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2nd Trimester
PhoebeJones3
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Just had to share with someone.
PhoebeJones3
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This may be a bit long, so I apologize in advance.
My husband and I had wanted to find out the gender - then when it was about two weeks from the date that we were going to find out, he changed his mind.
I've always wanted to know if the baby I have been carrying is a boy or a girl, I'm too impatient for anything else.
The day before mother's day I found out I have a little boy. I knew it was going to be a huge thing to try and keep from my husband, but I wanted to let him have his surprise.
Along with all of this I have about 5 other friends who are all pregnant and due within two months of each other. So far three out of the three have exactly the gender that they wanted. One boy, and two girls.
Its not that I am anti-boy or anything like that. Its just that ever since I was a little I've only had it in my head that I would have little girls. Its going to take a little while for me to get used to change gears.
After finding out that so far everyone has what they 'wants' I was really jealous. I've always wanted a little girl and was very shocked and didn't know how to react about having a boy. So I had a really rough day and I was crying and very upset - and obviously I couldn't talk to my husband about some of the stuff I was going through because it would ruin his surprise.
He decided that it wasn't worth NOT knowing the gender and having to keep me walled off in isolation about so many wonderful and sometimes some not so great things. So finally I was able to tell him that we was going to have a son, and how I was a little upset about not having a girl - then of course I felt terrible about feeling that way so that led to more crying. I'm so thankful that I have my husband, he always is my source of strength when I can't seem to find an once within myself.
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Re: Just had to share with someone.
Awe, don't be upset. My first was a boy and he's so much fun! I guess a girl would be fun too but I like my boy. He's almost 3 but he's never been really "needy". And he's definitely a Mama's Boy! I'm sure one day you will have your sweet girl! But for now, just be thankful that your boy is healthy!
I like having a boy because I can refer to both DH and DS as, "my boys". If I have a girl this time I'll have to come up with something else to say. lol. I REALLY want a girl also but if we have a boy we already have a name picked and I'll be just as happy.
Awww....I'm sorry! I am also still a little upset that this baby is a boy, even though I already have a fabulous daughter. I wanted her to have a sister, a close relationship...a best friend. I guess because that's what I always wanted, not the older brother that I have. We are not at all close, and I wish we could be.
Maybe, as time passes, you will feel happy to have a son on the way. It took me about a month, and sifting through dozens of borrowed baby boy clothes, to feel a little at peace. Although DH and I want to BRU last weekend, and I actually cried when I saw a baby girl dress.
I don't think it is bad that you feel that way. When I had my first (2.5yrs ago) everyone said it was going to be a boy, we did the string test and everything. I had picked out all my nursery decorations for a boy. Luckly we didn't go ahead and buy them. When the ultrasound tech said it's a Girl, me and my husband were both shocked and disappointed. It took about a month or two for both of us to accept the thought of a little girl. Believe it or not my husband accepted it first.
I always thought I wanted a boy first to protect his little sister, and my husband's life revolves around hunting season's so he wanted a boy. Two and half years later we can't imagine having a boy first and not our precious little Girl. She loves to go hunting with daddy as much as she loves to go shopping with mommy. It's the best of both world's, she is no doubt a little tomboy, that loves the outdoors and four-wheeling, but she still twirls and prisses around when we put a dress on for church.
After a painful miscarriage in December, I am 12 weeks pregnanat and my little girl is going to be a great mother hen and very protective of her baby sibling whatever God blesses us with.
Thanks girls - I really appreciate all of the thoughtful words and encouragement.
I know in time this will all be a thing of the past, but I'm still trying to deal with it and come to terms.
I know I will love my little boy, but I'm sure I won't really realize it until he gets here. Then I'll forget all about it.