. i'd be anxious, too.

Honestly, I don't see the point in the surprise either. But I'm going along with it because I think my mom wanted it to be a surprise. I was perfectly happy with how my bridal shower was handled. I knew the date and time but not where it was being held. My mom & friends knew that if I knew the location I would try to be involved with the planning...that's just how I am.

cozylittlecave · May 2011

The ladies at my church are throwing me a surprise shower. I was told to expect it by a friend who (like me) detests surprises and thinks it's ridiculous. DH was under strict guidelines to tell me the date asap when they talked to him about it. They just emailed him today, and it looks like it'll be the 2nd weekend in July. I'm very grateful, but the last thing I want these days is all eyes & cameras on me without any warning or prep time.

RunningMom08 · May 2011

I think I may be having a surprise shower!! My H asked if I would like to go back home for a week in June to see our families. He as acting a little strange about it, and asked if I still had any friends in the area.

I think his family is throwing something together for me. I have no idea about a date or time, it would obviously be during that week I;m back home. I'm kind of excited because I never got a bridal shower or bachelorette party, so this will be fun!

Phil413 · May 2011

My family won't tell me anything. As far as I know, I'm not even getting one. Every time I mention it though, my mom and sister giggle. I'm going to stop talking about it, because I think I've made my point to them (many times), but I've made it very clear that I'm not a fan of being surprised. The bridal shower surprise was fun, but being a walking time bomb of emotions and hormones does not fare well with me being surprised. I've been stalking the registry lately because I know things tend to go faster when it's coming up soon.

meganjane86 · May 2011

Mrs Case:
im not saying this to hurt anyone's feelings but i do not understand the concept behind "surprise" showers. i do not see any benefit or excitement to it and i am actually a huge fan of surprises. just doesnt make sense to me. i'd be anxious, too.

Neither do I, but that's just how my family does it. I think if I were at all involved with the planning it would come off to them as gift grabby... they're pretty old school!

VESmith25 · May 2011

I'm having a 'surprise' shower as well. I'll be honest that I was feeling a little hurt b/c it's not that I want gifts but rather I just wanted to know my friends cared about me enough to think of having one. The only reason I know is b/c my husband wanted to know when I wanted to go register and I told him I didn't see a need to b/c we are not having a shower. He told me to not be so sure about that. He's in the know b/c my friends designated him to collect the addresses.

I'll also be having a "sip 'n see" at home in Georgia b/c my family there would like to do something for us and meet the baby when he comes.

marybeth05 · May 2011

If someone knew they were having a surprise shower it wouldn't be a surprise:)

DH's grandparents threw a surprise shower for us when we were pregnant with DD #1- We had no clue and it was so sweet of them!!

It was only family that was invited.

My friends threw me a shower that was family, friends, co-workers, etc.

Relax and enjoy!!!

workingurl21 · May 2011

mine is a surprise but my Aunt told me when it is because I was making other plans for that day. It's July 16, one month before my due date. I'm not worried though. If Bella comes early I already have a crib and a few oneise thats all I really need. if she comes when she is supose to I figure getting everything organized and getting whatever is left will keep my mind off the waiting and uncomfortable feelings. It will all be fine maybe your DH/SO supplied a list of friends? I know my DH has a part in this

Skibunny07 · May 2011

I'm having two "surprise" showers. I knew both sides of the family would throw me one. I know when they both are because DH let it slip but I know nothing other then that. One is this weekend. I actually don't even know which day it is this weekend but its at my parents house (an hour away) and DH said he had to tell me to get me down there or else I would have guessed anyways becuase he never just suggests going to my parents house haha.

The other one is June 26th and its at a local restaurant, again DH told me... he's terrible with keeping secrets from me. But thats all I know.

harri339 · May 2011

If you are registered and people start buying a bunch of stuff off the registry doesn't that kinda ruin the surprise? If all of a sudden one weekend a ton of stuff was purchased off my registry I would figure someone was throwing me a shower sometime soon.

kellie7 · May 2011

if i have a shower, it will sure be a surprise to me because as far as i know, no one is hosting one. i really didn't register for anything, so if someone throws me a shower, the guest are going to have issues buying gifts!

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