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Re: my "Stressed out (long read) Post

Why are there so many just hateful, mean, and just plain rude on these boards?  The reason we seek advice here is because we are all going through the same thing as mothers and we need help now and then.  We all make mistakes at times and see things from different points of view, so having different opinions to share from is a great benefit of this board.  This isn't a forum for judging people. 

However, when people call you names, like douchebag, and tell you you're selfish etc.  OR worse, there is the one lady who actually investigated into my profile and read my old posts to find something to pick on.  Wow!  all I can say is, do you have a life?  

It's a bit difficult to truly express something on a message board just as it is on an email.  That's why the best form of communication is face to face.  However, in a board like this, you do your best to communicate and share different thoughts and ideas without the need to judge, insult, or be rude.   and I see that happen a lot in these posts.  It's so dissapointing. 

 

Re: Re: my "Stressed out (long read) Post

  • here's one for you.  wipe your eyes and go somewhere else if you want rainbows and glitter shoved up your @ss. you have no idea what you've just brought upon yourself.

    have fun girls...

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  • If you don't want people looking at your old posts make your profile private.  I didn't read your OP so I have no idea what you're talking about.  People are so sensitive today.
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  • Not a forum for judging people but you're judging?
    Pot.
    Kettle.

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  • Yea!  I now have a great reason to not work.  This could be fun.

     Seriously - most of the girls here have been together since 1st tri, so there are relationships built and a lot of tongue in cheek.  If you lurk for a couple of days, you start to realize that it really is a fun place to hang out.  They will tell it like it is, but also have some fun.

    There are happy, low drama mom forums on the internet.  This is not one of them but you are not required to post here or read responses if you are offended.

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    Yea!  I now have a great reason to not work.  This could be fun.

     Seriously - most of the girls here have been together since 1st tri, so there are relationships built and a lot of tongue in cheek.  If you lurk for a couple of days, you start to realize that it really is a fun place to hang out.  They will tell it like it is, but also have some fun.

    There are happy, low drama mom forums on the internet.  This is not one of them but you are not required to post here or read responses if you are offended.

    Since when? I was sure it was required. 

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  • Oh, how I enjoy two "all you bitches are such bitches" posts in one day.  
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  • Posts like these are why it's a good idea to lurk for a while before drawing attention to yourself.
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    Oh you know, I think some people get a kick out of being snarky.  I've never understood it and I think it's silly.

    When you post on an online forum, you'll get various opinions.  Take it or leave it.  If people choose to be hateful then that's their problem.  I've learned from mostly lurking on these boards that if your opinion doesn't fall with the majority you'll get slaughtered.  Whatever.  I'm sure I'm about to get flamed.  Confused

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  • You know, for the most part this board is fun and the ladies here are very supportive.  That said, if you post here about how you're letting your 3 week old CIO or that you've started your 2 month old on solids, or some equally post about a major lapse in judgment and/or intelligence, you will get called out for it.  We all make dumb decisions sometimes, but this is definitely NOT the place to look for sympathy when you do.  And we're all moms here...we're constantly judging others' parenting choices.  Get used to it.  If you don't like it then leave.

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  • imageLovingBaz:
    imagezkat:

    There are happy, low drama mom forums on the internet.  This is not one of them but you are not required to post here or read responses if you are offended.

    Since when? I was sure it was required. 

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  • Don't ya just hate it when people give you an opinion when you ask for it?  You asked for people's thoughts, and their thoughts were that you were being ridiculous.   

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  • Allow me:

    imagecatherheath:

    Why are there so many just hateful, mean, and just plain rude on these boards?

    Because we are just terrible, horrible, mean biitches and you should take pity on everyone in our lives.

    imagecatherheath:
    The reason we seek advice here is because we are all going through the same thing as mothers and we need help now and then.

    Did you mean to say "we're all in the same boat?" Yes. Yes we are. 

    imagecatherheath:
    We all make mistakes at times and see things from different points of view, so having different opinions to share from is a great benefit of this board.  This isn't a forum for judging people.

    I am inclined and entitled to disagree, just as much as anyone else is entitled to give you a sarcastic response, and as much as you are entitled to get offended by it.

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    imagecatherheath:
    It's a bit difficult to truly express something on a message board just as it is on an email.  That's why the best form of communication is face to face.

    Then why don't you get back to your life and express yourself to your real friends face to face instead of ineffectively expressing yourself here and getting all butthurt when you're not a fan of the response you get?  

    imagecatherheath:
    However, in a board like this, you do your best to communicate and share different thoughts and ideas without the need to judge, insult, or be rude.

    No, that's what YOU do. That's not what everyone does.   

    imagecatherheath:
    It's so dissapointing. 

    Sorry we let you down!

  • Two of these post in one day.  All I can say is lurk more before posting.

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  • Cath - First of all despite the flames you recieved, you were given advice...you didn't care for it.  What really molded my cheese about your post (and previous ones) was your upity nose about daycare.  If you come here not to judge, WTH were those comments about?
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  • I got a lot of help and answers to my questions on this message board before and since my daughter was born. Yes, there is some people who answer nasty things for the fun of it but all you should do is brush it off. At least there is people who are there to help most of the time.
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  • I read your other post and it seemed like a lot of women were just trying to give you some perspective.  I find it interesting that you started this post essentially asking everyone to empathize with you but in your previous post you refused to empathize with your MIL.

    I'm still a semi-lurker on this board and yes sometimes you get responses that sting a little but you brush it off and move on (or even take a moment to reflect and realize that you might be wrong). 

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    I read your other post and it seemed like a lot of women were just trying to give you some perspective.  I find it interesting that you started this post essentially asking everyone to empathize with you but in your previous post you refused to empathize with your MIL.

    I'm still a semi-lurker on this board and yes sometimes you get responses that sting a little but you brush it off and move on (or even take a moment to reflect and realize that you might be wrong). 

    Exactly. You asked a question, and when people pointed out that you might be in the wrong (whoa, there!) you got upset. And now you want to put another post on here about how people aren't nice?

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  • I totally agree with you. Some women on here really need to relax
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    I totally agree with you. Some women on here really need to relax

    You tell 'em, sister.

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  • Well sucks to be you now doesn't it.

    If you don't want people on your profile make it private.  If you don't want to hear our rude, insulting, judgmental comments please feel free to take yourself elsewhere. 

    Public Forum, get over it your highness.

     

  • I ignored this last night but I think you thought that if you came to an internet forum of women we would automatically side with you.  We didn't, tried to give you reasons why.  Your original post came off selfish, again whether intentional or not, it did.  If you had lurked for any length of time before posting you would have realized that somebody was going to call you out on that post. You would have also known that name calling and disagreements happen all the time around here.

    If you want validation call your best friend or your mom.  Do not ask a bunch of strangers, all with differing experiences and then get hurt when they don't agree with you.

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