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is this horrible? *lurking*

nillian10nillian10
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to want my SO to get a 2nd job so i can SAH with the kiddos??

about us: we both work full time. he works for his uncle doing construction (not very good money / inconsistent work). i work for my sister's business doing sales (which i absolutely HATE, and still want to go back to nursing school). i get paid salary, which is nice becuase with all the doctor's appointments & stuff - it's flexible and i still get paid. we have a DS at home (15 months old) and a DD on the way (due at the end of august)
DD will be born with a congenital heart defect (CHD) and will undergo open heart surgery somewhere around 3 - 4 months of age. which is around the time i would return back to work if she wasn't needing surgery. therefore, i will need more time off of work. (i can do my work a little bit from home...)

i know i'm not going to want to leave her.. especially with her condition. my mom currently has DS 2 days a week, and my SO's aunt has him the other 3 (which there are problems there also...)

I just want to be with DS; and eventually BOTH of them when DD gets here. so am i being selfish? how do i address this to him? we definitely can't afford the cost of living with just his one job now - so he'd have to do something else, either 2 or 1 that pays more & is more consistent...

Sorry this is so long - does anyone have any recommendations? talk me through this..please!

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Re: is this horrible? *lurking*

  • JaysonandKristinJaysonandKristin member
    My son was born with a birth defect that required immediate surgery.  Due to this condition and the constant medical attention, DH and i did what was necessary to allow me to SAH.  You can PM if you'd like, as I'd prefer not to discuss in such a public forum.  But, if you can make it work with SO simply getting a 2nd job, I would broach the subject with him as soon as possible that way you guys have time to bank what you can and work out all the details before DD's birth.
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  • nillian10nillian10
    imageJaysonandKristin:
    My son was born with a birth defect that required immediate surgery.  Due to this condition and the constant medical attention, DH and i did what was necessary to allow me to SAH.  You can PM if you'd like, as I'd prefer not to discuss in such a public forum.  But, if you can make it work with SO simply getting a 2nd job, I would broach the subject with him as soon as possible that way you guys have time to bank what you can and work out all the details before DD's birth.


    Thank you. I sent you a PM!
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