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My husband had a heart attach last year on October and I've wanted to start a family. My concern is that my husband is not ready to have a baby because of his heart attack. Prior to his heart attack he talked about babies all the time. Is this normal? I have to say I'm just scared now to start a family because I don't want to stress him out. His heart attach was because of stress and the work life he has.
Also, I've heard horrible stories about when women are in labor. My mother in law told me not to worry because once you have the baby you forget all about what just happen. Is that true? I trully want to have a baby really bad. I can't wait to have a little me.
I work a lot and it's hard to talk to anyone else about this subject and I hope that someone can give me some ideas or what they have gone through labor.
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Re: Pregnancy help
I hear your concerns about your husband. I honestly don't have any advice there, but how has his health progressed since the heart attack? Is he in better shape and tending to his health and wellness needs?
As far as labor, are you a doula or not? Talking about what you do is not the same as promoting your business so you can answer the question. I am concerned that you are in the childbirth business and don't know the answer to this question.
This.
And also just deleting your posts isn't going to help. It's actually just going to make it worse.
TB may have deleted it since I think a few peeps reported it.
If not, yeah, we call it a "dirty delete" for a reason.
Regarding my husband. His better, but his heart will never heal. Because we were in the emergency room for over 4 hrs because nobody thought he had a heart attach they damaged his heart. Every second you have a heart attach and the doctors don't take you in your heart will be damaged in some way or another. He can't ever run for a long period of time because he get tired very fast and because his on blood thiners his affraid to play basketball or soccer because he can get hurt badly.
I'm not a Doula, I know a lot about babies and what to expect in the first year of having a baby. I know a lot about how to take care of your body when you are pregnant, baby poop, etc and I do know about what happenes during labor. But I've never saw or experience someone give birth to a baby. A doula is more of taking care of your newborn right after you give birth. A labor Doula helps you give birth and helps you during pregnancy. She's their with you during labor. I have girls that work for me that are nurses that are Doulas for my clients and they only help with their newborn, but not Labor Doulas. I hope that makes sense and I don't want you to think I'm advertising. I just don't know how to respond to your question in a different way.
I work a lot and I just don't have that many girl friends that I can talk to. I know it's pathetic, but this is my life and I thought this website can help me. If anyone takes this the wrong way again, I'm just going to remove myself from this post. I just don't have the time for women to bulling me when all I'm trying is to talk to other women.
You have to wait until you're both ready. Have you talked to your husband about it? Has he been able to reduce stress and find a better work life balance? If not, I'd put off having a baby until these things happen.
Also, having a baby because you can't wait to have a little me is a bad idea. You have no idea what your child will be like (personality, emotionally, or physically) and getting it built up in your head that the baby will just be an extension of you is doing it a disservice. You want it to grow and develop individually and become its own little person.
My pregnancy has been horrible, I'm actually looking forward to labor even though I know it's going to be really super tough. Maybe pick up some honest books or videos on the topic. Every labor is different but I'm of the thought that you should be prepared for the worst, so if the best happens it is a pleasant surprise.
We have talked about having a baby before his heart attack and he was ready to start a family. Then he had a heart attack and i didn't bring it up until a month ago. He told me he wasn't ready at the moment because he still feels like it's not a good time at this time especially when his still going back to rehab for his heart and our lifes are so busy that he thinks it's not a good time and having a baby will stress him out. I have to tell you I was surpised to hear that and I was upset, but of course I didn't want to show it to him especially when his trying to recover. His heart will never recover to normal, but his work is stressfull and I don't want to stress him out to have a baby. I want both of us to be ready. I mean I'm ready, but if his not, your right we both need to be ready.
His trying to manage his work life to not be as stressful. The only thing that's helping him right now is by working out everyday.
Thank you. Your comment helped me a lot. I don't have that many girl friends to talk to about this. Good luck on your delivery
this.
if you're not a doula, change your screen name. it is seriously affecting your credibility at the moment given that you are asking questions regarding pregnancy and childbirth.
Doula: 1. A non-medical assistant in childbirth. A doula is not the father but is usually a woman who is experienced in childbirth. The role of the doula is to provide the mother with physical and emotional assistance before, during, or after childbirth. Also known as a birth assistant, birth companion, childbirth assistant, or labor support professional.
Well, she said she's not one. But not all doulas are for labor...
On the other hand, another screen name is probably a good idea.