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Baby blues/sad about pregnancy ending?

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If you had them, how long did it last?  I'm on my 6th day as a new mom, and I have such intense emotions I feel like I'm drowning in them at times.  I love my son and am overjoyed that he is here.  Yet I am going through this intense grieving about the pregnancy being over - which is weird because much of the time I didn't really enjoy being pregnant, and I was 12 days late and sooooo ready to be done.  But a day after it was over, it was like bam... super nostalgia, and I feel like I've lost this precious time of my life that I can't get back.  Did anyone else experience this?  What can you do to ease the emotional roller coaster?
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  • jenny1523jenny1523 member
    Yes! I was super emotional the whole first week.I cried every morning when my husband left for work and every night when he got home. I was so overwhelmed. But he was very supportive and reassuring. If he thought I was crazy he never showed it! Then week 2 came and I felt better and cried less...hang in there, you'll feel better soon! The best thing I read was on here, I can't remember who said it, its ok to grieve your past life...that's exactly what I felt I was doing. Anyway, LO is almost 4 weeks now and the time has flown by even though that first week felt like it would never end, and I feel like my old self but better because I get to spend my day with the most precious baby! Also, if you can and feel up to it, try and get out sometime even for just a walk, that helped me alot.
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  • cabartoshcabartosh member
    Yes!  I think it hit me about day 3.  We were home and all by ourselves with the little guy.  I just kept thinking about this miracle of growing somebody - this somebody - and I wanted that back I guess.  It was such a new feeling having him on the outside to care for when I had been doing such a fantastic job of keeping him safe right where he was.  That feeling changed into wanting to get pregnant again right away (not in the plans!) then back into those nostalgic thoughts of being preggo with DS again.  It could have been spurred on by how fussy he was then.  I remember asking a friend who was due a month before me if she had those feelings when she came to see us when he was about 4 weeks old...  They get fewer and further between.  Now I just get the thoughts about wanting a second baby!
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  • iamgraceiamgrace member

    the first week is so overwhelming.

    My emotions would dip every evening around 5 and I would find myself wallowing in whatever I was worried about, sad about, whatever. This ended exactly 7 days after I gave birth.

    My advice is to just ride it out.  Be honest with yourself, your H and anyone else who asks how you are feeling.  Talk it out and understand it is a normal part of post-partum.  If these feelings continue, or you find you are avoiding things that you would normally enjoy you should seek help.  Tell your Dr. that you don't feel right and you want to feel good again.

    Baby blues are normal and will go away.  Post partum depression won't usually go away on its own requires outside help.

    Hope you feel better soon.

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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    I think it's very normal for that. I was so sad about my pregnancy ending that I couldn't go on any boards where people are trying or had pregnancy tickers. That didn't last very long though. I still miss it, but not as strongly as I did shortly after he was born.
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  • iamgraceiamgrace member
    I also want to add that I STILL miss being pregnant!  I'm not sad about it, but I for sure miss that time in my life and I think I always will. I can't wait to be pregnant again.  I hope I am "over it" after that because I don't think I want more than two kids!
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  • amanda_430amanda_430

    I was sad probably about 3 weeks...but it kept lessening every day. the first few days, it didn't take much to set me off. I walked around the house thinking how crazy this was the house my daughter would grow up in! Just talk to everyone about your feelings. I told my obgyn, ped, and husband... He still asks me if I'm doing okay.

      I miss being pregnant and can't believe I said that. It's so special and you have no idea until it's over. The anticipation, planning, feeling the baby kick and listening heartbeat. Labor wasn't so bad as I thought it would be...at the time it did though. I want another child in next year!

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  • Erin2903Erin2903 member
    I cried a lot in the first two weeks. Sometimes I had no idea why and sometimes it was because I was so overwhelmed. But around week 3 it got better for me. I am just now starting to feel a little sad about not being pregnant. Like a pp said, it's such a special time and I didn't fully realize/appreciate it all until now.
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