OH. MY. GOD.

soontobehimes · May 2011

This is a mother in law rant.

Here's our two text conversations fromt he past two days.

Yesterday:

MIL: What r u all doing today? Do you need to run errands or need help with something?

Me: I just got done at the gym.

MIL: Oh ok.

MIL: (an hour later) R u home?

Me: Yes.

MIL: Care if I come over?

Me: That's fine

Today:

First, my brother in law called and asked if I wanted to come to breakfast with them but I said no thanks.

MIL: Want us to bring you something to eat?

Me: No thanks, I ate cereal.

MIL: ok. Thought we woould come out for a little bit.

Let me just end this by saying that she saw LO Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday, and now today. So she's not deprived of her. Indifferent

Amzy · May 2011

sounds like my MIL. does yours complain about everything you do with LO??

kilissa · May 2011

I think it's sweet. My MIL has flown in twice to see LO and is actually going to rent our house so DH and I can buy a new one and she can be closer to DS. I have a feeling we will be seeing them at least that much maybe more. I'm thankful they are wanting to be active grandparents. I loved having my grandparents in my life when I was little.

carinamarie77 · May 2011

Sounds like she really wants to help you out and be around her grandbaby. Obvs, you know her better than I do but she sounds sweet...I wish my mom lived close by to bring me food and hold my son while I took a shower and, holy crap, you got to go to the gym?? Lucky lady!

amy259 · May 2011

Yeah, it's nice that she wants to see the baby and all but if you're like me you want to be left alone as well. I'd tell her I have some things to do and would be in and out of the house all day the next time she wants to come over. My MIL, SIL and her two kids are coming to stay with us for 20 days (technically 18 since 2 of the days are flying in/out days) in July. Not looking forward to it but they are coming from overseas. Call me a B if you want but when it's my family at least I can tell them I need to be by myself/make your own food/clean up your mess...

soontobehimes · May 2011

carinamarie77:
Sounds like she really wants to help you out and be around her grandbaby. Obvs, you know her better than I do but she sounds sweet...I wish my mom lived close by to bring me food and hold my son while I took a shower and, holy crap, you got to go to the gym?? Lucky lady!

She is sweet. And I love her. But, it's just TOO much! I'm not the type of person to be around others constantly. It's very overbearing.

Btw, my mom watches LO for an hour 3x a week so I can go to the gym.

EmandChris08 · May 2011

I can sooo relate. MIL is totally intrusive and comes over all the time... sometimes unannounced. And then acts annoyed if LO is napping or needs to be fed because she can"t hold him.

She means well, but I just need my space and sometimes I feel like she doesn't get it.

The ILs are begging us to go away for a weekend so they can take care of him. I am so not even close to being ready for that, and it's also not really feasible right now since I EBF.

mrsgail · May 2011

Sounds like my own mother. She intentionally leaves stuff at me house so she can come back the next day. Or if i ever mention something i need to go buy, she calls the next day saying she happened to be somewhere and saw said item and needs to bring it by. Since it's my mom and not MIL I can call her out on it much easier. I just wish if she wanted to see LO she would just say so rather than come up with some reason that I can't say no.

MarchABC · May 2011

amy259:

Yeah, it's nice that she wants to see the baby and all but if you're like me you want to be left alone as well. I'd tell her I have some things to do and would be in and out of the house all day the next time she wants to come over. My MIL, SIL and her two kids are coming to stay with us for 20 days (technically 18 since 2 of the days are flying in/out days) in July. Not looking forward to it but they are coming from overseas. Call me a B if you want but when it's my family at least I can tell them I need to be by myself/make your own food/clean up your mess...

This exactly! Both my MIL and mother do the same thing but with my mom I can say no if I need to. I rarely do that, though, because I like my mom's company and enjoy watching her with DS. With MIL, if she asks to come by, I have to say yes and sometimes being with her feels really forced and uncomfortable. I feel your pain. For me, it's gotten easier over time. I feel less protective of DS when she holds him but I can still only do a few hours at a time, max. GL with today and future advances. I think Amy is right. Sometimes you might just have to lie.

beeunit · May 2011

I totally and completely understand how you feel. My MIL does the same thing and it drives me up a wall. She'll text and say "I haven't seen Aaron in forever. Mind if I come by?"......forever? It's been 2 days.

hispenguin · May 2011

At least your MIL shows an interest in your LO. Mine has only seen/held DD three times since she's been born. I practically have to force her to hold the baby.

sheyscorona · May 2011

ALL OF IT.... OMG

My MIL lives in another province, which is connected to us by a ferry... which her DH works on. So when she found out we were preggo, it was her final reason to get an apt over here... she is here every second week... and for those 7 days... its daily texts, do you need help, can I come over.

I never was big on anything family, and it seems that ever since having a baby, my own mother and DH's wont eff-off. DH and I even got into a fight over it... he doesnt understand why I wouldnt want her here everyday to help me....

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