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Attachment Parenting
if you dont BF in front of male relatives...
is it because THEY feel uncomfortable or you do? i wish i could whip it out at family dinners but my brothers think its the grossest thing there is... just wait until they have babies too and i can nurse with their wives!
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Re: if you dont BF in front of male relatives...
My brother thinks it's gross, too. While I try to be super modest about it, I don't leave the room all the time, more than anything to try and get my brother used to it. There were times when DS was a baby and there was a lot of family that we did leave the room... mainly because we both needed the break. Now that DS is older I don't hardly ever leave... but he also doesn't nurse as much!
I remember sitting down to nurse DD1 at DS's birthday party. DD was a few weeks old at the time. Everyone left the room except for my teenage brother and his girlfriend.
Over time, though, no one left any more, and in fact my dad got really mad at someone who said something about me NIP at the state fair. I was always discrete, though I did not use a blanket. I personally wasn't going to spend my time locked away from people. DD1 nursed literally around the clock.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
I have no real issue NIP, or in front of my family... but I don't in front of (most of) DH's family. He made a really big deal about NIP before J was born, and I just feel like they would be uncomfortable, which makes me uncomfortable... vicious cycle.
I have BFed in front of his aunt and grandmother (who both BFed their babies) and if somebody walked in I wouldn't be upset.) FIL did come in (to our house) while I was pumping, and I tossed a blanket over... but I wasn't comfortable unhooking it all with him in the room... I think I was more awkward about it than he was...
My house = Bf'ing wherever and whenever
Their house = being a little more discrete
(fortunately we live very far away, and they mostly come to see us on our turf)
My father, mother and sister are 100% cool with bf'ing and could care less. DH's family (FIL, MIL, BIL and SIL) are ill-informed, squeamish and awkward about it. I am modest as possible, but I don't feel comfortable squirreling myself away, and DH basically forbid it anyway. I don't relish in them being uncomfortable, but it's not going to harm them in any way and being a little more in-tune with the process might be a very good thing. I have gone into the bedroom to nurse in certain situations, but there is just something that feels wrong about that to me (not passing judgement on how others handle it, to each their own). I feel a little resentful afterward, even if it was my decision
BFP #2 12/26/11 ~ EDD 9/6/12 ~ MMC discovered on 1/27/12 @ 8w1d (measured 6w2d)
BFP #3 8/10/12 ~ EDD 4/23/13 ~ MMC discovered on 9/13/12 @ 8w2d (measured 6w6d)
the phrases "whip it out" and "intimate thing" scream anti-public bf'ing to me.
Francesca Pearl is here! Josephine Hope is almost 3!
Well I don't really fit into this category...When Isaac was a new squish he had a tongue tie that no one picked up on until I had massive cracking and mastitis. The cracks were so bad that it hurt like crazy to put on a bra/shirt/anything that would touch me. My in-laws of course wanted to come over and see their grandson....
So they saw him, and me in all my topless glory. I would have cared more if it hadn't hurt so d@mn much but after that I kind of got over the nursing in front of FIL stuff. I'll nurse in front of my sister's husband but not really in front of DH's BIL. Just my preference- don't know him that well and I usually need a break from everyone at that point anyway- I've actually only seen him once since Isaac was born anyway.