Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Anyone not going to try to induce?
I think that's a completely reasonable choice.
Since you dilated all the way during your first induction, a second induction would probably be faster and easier than the first. But inductions can be rough and I can certainly understand wanting to skip straight to a c/s in that scenario. It just depends on what you feel most comfortable with. There's no right or wrong answer.
I had an induced VBAC (that was successful). So, my only experiences were with a CS and a successful induction. For me, the induction (though the pit. contractions were INSANE) was still better than my CS experience. Now, had the induction ultimately resulted in a CS, I might think differently. But the fact that I had the vaginal birth as a result of the induction made it worth it for me.
Bottom line, I totally see both sides in your situation and think that either are valid choices for you. So, go with your gut and it will be the right choice for you!
Hi Mama,
I totally would NOT call you a "big baby". The risks for uterine rupture increase dramatically with induction vs. letting your body labor naturally. If you want to kick start your labor, there are many "natural" and I only say that since they don't involve drugs.
The one that I did that seem to work with my second son was to have lots of sex. It wasn't so much the sex that got the labor going as it was the big OOOOOsss
I went into labor about 5 hours after (I think I had about 5 orgasms in a 3 hours period). If I go late with this baby, I will be doing the same thing to see if I can get labor kick started 
For babies that are sunny side up, there are positions you can do to try to get your bebe to move/rotate before and during your labor. I'm pretty sure you can google em.
Good luck mama!!!
I ended up going into labor on my own, but there were several times it looked like I might be developing pre-e and I thought induction would come up. So I didn't have to deal with it but I thought a lot about it. I was not strictly anti-induction, but it would depend on my bishop score, i.e. I'd want them to check me out and see if it looks like an induction is likely to succeed or not.
Really, there's no such thing as "being a big baby" when it comes to giving birth, IMO. (Well, other than macrosomia
) There are no guarantees, no easy ways, no high roads, no universals. All the options have risks, and all the options have positive sides. You've just gotta do what you believe is right FOR YOU.
I can definitely understand where you're coming from. I think if I get to a certain point and it doesn't look like my cervix is cooperating (I never dilated past 1 the first time), I might just go straight for a c-section rather than attempting induction.
Part of my issues with my first birth was the "out-of-control" feeling with everything. I think if I get to a point where it's unlikely that I will go on my own within the time that my MW would like to see me go (she's given me a while, so it's not unreasonable), and where induction might fail... I think just being able to feel like I'm making a choice might be the way to go.
I was induced at 42 weeks with my 1st and was very scared that my 2nd would go that far also. However, my water broke spontaneously at 41 weeks and I had a sucessfull VBAC. If I had not gone into labor within a few days my practice was going to attempt a foley induction. Good luck, anything can happen!